I myself am a cutter, and have stepped back to evaluate why i do it. Many say it is for control over when & why you feel the pain - you're trying to control at least something in your spiraling-out-of-control life. It can also be to feel something - many depressed often feel numb & cut to try to feel something. There are also those who cut for attention, and i do not believe you are one of those. Personally, I do it so the physical pain outweighs the emotional & I can focus on the physical, ignoring the emotional - like the pinching yourself when getting an injection technique. The best way to find out why you do it is to sit down & write down everything that is wrong, when you cut, what you feel after, and what happened to make you cut - this way you can find out what triggers the cutting & what emotions are triggered; inevitably making a connection. Cutting happens for very personal reasons, and no one can tell you why you cut.
Alley.
P.S Hey people out there? I'ma need some help stopping cutting, so... Yeah, much appreciated :)
Alley.
P.S Hey people out there? I'ma need some help stopping cutting, so... Yeah, much appreciated :)
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hey i used to cut myself and i try my hardest not too. when i feel like cutting myself i call up all of my trust worthy friends and tell them my problems and seek comfort. sometimes ur friends can be the best therapy. go for a walk somewhere safe where there are no knives. find something you like doing whether its listening to music (not rap or heavy stuff) because if you listen to the hard stuff it will make you more angry. punch a pillow. get some news paper and rip it up. play a racing game on ur game system and make the tires screech. because if u take ur anger out on those things that i just mentioned atleast ur not doing it to urself. i know stuff like that works for me and i know if you look hard enough there will be something out there for you too. good luck and i hope atleast some of that would work for you. :-)
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I've been cutting myself since I was 11 .. and im 15 now, going on 16 in august '10 .... I went threw therapy for a while andhad stopped for a few months...plus I had lost relationships because my boyfriends wud give up on me... Now that im 15 im in a real relationship, going on 5 months and im afraid of loosing him. But latly I've been way too overwhelmed and started cutting again...no matter how much I want to stop I can't... what shud I do? I've tried distracting myself by playing instruments, chatting wit friends, even reading books but its never enuff and at the end of the nite I have to cut myself.... its been a week and I can't stop.... what shud I do now? .. I feel like im out of choices... "/ help?
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I do it too coz i am fat and hate my self! my life is fallling apart, i did on my arm and my mum found out, i promised i wouldnt do it again but there are new cuts on my leg! help! o.O ?
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I am 28 yrs old and i cut myself also. I just did it about 5 minutes ago i hate it but it makes me feel good afterward especially if i have a bad day or i feel i don't have control over any situation such as when i argue with my bf. When i do it i feel i have gained some control over myself. I want to stop but its hard but i'm keep trying and i hope yall keep trying also.
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hi im 12 and i have been cutting for about a year now and i have had to grow up fast and no one knew about it even in the summer when i went to the pool all the time keeping my arms wide open....no one cared about me....i mainly cut because of the stress of my sisters fighting and my sisters never talked and they havent for 2 years and theres other stuff but i dont feel like i can say it.........so one day at school i found out that my friend had the same problem and she told the school counsiler and yes they told her parents but she said it was the best thing she couldve done..........so i decided that i needed help because i couldnt stop it on my own...so i told my guidence counsiler and it was prob the hardest thing i could have ever done but i had my best friend with me the whole time and she called my mom and my mom texted me when i was in class and said 'i love you and that will never change' so now its just a thing with me and my mom my dad doesnt know, my brother, my sisters, or even her friends or grandparents and im also in thereaphy and i havent cut in a week but im feeling a lot better but i have my knife thing that i used to cut wrapped in plastic wrap so when things are wrongi dont just do it on impulse, this time when im unwraping it i have time to think abotu what im doing and i can calm down...............hope this helps :-)
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Basically, everyone needs to just knock it off.
The first time I cut was in third grade. I'm 19 now and don't have any room even left on my arms to even cut anywhere. It's not worth ending up like me. I have scars covering my forearms, near my shoulders and my thighs, and It's the most embarassing thing I have to live with everyday.
And since I've been doing it for more than 5 years, It's so ingrained into my way of thinking that I can't stop. You really don't know what you're getting yourself into.
The first time I cut was in third grade. I'm 19 now and don't have any room even left on my arms to even cut anywhere. It's not worth ending up like me. I have scars covering my forearms, near my shoulders and my thighs, and It's the most embarassing thing I have to live with everyday.
And since I've been doing it for more than 5 years, It's so ingrained into my way of thinking that I can't stop. You really don't know what you're getting yourself into.
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I used to cut on myself all the time when I was younger. Around the age of 17-18 I was diagnosed bipolar. I've recently been diagnosed with boderline personality disorder. My therapist told me when I was younger that some people cut to have "control". Which makes sense to me now.. I always felt out of control especially with the mood swings. No one knew what was going on and neither did I. I cut myself to "control" the pain I felt.. or to try and "control" situations I was in. I randomly cut myself every once in a while when my depression gets really bad and out of hand. Sometimes I think it's a cry for help because everything is a whirlwind and I just want it to stop.
Find out what stresses you out.. realize that you can control how you feel.. no one can make you feel anything unless you let them. Bad situations and "lows" won't last forever.. but the scars from cutting will. Reach out to someone close or call a hotline/crisis center. You know your better than cutting otherwise you would be here asking for help.. don't put yoursel through it anymore. The first step is realizing you have a problem and need help.. the second is reaching out to get that help.. and by doing this you are already on your way. Don't give up!
Find out what stresses you out.. realize that you can control how you feel.. no one can make you feel anything unless you let them. Bad situations and "lows" won't last forever.. but the scars from cutting will. Reach out to someone close or call a hotline/crisis center. You know your better than cutting otherwise you would be here asking for help.. don't put yoursel through it anymore. The first step is realizing you have a problem and need help.. the second is reaching out to get that help.. and by doing this you are already on your way. Don't give up!
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Cutting can be rather addicting because your body releases endorphins whenever you cut. Because of this, your brain immediately starts to think "Cutting= Happiness" So your first instinct is to cut (even if you know it's not okay) Some Therapists and Psychiatrist refer to this as Self Therapy. Unfortunately there are no ways to make you magically stop immediately.
When I was a cutter myself, what I was suggested to do was either squeeze onto an ice cube or have a hair elastic around my wrists and snap it whenever I feel the need to cut. (I find the second one helps a little more, but it is still very hard to stop cutting, you need to retrain your brain to stop cutting)
My reaction to hearing someone cut isn't "Wow this person just wants attention" it's more "What made this person so distressed to the point that they had to cut themselves?" And maybe that's what you need to find out yourself, is what drove you to cut yourself. I am not saying "Go cut yourself!" when I say this but what I suggest to be safe from now on is, whenever you are cutting yourself...Disinfect the razor or whatever first and make sure to disinfect your cut as well once you are done.
I do hope this helps :-D
When I was a cutter myself, what I was suggested to do was either squeeze onto an ice cube or have a hair elastic around my wrists and snap it whenever I feel the need to cut. (I find the second one helps a little more, but it is still very hard to stop cutting, you need to retrain your brain to stop cutting)
My reaction to hearing someone cut isn't "Wow this person just wants attention" it's more "What made this person so distressed to the point that they had to cut themselves?" And maybe that's what you need to find out yourself, is what drove you to cut yourself. I am not saying "Go cut yourself!" when I say this but what I suggest to be safe from now on is, whenever you are cutting yourself...Disinfect the razor or whatever first and make sure to disinfect your cut as well once you are done.
I do hope this helps :-D
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I have been self inflicting pain on myself for 7 years, I've gone from cutting, scratching, burning, piercing etc. It's not something I want to do but its all I have at alot of times. I can't talk to my mom mostly because she's the problem. I burned my arm with a car cigarette lighter in the same spot 4 times, it swelled up and got infected, the teachers at school noticed it and turned me into the state. I had to meet with a social worker, and she ended up telling my parents. I thought it would be better for them to know maybe they would change and I wouldn't feel alone, but it really didnt it only got worse. I have tried getting help but everyone I talk to thinks its an attention thing, so I've pretty much given up on getting help.
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To be helped you need to know why your doing it and what triggers it, for me its my mom and girls at school. The only way I can fix it is stay away from those girls and not talk to my mom. Once you figure out what is causing you to do this you can fix the situation and hopefully that will work. During the time of fixing this there are many hotlines that will help you get through this when ever you feel the urge to cut I suggest calling and talking to one of their reps. its very helpful. 1-800-DONT CUT (1-800-366-8288), National Adolescent Hotline 800-621-4000. The 1800 dont cut hotline works really well.
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Hello. I'm courtney. i'm 15 years old and i've been cutting myself since 5th grade. i've been emotionally abused to the point where i don't even feel like i'm good enough to live anymore. so, i can relate to this topic. every time i would get better, and not cut for a while, something terrible would happen. i resort to it because i live with both my parents, but my father tells me i'm worthless, that he hates me... that he wishes i was never born. he takes all his anger out on me. everything is my fault...somehow...someway. it all links back to me. i feel so alone in this world because self mutilation is not the norm. i'm not ignorant enough to say that nobody else feels like this, but it FEELS like it for me.
i can't go to a professional for help. my reputation at school is already terrible enough because i have emotional breakdowns in school all the time. I was never usually this emotional. i used to be a strong girl. and then the stress got to me. i'm numb now. cutting myself is not something i'm proud of. but it is addicting. i stopped cutting for the longest time, and then, it started again. i feel hopeless.... so i know what you guys are going through..
i can't go to a professional for help. my reputation at school is already terrible enough because i have emotional breakdowns in school all the time. I was never usually this emotional. i used to be a strong girl. and then the stress got to me. i'm numb now. cutting myself is not something i'm proud of. but it is addicting. i stopped cutting for the longest time, and then, it started again. i feel hopeless.... so i know what you guys are going through..
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There are various reasons why folks cut themselve
1) Its easier than crying,
2) It guves you a reaspon to cry, to help you cry-to deal with what you need to cry about!
3) Its painful and seeing the scar is a scar just like the inner turmoil you suffer1
4) You cut in mplaces you think others cabt see, but you dont know how deep youve gone just like you dont know how deep your real pain is
5) To me there are also somesort of weird things, just like when woman get together for prolonged periods of time and start having the menstrual cycle together- and theres always a dominant party to it! Just like starving yourself, binging vomiting, drinking , cutting, purging, taking laxatives, its another way to escape the truth. Its a self punishment and just like alcohol, and self prophecies, its your coping mechanisism, self efflicitn and hurting yourself is the worst type of abuse.And one of the hardest cycles to break! Self harm is sm addictive cycle which I understand- but f dont forget, while its a way to make peace with yourself, its a way of killing yourself. It costs lives! Be careful and take your time, but think about help and get yourself soem squashy plastercine and a red pen, try drawing on your self, get elastic bands and just ping them on your skin until you feel better- there are ways od fdealing with it and self help books to try and calm it down, Dont be a quitter you can stop it!
1) Its easier than crying,
2) It guves you a reaspon to cry, to help you cry-to deal with what you need to cry about!
3) Its painful and seeing the scar is a scar just like the inner turmoil you suffer1
4) You cut in mplaces you think others cabt see, but you dont know how deep youve gone just like you dont know how deep your real pain is
5) To me there are also somesort of weird things, just like when woman get together for prolonged periods of time and start having the menstrual cycle together- and theres always a dominant party to it! Just like starving yourself, binging vomiting, drinking , cutting, purging, taking laxatives, its another way to escape the truth. Its a self punishment and just like alcohol, and self prophecies, its your coping mechanisism, self efflicitn and hurting yourself is the worst type of abuse.And one of the hardest cycles to break! Self harm is sm addictive cycle which I understand- but f dont forget, while its a way to make peace with yourself, its a way of killing yourself. It costs lives! Be careful and take your time, but think about help and get yourself soem squashy plastercine and a red pen, try drawing on your self, get elastic bands and just ping them on your skin until you feel better- there are ways od fdealing with it and self help books to try and calm it down, Dont be a quitter you can stop it!
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