I can't stop cutting myself and I don't know why?¿

Hey you guys out there that self harm...umm im justin im 18 now and have been cutting since 6 grade im in 12th grade now so i know how all of you feel, i went throught/still in the hoplessness phase and just want you guys to know im here for you honestly.

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I'm 14 and I can't stop cutting!! I need help now!!

Think about why u do it and what u think when doin it

I just started to cut myself. the scars have been getting harder and harder to hide with makeup. A few days ago i also carved broken on the side of my wrist with a knife.

same here person

I'm cutting myself and nobody knows it and i know that you should try to change why you are doing it but i'm doing it because of myself i'm not strong enough to kill myself but i'm also not strong enough to keep living please help

Go to YourLifeYourVoice. Text voice to 20121 and they will help talk you tnrough, you can also call 18004483000 and talk with a trained counsellor for a short term. I have gotten help from them a lot and am now two months off cutting

I have the same issue, I am an empath and I cut to relief from others stress, it feels good, then the guilt, just remember the guilty feeling. That got me a while 3 weeks and then I relapsed after a car accident that was my fault but it's not important just remember tha t the guilt will help you stop

hey, first of all, im sorry that so many people feel this way. i have been cutting since the summer between fifth and sixth grade and im about to head into my first year of highschool. as for me, personally, i harmed myself so much and often because i hated everything about myself and my life. i was quite the angry child because i couldnt understand why i didnt look like the 'other boys' (im trans lol i was dumb don't judge) i was like why do i have boobs and when am i gonna grow my d-ck????? i was embarrassingly misinformed about puberty and how males and females differ from each other. anyways, i started cutting as a way to alleviate a lot of the stress, depression, and anxiety that i felt because i was so isolated from everyone. because, unfortunately, i live in right in the middle of buttf-ck nowhere in south carolina where about 98% of the people are freaking violent transphobes and homophobes. since no one, that ive seen anyways, has answered your question, i will. the first and foremost reason that you can't stop cutting, is because, when you cut, your brain floods your body with endorphins which give you a head rush (even if you cant really feel it) which your body then becomes dependant on as a distraction from whatever drove you to s/h in the first place. i hope that makes sense. it is easier to stop once you get counseling and get put on meds. (i assume, i rarely actually take my meds tbh bc im paranoid that the doctors are trying to kill me or something idek) i am 'supposed' to be on luvox right now and i have counseling every two weeks, but i have trust issues so i lie constantly to her so she cant really help as best as she wants to??? idk ima mess, but i hoped i helped you and i hope you get the help you deserve because you are valid person with valid emotions. all of you are.

okay, buddy, wow. even if these people ARE doing it for attention, there are still underlying issues!!! and just because people have bigger problems does not mean these people's problems are invalid. (honestly, why even say anything?) some people cannot physically stop because cutting is an addiction. self harming releases endorphins into your brain which you then become dependant on. do you hear me, hun? it is an addiction to help cope with your issues as some people are not taught proper coping mechanisms. if you are going to invalidate people, which you should NOT do, at least to do it with some finesse and intelligence. you sound like a nine year old.

this is not a competition. do not invalidate their problems just because you are suffering too. although i will admit, i am a little annoyed at all these people whining about two months when i have been dealing with depression and anxiety for my whole life and self harm issues for the past 5. still, it does not make their problems less, it is good that they are trying to stop before they get too dependant on it. i am proud of you guys, just jealous that you all are smart enough to actually look for help and take it when it is offered.

this isnt completely relevant, but i just wanted to say that being suicidal and being depressed are different. they are often accompanied by each other, but they are separate things. depression is feeling dejected, hopeless, restless, and unfulfilled, while being suicidal is you wanting to die. almost to the point to where you feel completely out of control and you waste all the energy that you had trying to convince yourself that people care and that they would be devastated, but, ultimately, without help you are very likely to attempt suicide. this is just from my experience though. ive had 4 major suicide attempts that landed me in the hospital and about 6 that have just led me to an emergency therapy session and a tox screening to be sure that i was taking my meds and surprise surprise: i wasnt. moral of the story is if you are prescribed medication to help you and you trust you doctors and dont think that they are trying to poison you, you should probably take it. it could save your life. just be wary of the side effects.

please, try to seek counseling or call a suicide hotline or a talk to a trusted friend or even just write everything you're feeling down on some paper. you are incredibly strong. killing yourself is the easy way out, im not trying to be rude it's just the truth. and, chances are, since you aren't dead, you still have something to live for. figure out what that is and you hang on tight. you are strong and you are brave and you are valid. you have made it this far, you can hang on for a while longer. i believe in you. side note - i am such a hypocrite tbh... but still - hang in there, buddy.

I’ve been there. Trust me I know how you feel. I’m fact I’m still recovering. But what I’ve learned is that cutting and self harm in general is actually considered  by many doctors to be an addiction. You don’t have to tell everyone only one person. The difference between one person and nobody is even larger than you’d think. Even if that one person is a therapist that no one knows about other than you. 

I completely agree except that I’ve been cutting for around one year and I’m already getting better but you know what? I’ve had just as much pain and suffering as anyone else. Don’t put others down because they’ve suffered for a shorter amount of time. Grieve with them and try to help each other