Husband has been smoking marijuana daily for many years--has no motivation or emotional responses

You are a typical weak Christian who can't even live up to the Bibles teachings. Judge not. Remember? Pathetic weak little worm

Judging by his emotionlessness and bouts for anger, it sounds like hr could be undiagnosed bipolar and could be self medicating with weed

All of you have problems and its normal weather the wife or the husband..... The thing is pot affects people differently some people can be productive whilst high and others can just feel lazy and not want to do sh*t. For those who do not want to give up on their pot smoking husbands tell them to stop the pot or you are gone this is a hard decision for the pot smoker but if he/she truly wants to be with you they will make the right decision. Sometimes pot is the problem sometimes it's not.

Are you still looking for someone to talk to going through the same thing? I just moved out from the same situation everyone here is describing and im really struggling!!!!!!

I was going through this too - just left. I'm really struggling after what he put me through. Are you doing better.... can you give me some advice? Thank you so much!!!!

Im smoking for 43 yrs..I have more $ them i can spend..I was an actor for 15 yrs..im 57 yrs old and in Great shape..I think your hubby is just a jerkoff.who dont love you ..Get out

I agree with you. Sound more like a loser with no motivation in life that anything else.

Wow, did you just advocate an extra martial affair?
Really?
How do people like you sleep at night, how can you be so judgmental and blind? Blanket statements like this and the obvious scorn you feel are not healthy, please get some help.

You put yourself through that sh*t, you chose the person and suffered because you chose poorly, its not your partners fault that you have different aspirations.

The people that posted that pot affects people differently are so true.  My husband and I went through college 'high' all the time and we graduated with, the both of us, honors in the subjects that we took.  It really depends on the motivation and determination you put your mind to before, during and after - yes, I agree.  Weed can do all the things you say it does/doing to your husband but keep in mind it's a mind-set as well, you can be motivated to do things high.  I and my husband keep up our loving relationship still and have for over 15 years and almost no days go by that we are not high.

 

Some people just use excuses for their lack of motivation and blame on whatever is available and that would be the #1 choice to blame.  If you have never tried it then you don't really know what it does to you or doesn't do to you - remember it affects everyone differently.

 

Hope this helps

Hi, I am at the end of the line now with my partner of 15yrs! Dont really know what to do anymore. He is 42 and I am 37, we have 3 children. I have been fighting this battle for many years now, with the same old argument and the same old sh*t. He has been smoking marijuana since I met him, the first 5yrs we had a great relationship, had 3 wonderful children. I was happy to do all the housework while he went out to work everyday, he is a hard worker, earns for his family. Now the past years its been a nightmare, I now work part time and go to universitiy to study, to do something for myself, but he is not interested, he comes home from work smokes his weed sleeps on the couch all night, wont do any housework, help with the kids, I have to nag him every morning to get up for work, he seems to think because he goes to work, then he shouldnt do anything else! We have no sex life as he never comes to bed as he smokes his weed all night, and has no interest in anything the kids and I have done for day to day, its as if he is in a world of his own and has no interest in us at all! I feel so lonley in this relationship and eveytime I try to talk to him about it , it ends in huge rows and he makes me feel like a selfish cow because he is tired after working long hours for his family! The same rows over and over again. He really makes me feel that I am the problem, when im exhausted everyday and cannot cope with everything family life and work! Is it really me???

Side effects of long-term intensive use and regulate marijuana lung disease include chronic cough, runny nose, nasal congestion, lack of motivation, decreased sex drive, a few extra kilos, and potentially several cancers.

  Hi Ladies, wow, I came upon this thread researching pot addiction because I have 2 boys that graduated high school fine, but now in their 19/21, they smoke oil constantly.  I tried to be a cool understanding dad, but im frustrated....

Anyhow, I am 49 and smoked pot in high school and off/on in my twenties before all the mandatory tests at work.  but I always worked hard and had goals, I married my wife in 1989 and she was in college to be a teacher....  she didnt know that I smoked pot and said that she would divorce my ass if I did.....  so I stopped smoking pot, worked hard and climbed the corporate ladder.... after 3 layoffs and losing my 6 figure salary,  we are going strong 25 years later.......  if a man treats you badly in any way, get out of the relationship!  I tell my wife she is beautiful and that I love her at least 3 times a day, every day........ no matter if she is heavy or thin, before or after having kids, she is just as beautiful as the day I met her!  thats what you deserve too.......  women are amazing and should be respected and praised for bing the goddesses that they are!  Anyway, whew, I got carried away.......  good luck ladies, dump the losers and never forget, you have the upper hand, unless they are gay!  Dave

run run run

Well I'm astounded to read all these posts because this is all my experiences too.I am with a marijiuna user who has been smoking for the last 20 years.He occasionally dabbles in harder stuff like Estacy, Crack Cocaine and Cocaine itself.We have been together nearly 30 years and in the last ten years he has added another addiction to his drug one which is Porn.It started with online viewing chat lines sext texting and now culminating in massage parlours... He has consistently shut me out for the last ten years by insisting I don't look him in the eye whilst having sex all of the above pastimes and now over the last year he has told me he wants out of the relationship altogether he has totally emotionally detached himself from me and over the last ten years he has kept all manner of things secret big things small things it does not matter I was never privy to anything.He threatened to beat me up about three weeks ago when he dumped me for the 6th time this year and now goes about happy as Larry as he does not speak to me on any level even though we have 3 kids - I now realise (not too late) that he had left me emotionally a long time ago I was just the fool on the receiving end of this man' bad behaviour- He was not an honourable Husband he was a man who choose a different path to walk in life the 1%'s I call them because they want to live an emotionally detached life from everyone else the don't want happy Husband and Wife Coupledom a WE as so to speak they want a solitary life of simple humble living smoking weed drinking vodka and getting sexual pleasure from the porn industry.No emotional connection EVER its almost the debauched life of a monk - so anyone reading this remember we all choose our own path our own destiny don't be too sad for what you never really had in the first place, nothing you could do could change the course of their life accept it don't be angry and don't show anger when you see them just view it as the body walking around but the mind long since gone a shell of the former let them have the life they want without interuption but seek out a new unchartered path for yourself I know somewhere out there on that great mystical horizon of life lies a new connection a new person who wants to connect and give love and feel love and be no keeper of secrets a new life waiting for me and you .......