i think i am ready to b a mom cuz i no im in luv with my boyfriend. i asked him numerous times if he wants any children and he said yes each time. i no if i get pregnant college, my family, friends, and boyfriend would b ruined, but wen u no u can do it y not jus try. im raising my sister who is 6months and my two brothers who r 1 and 1yr and 9 months. i no this is outragous but i no im nevr going to want something more on my life.
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you are too young 1st of all there will most proberbly be complication with the birth and the baby, it would ruin your relationship and you would most deffiantly lose your friends and family, you havent even finsished school yet if you really want a baby think about hoe you would support it, you dont have any money so what would you do about food as you would have no one to help you aka frainds or family.
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like leah_w1 said, having a baby now will totally ruin your life. if you're already raising your siblings, then adding another one in there isn't going to make things better. instead, why you play with your siblings whenever you feel like you want a baby?
if you swear you will never want anything more in your life then you'll still want one when you're older and have thought it very properly through and will probably be able to support it better so it can have a better life than if you had a baby now. also, although your boyfriend might be saying yes now, he's still young too and probably isn't thinking it through properly
there's plenty of time to have a baby later on in life. it's why you have your period for years and years
don't rush into things ok? talk to a trusted friend or adult if you're still really bothered about it rather than just diving into it
if you swear you will never want anything more in your life then you'll still want one when you're older and have thought it very properly through and will probably be able to support it better so it can have a better life than if you had a baby now. also, although your boyfriend might be saying yes now, he's still young too and probably isn't thinking it through properly
there's plenty of time to have a baby later on in life. it's why you have your period for years and years
don't rush into things ok? talk to a trusted friend or adult if you're still really bothered about it rather than just diving into it
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First.
I will be as polite as I can be as i have been out of the forum game for many years.
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For future reference, when posting in a forum please do not use texting language. It can be very difficult to read even for someone who does text. Just a general courtesy.
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I agree with the other 2 poster completely. You are way to young to be having any children at all. You should be setting your sights on finishing school, getting into a good college, and starting a career. If you are helping you parents raise a 6 month old, a 12 month old, and a 21 month old children, you are already under a lot of pressure to help around the house, go to school, get your home work done and still have a social life. The last thing that your parent (s) need is another mouth to feed. No offense.
On average a child cost approximately $400,000 to raise to 18 years of age. Last I checked, the minimum working age was 16 (in most states). Does you boyfriend know what the total cost of time and money required to raise a child? How long have you been together with your boyfriend? Just remember that even a year after the child is born that the father might loose interest in you and the child.
I am 20 years old myself and do not have any children myself. I have my GED, an associates, and will have a bachelors next year. However I have watched my brother who is late 20's have 4 children, one ex-wife, one current wife, and another child on the way. He did not have an opportunity to go to college and is now working as an field mechanic.
I hope this along with who ever posts helps you in making your decision.
Holmestrix
I will be as polite as I can be as i have been out of the forum game for many years.
Second.
For future reference, when posting in a forum please do not use texting language. It can be very difficult to read even for someone who does text. Just a general courtesy.
Third.
I agree with the other 2 poster completely. You are way to young to be having any children at all. You should be setting your sights on finishing school, getting into a good college, and starting a career. If you are helping you parents raise a 6 month old, a 12 month old, and a 21 month old children, you are already under a lot of pressure to help around the house, go to school, get your home work done and still have a social life. The last thing that your parent (s) need is another mouth to feed. No offense.
On average a child cost approximately $400,000 to raise to 18 years of age. Last I checked, the minimum working age was 16 (in most states). Does you boyfriend know what the total cost of time and money required to raise a child? How long have you been together with your boyfriend? Just remember that even a year after the child is born that the father might loose interest in you and the child.
I am 20 years old myself and do not have any children myself. I have my GED, an associates, and will have a bachelors next year. However I have watched my brother who is late 20's have 4 children, one ex-wife, one current wife, and another child on the way. He did not have an opportunity to go to college and is now working as an field mechanic.
I hope this along with who ever posts helps you in making your decision.
Holmestrix
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Hi I'm thirteen to and I have no intrest in having kids right now and if u wanna have a kid just help with the ones you already help with and then watch teen mom 2 and see if u still want a kids but your younger then those moms
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I'm looking over these answers and something has come to mind. If you are unable to spell and punctuate and answer correctly, maybe you should avoid having a child who you will have to teach the same things.
Each of us have to live our own lives. Consider this, if you have doubts that it may be wrong, then it most likely is wrong. That is your gut telling you. You are not just having a "baby", but a child who will grow up to be an adult.
Consider who you admire. Is it doctors, teachers, business owners, or unwed teenage moms? In order to become who you admire there are certain decisions you need to make. Also, if you truly would "love" to have a baby, then how do you want that child to grow up? Do you want them to be successful and well educated and not have worries and stresses on their life? Or would you rather if they followed in your footsteps and had a child at 16?
That would mean at 32 you would have a 16 year-old who is just like you, and a brand new baby all over again. Would you want to support that?
This obsession with becoming an adult before the time is right is an epidemic with the youth of today. I'm a 26 year old, married, professional woman. You could not have convinced me for love or money to have had a kid 10 years ago. Relationships are too fleeting. Boys are NOT dependable. College is far too much fun to be weighed down by a child.
You ruin your opportunities of becoming so much more than you are today. Do you want that BMW? The nice house in the suburbs? If you have a child now, it will only double the time it takes to achieve those things. I still drive a rust bucket so that I can afford house payments. My husband and I both work full time and make about $70,000 a year. We have a savings, but still find ourselves eating home every night. We can't afford a certain lifestyle because we are preparing for our first child on the way.
How dare you ruin a child's life by not giving them the stability they deserve? Do your research! There is a ton of it out there (done by scientists and psychologists with college educations btw) that all goes to show that children of children earn less, are not as well adjusted, higher crime rates, and so much more. Is that what you want for your hypothetical child?
Wait! College, marriage, home, kids. There is a reason that so MANY people do things in that order. It works.
Each of us have to live our own lives. Consider this, if you have doubts that it may be wrong, then it most likely is wrong. That is your gut telling you. You are not just having a "baby", but a child who will grow up to be an adult.
Consider who you admire. Is it doctors, teachers, business owners, or unwed teenage moms? In order to become who you admire there are certain decisions you need to make. Also, if you truly would "love" to have a baby, then how do you want that child to grow up? Do you want them to be successful and well educated and not have worries and stresses on their life? Or would you rather if they followed in your footsteps and had a child at 16?
That would mean at 32 you would have a 16 year-old who is just like you, and a brand new baby all over again. Would you want to support that?
This obsession with becoming an adult before the time is right is an epidemic with the youth of today. I'm a 26 year old, married, professional woman. You could not have convinced me for love or money to have had a kid 10 years ago. Relationships are too fleeting. Boys are NOT dependable. College is far too much fun to be weighed down by a child.
You ruin your opportunities of becoming so much more than you are today. Do you want that BMW? The nice house in the suburbs? If you have a child now, it will only double the time it takes to achieve those things. I still drive a rust bucket so that I can afford house payments. My husband and I both work full time and make about $70,000 a year. We have a savings, but still find ourselves eating home every night. We can't afford a certain lifestyle because we are preparing for our first child on the way.
How dare you ruin a child's life by not giving them the stability they deserve? Do your research! There is a ton of it out there (done by scientists and psychologists with college educations btw) that all goes to show that children of children earn less, are not as well adjusted, higher crime rates, and so much more. Is that what you want for your hypothetical child?
Wait! College, marriage, home, kids. There is a reason that so MANY people do things in that order. It works.
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katielael, I couldn't resist - thank you for this wonderful... wait sentence/saying/golden rule:
Just, thank you. My life is not the same. Because of this sentence. Now that is a WOW!
Just, thank you. My life is not the same. Because of this sentence. Now that is a WOW!
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Im wannting one as well but im 15 nd pregnant and i feel great my lil cuzoo is to but.... she happends to be 13 nd she loves it 2 and she has 2weeks before her due date i say go.. for it kid :)
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When I was 13 (I'm only 14 now) I really wanted a baby too, that is, until I got pregnant. Haha.. Yeah, it really isn't the best thing. I love babies more then anything. I want one still... But being pregnant is really just a nightmare when you're so young that you can't legally support yourself. I was pregnant for about 3 months (until I had a miscarriage due to my age, my body is still tiny) and I had to tell my mom, and then my boyfriend broke up with me.. And said he hates the baby. Rumors started at school and it was a lot of stress, drama, and unwanted/unneeded bullcrap. I'm saying for your sake, I don't think you'd want to. Because I felt the EXACT same way as you did. But the whole experience changed my mind. I can wait 10-15 more years.(: I'm not sayin you have to, but it is way better to wait until you know you're ready. Good luck with your boyfriend, by the way.<3
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You are way to young to have a kid, I leant that the hard way. Don't do it get yourself thought school and if you still wang one then go for it, but consider what you need, money, care, plus you would miss lots of school. And where would you get the money. Please listen to me I'm 14 and already had a child and I love it dearly but it was a mistake I will always regret because I am behind at everything now. Good luck x
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Having a baby won't ruin her life. i am 15 with a baby and i am happier than ever and a better person. i have a job and my own home and i'm still in school. i have 2 girls. and my life isnt ruined.
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I am 15 and a mother. and I PROMISE it's hard. BUT it does NOT ruin your life for me it made it all the better. You have to grow up faster but that was okay with me. Aurora is my life she is my world and i wouldn't change anything ever. So in my opinion it is okay go for it. but that's MY opinion. lol if you have any ?s message me
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She could have a supportive family you never know and u don't have to worry about friends but yea she should wait till she gets older
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How did you find out if you were pregnant well I'm 16 and me and my brother had sex a while ago I think I might be pregnant so how do I take a test without anyone finding out PS I don't have a driver's license yet
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