i had sex first time 4 years back and i had a deep penetration. then i broke up with my bf and went through a bit of mental stress and then years later i had sex with my new bf but i didn't have a deep penetration at all although he's 6 inches but i could take it in, it was really painfull each time he tried, even it made tears brim to my eyes.. i am afraid may be wat if it is a cervical tumor?? please help me why it happened?
If you are really worried it is a health issue you must go and see a doctor.
However, it is very possible this is a sexual issue and one which you can sort yourself.
If you haven't already tried this please do:
- Be somewhere private with subdued light
- Maybe light some candles
- Lie down and undress
- Maybe play some soft relaxing music
- Relax, deep breath
- Close your eyes and Start thinking about the most sexiest thoughts you can
- lubricate your nipples and vagina with some lube or oil and gently caress yourself.
- When your clitoris becomes hard and you feel you want to carry on touching it start to gently push your finger into your vagina.
- When this gets easy and only when you are enjoying it, push in something bigger: a vibe, candle or cucumber which is lubricated.
Don't give up on yourself - it will work eventually