I have no feeling towards anything at all i feel empty

Everyone talks to themselves in there head...whether its working out a maths question or something more serious...your mind is where all problems are thought about and you will have one side of you against the other debating whats real and whats not so I promise you, you are not mad. When I was 14 i felt like this and thought I was going crazy looked up my symptoms and realised I had depression.

After someone cheats on you once its hard to deal with but you can work at a relationship and get through it. More than once to 5-6 more times is ridiculous. You shouldnt of stayed with her nor still be with her if you are. Love is blind and having someone lie and cheat on you makes you feel worthless and alone to the point you think its your fault and you feel you can't do or say anything because you no-longer have you're own mind...its been taken over by the hurt someone you love has caused you after you've been throught alot already. All you focus is on that and what did you do wrong. But you havnt done anything wrong, anyone who treats you like that and makes you feel like that don't care about you. Weed was a bad idea especially when you are already paranoid...it just increases it...doesnt matter if your gf and mate did sleep with each other or not you're gunna believe they did...yh you'll ignore it but its still there clawing at your mind. Always will be so unless you wana move on and feel happy you have to be stong and let this girl go because she isnt worth it. You've lost yourself in order to stay with someone who doesnt even make you feel good...they make you hate yourself when they did wrong not you. Its hard now you holding on to the thought and memory of the happiness you thought you once had but it doesnt exist...in the long run you will b happy again if you gt out of this situation because if you don't you could loose yourself forever and become extremely mentally ill...if you move on now one day you will look back and think 'what the f**k was I thinking' trust me. Ive been there.



You will never rediscover yourself unless you break away from this girl and you'll carry on being someone your not until you completely forget who you are...be strong for yourself and if you love this girl after all shes done let her go because it isnt even a real relationship if your not being you. you both should be yourselves and you shouldnt ever feel the way you do in a relationship and i know its hard to hear...i wouldnt of listened if it was said about my ex...my first love my first boyfriend who cheated and lied and lied and lied for over 2 years. luckily he dumped me, best thing that ever happened to me. I found myself and finally found happiness.



You're not mad you just need to get out of a bad relationship...if you dont have trust you have nothing...shes hurt you too much in the past for you two to ever be truly happy together...you need to find yourself...and you have to do it alone...its not as scary as it sounds...once you learn to love you again and feel happy your trust will gain in people again because after this you wont trust anyone for a while but eventually you will

Imagine this woman leaves your life forever? how does it feel? To me it sounds like that at some point in your life 8 years ago or before you had something happen with someone you care for? I might be wrong its just a guess. You may be suffering from a deep form of depression that can stop all sense of emotion and you are stuck on one level where you never feel up and never feel down...and its just goin on and on and you cant move...usually this is an underlying anxiety for falling in love, or denying that you are in love so that if it ever leaves the barrier you have built shields you from any emotional pain. Have you saw a counselor? It may hlp pick out a few demons that are controlling this that you can't remember or have repressed in your memory. You can't keep pretending your happy when your not though...otherwise it will grow worse and keep goin on for years until one day you crack. and you will crack...you will reach your peak and have to let rip. I strongly advise you go back to the doctor...and ask for further professional help.

You're just a mellow person...life is life...you accept things as they are...a jobs a job...good life is a good life...nothing to complain about or feel sad about...you sound quite down to earth but tbh i think theres something missing in your life and when you get what ever it is you will recieve enthusiasm also. Have you had alot of love and affection through out your life? if not i can understand the numbness and tears without realising why they are there...you feel you've had something missing and crave it in a way you never even realised. I hope you find what is missing...im quite like you i dont necessarily get overly excited about things but i put that down to the large perspective of life i have...theres more to life than luxeries and a job...mayb you feel that? and what we feel we're missin is the unknown?

jballer: please tell us about your update in life.

I feel sort of similar as yall. I feel nothing inside. Let me back up and tell you my story. I was in high school and I fell in love with this guy who was willing to do anything for me. We dated and talked about everything for 2 and 1/2 year. We were madly in love but then he started to drift off and said he wanted to go to the air force. I told him I would support him in anything. He said he wanted to break up so that way I could focus on college while he was in airforce. Well, he started to act like a jerk and flirting around. But he always kept mentioning that he does love me tho. Then he later on explained he broke up with me for the fact that he wanted to seek independence and he semi cheated on me with another girl while he was dating with me. I tried to be forgiving and understanding but now he seems to just completely forgotten everything about us. Now, I just found out he has another girlfriend when he told me he was not ready for a commitment when he going to be in the airforce. I have no feelings at all about anything but I always see him in my head and every place I go; it reminds me of him. I would cry everyday telling myself how stupid and naive I was about our love. People tell me he's a jerk and I just need to move on. But how can one move on when their heart is torn to pieces. Can a person really forget about everything they went thru in a relationship after giving their all to it? Often times I tell myself what's the point of love then? (I stopped believing in love after he broke up with me...) I talked to some of his friends and they tell me as well that he changed completely. became more of a jerk.

I'm good looking as well and guys been asking me out or whatever but it just doesn't feel the same or right.
Does a guy reallly need to seek whats out there before going bk to the one they know they really love?
I noticed that when we dont see each other (yea we still semi text but im thinkin of puttin an end to it) that he acts like a jerk and has no feelings but when we are in person he acts sooo sweet and loving. Is it really the sight that changes and forgets everything. Is he just trying to be tough and forget everything and push me away so I dont get hurt again?

well this is really weird I feel like Im the only girl that actually is experiencing a lack of feelings or rather... emotions I guess we all have our issues and after reading your story wow... you sound like me trying to be cool and all that... I do not care about that anymore but I've learned to live without feelings I know thats not what most people strive for but I'm doing pretty good so far and I haven't become a serial killer or crazy so that must be something =P anyway I know what it feels like to be empty inside like there's a part of you missing and youre not sure what it is anymore neither can you tell anyone or they'll think you have some serious issues ...I know what depression is like too I went through it and out of it and let me tell you the not feeling is wayyy better than depression my best advice would be learn to be discerning of yourself and people whenever you get that thought of someone not being right for you just don't go around them if they're not good for you then what's the point of being with people who only harm you in that way and do not respect you at all? and also learn to respect yourself

I have gone through some harsh things such as 2 of my family member suiciding and one of my exes becoming a complete sl*t while the other one destroyed my life and pretends i don't exist. For the feelings part, when you get around it its actually pretty comforting :-)
Knowing that everyone else suffers or is in depression while you couldn't care less but if you really want to feel someithng try anything risky,dangerous or anything that will pump you up...such as fighting( professional or street) drugs ( legal and illigal) pretty much anything that gets your heart pumping :-)

im 20. im desperate to change.. its been maybe 5 years, give or take a couple years since ive been having strange changes in me, i cant really pinpoint when or why my problems happened. it kind of all just snuck up on me, gradually....
im just like everyone else on here with some variation. but ive got the works. had an awesome childhood. and after my childhood i couldnt hold any kind of relationship with anyone not even family or friends or girlfriends... i just wanna feel love... i wanna be in love, but feelings are basically non existant... im not even sure what it feels like to feel something... other than physical pain...

..... im so confused. so unsure. no personality. undecisive, bad memory, horrible social skills. cant concentrate well, and i ALWAYS FEEL TIRED.... i guess thats the only feeling i can feel..... but one thing that is consistent is i try to make sure i dont hurt anyone elses feelings... i think that i tried so hard for so long to make everyone around me comfortable that it hurt me in the long run. i stop talking and now i dont know what i want, or wat to say, or how to feel.
my situation is all very confusing and complicated so if you wanna talk more about me or you or anything i definately wanna hear from you... dont be afraid to talk to me, heres my email ***this post is edited by moderator *** *** private e-mails not allowed **
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PS. we need to stick together and help eachother out. im tired of being alone and feel like giving up.

Hello, my name is Blaine. Your story is like mine, and apparently it's like others. I do not know what advice I can give you, but I will do what I can.

First, I'll tell you what I go through. I grew up with a father who believed that man should never show "weakness". He would beat me when I cried saying something like, "I'll give you something to cry about!", or "be a man!". I started to lose my ability to cry when I was only 10. I'm not sure when the last time I've cried was, but I don't think that's relevent. I've had family pass, a close friend OD and die off the same drugs I was using at the time and also the same drugs that I've introduced him to, on the night of his funeral my dog ran out into traffic and got ran over while I was walking him. I've lost the love of my life a couple of years back. I sit here today not even being sure of the difference of feeling "normal" and feeling depressed.
I couldn't share my feelings so I would disguise them with laughter. I wanted to be an actor for the longest time because I was just so damn good at it. You would never know. No one ever did, not my parents, not my girl friends, not my closest friends. To them I am happy, funny, and outgoing. The strange thing actually is I'm actually a shy person who enjoys thinking more than I like talking.
What happens is you give your feelings a complex. You say to them "I want you to come out" and shun them when they do. They don't trust you anymore, and I don't blame them. What, apparently a few of us, go through is not easily solved by takings meds or seeing a shrink. This is something only we can solve ourselves.
I pretend a lot. I can't cry, so sometimes I'll sit there and try my hardest to simply get watery eyes. It works everytime. It's only acting though. There's no real emotion behind it at all. It's a great temptation for me at least. I want to let go of my emotions so bad that I lie to myself in order to do it.
I've always wanted to try screaming at the top of my lungs, for as long as I can, and with all the emotion in me. I never do it for fear of dealing with the cops lol. I bet that would work. Instead, I read a lot of books. I get my mind off of things. Whenever I feel sad I just brush it away instead of doing anything about it. That, from what I've read somewhere, is the cause of my back problems...go figure.

I'm 20 as well by the way

Well, just to make it clear out of my view. She is just not worth your time, u should really get over it. Find someone you really trust, and have a talk:)

social skills. cant concentrate well, and i ALWAYS FEEL TIRED.... i guess thats the only feeling i can feel..... but one thing that is consistent is i try to make sure i dont hurt anyone elses feelings... i think that i tried so hard for so long to make everyone around me comfortable that it hurt me in the long run. i stop talking and now i dont know what i want, or wat to say, or how to feel.


thats so like me it's not funny,it's hard even writing this as I cant explain my thoughts as I don't really have any,I cant say how I feel because I dont know untill someone speaks to me then I either reply nicely or try too,I could be watching tv and just start crying at a sad part but only no I feel sad because I cried,I cant start a conversation but will coment on what others say but if they stop talking I will have nothing to say,I cant make friends at all,I talk to people at work but never gets any farther than that,I'm late for everything I do,from going to work to getting out of bed,exams when I was at school,but I don't have any feelings about it being a problem untill I'm walking in work late and getting told off then I think why didn't I rush,I have no sense of direction,I get a craze for something then have to find which is the best and go out and buy it then dont bother with it again,wish there was a pill to tae to fix this as I don't feel "awake" a few times I have got this sense of "self" for a spilt second then it's gone again and whilst it is happening wish it could last for ever but as soon as it has passed I'm not bothered again.

i am 17, I don't know what to think..... i have urges to kill and hurt with no anger or revenge motivating it at all, and i feel no emotions for anything or anyone not even my mother or father except for my wife and daughter i don't know how to explain it. they are the only things keeping me from making the decent in to madness, i have been looking all over the web but cant find anything thing to explain what wrong with me i find my self blacking out and "waking up" with a knife or pills my wife says i have made threats against my life but i don't feel trapped or even a reason to commit suicide, when i was in high school i have held people at knife point multiple times and threaten there life, that's when i met my wife and she slowly helped me gain some sense of sanity.

get over it there's plenty of guys who have sh*t wrong with them and can't get girls stop your bitching about one girl

i can relate to most of the stories written here, and if i had the chance to give only one advice to all of you fellas, it would be this:

f**k all. Yes, f**k all!! If i do not like the person, i don't pretend to, if i feel hopeless i am so, never ever listen to anyone and agree with their opinion if you have your own, although be tolerant and respect others because they are like you - with their own thoughts and feelings. World is made because you are here and you you see yourself in everyone around you, so just wake up and be yourself, whatever the f**k that means for you.

Well, i read some of this cr@p, and must say, most of u ppl are simple hipochonders.
To the rest of u who have actual diseases or disorders, i hope u can somehow make it through life.

The body shuts down when it has too much to bear;
goes its own way quietly inside, waiting
for a better time, leaving you numb and half alive.