i was raped at the age of 11

Hi Bermondsey,

In my humble opinion, I think you need to "hunker down" and MOVE OUT OF THERE and get away from that area. I dont know the specifics, but obviously this is a SICK INDIVIDUAL. Are the police giving you a hard time about the issue? Im not sure about legal issues there.



Hizgrace

Hizgrace4all wrote:

bermondsey101 wrote:

hi i was raped again by the same guy and his mates i have been to the police and they did some examination. but now i have to wait for some test results what if they have given me sometin or if i am pregenant again i have already been through that with him 4 times and every time he has beaten me until i start bleedin and lose the baby i now u might think y would u want a baby if it was his but it was still a living thing and didnt deserve to die

Hi Bermondsey,
In my humble opinion, I think you need to "hunker down" and MOVE OUT OF THERE and get away from that area. I dont know the specifics, but obviously this is a SICK INDIVIDUAL. Are the police giving you a hard time about the issue? Im not sure about legal issues there.

Hizgrace

the police say it will be hard to get him sent to jail cos of a lack oof evidence

This is getting more bazzar by the moment. What do you mean by lack of evidence? It's called going to the hospital and having a rape test done. You said the police did tests, just exactly what kind of tests did they do? Police do not conduct tests on a rape victim, this is done in a hospital by medical personnel only. The results, if any, are the reported back to the police which are now part of your statement.
You say you were beaten to the point where you lost babies, 4 times if i read your post correctly. You said there was blood, you had to have been bruised and the hospital would have determined if you lost your baby(s) due to being beaten.
We have come a long way medically, it's called DNA. I have re read your posts and i just can't get that you have been raped and beaten 2 times week in some cases over such a long period of time. What is really going on here???

i never reported every rape when it was going on over the past 9 years because when they didnt do anythin when i repoted it at the age of 13 i lost all faith in the police cas i went for help and did get any.

i had a rape test like u said and thats wat i ment by the police did tests.

when i lost my babies i didnt go to the police i was so ashamed and confused. my results came back as far as they have confurmed that i do not have HIV and am not pregnant so all good there.

I wish you luck bermondsey and i hope you that someone helps you put your nightmare to rest. Keep on the police and keep reporting to them.

ok thank u for all ur advice it has helped

The sad truth about rape is your word alone will not get those guys behind bars where they belong. If you can not find help to prevent it from happening again, go striaght to the police or a hospital after it happens. Do not take a shower or change cloths. I was raped while I did not know the man that raped me, I do know that you may have feelings for those guys. And thats ok, but it's not suppose to be like that, and you need counseling. When I was raped I acted like I like it to get it over with. The Doctor told me that's ok you have to do whatever you have to do to survive. Get help.

thank u for this advice as i was raped again on saturday and have been to the police and they now have the evidence they needed. i cant thank u all enough u have helped me so much.

i have been contacted by a victim support officer as well so i may not b alone anymore and she may able to help me stop the nightmares and stop self harming as in the long run it only makes me feel worse but at the time it feels good.

THANK YOU ALL u could have just saved my life

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bermondsey101 wrote:

Sheila Clark wrote:

The sad truth about rape is your word alone will not get those guys behind bars where they belong. If you can not find help to prevent it from happening again, go striaght to the police or a hospital after it happens. Do not take a shower or change cloths. I was raped while I did not know the man that raped me, I do know that you may have feelings for those guys. And thats ok, but it's not suppose to be like that, and you need counseling. When I was raped I acted like I like it to get it over with. The Doctor told me that's ok you have to do whatever you have to do to survive. Get help.

thank u for this advice as i was raped again on saturday and have been to the police and they now have the evidence they needed. i cant thank u all enough u have helped me so much.
i have been contacted by a victim support officer as well so i may not b alone anymore and she may able to help me stop the nightmares and stop self harming as in the long run it only makes me feel worse but at the time it feels good.
THANK YOU ALL u could have just saved my life
xxxxxxxxxxxxxXXXXXXXXXxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Bermondsey,
I know that you are starting to see "the light at the end of the tunnel". That must really be hopeful for you. I have to say, I was forced several times by people I knew, and it seemed like it took me FOREVER to come to the place where I could finally truly forgive them. I didnt realize, that by me NOT forgiving them, I was only wrecking myself inside. I had to forgive them. I am not trying to be "gross", but some of the issues still come up from being "attacked" in certain places that a woman should never. I am SOOOOOO greatful that I have a husband who is understanding though. He doesnt always fully understand, but he understands as much as he can.
Let me know if we can chat back and forth if it would help you.

HIZGRACE

Hizgrace4all wrote:

bermondsey101 wrote:

Sheila Clark wrote:

The sad truth about rape is your word alone will not get those guys behind bars where they belong. If you can not find help to prevent it from happening again, go striaght to the police or a hospital after it happens. Do not take a shower or change cloths. I was raped while I did not know the man that raped me, I do know that you may have feelings for those guys. And thats ok, but it's not suppose to be like that, and you need counseling. When I was raped I acted like I like it to get it over with. The Doctor told me that's ok you have to do whatever you have to do to survive. Get help.

thank u for this advice as i was raped again on saturday and have been to the police and they now have the evidence they needed. i cant thank u all enough u have helped me so much.
i have been contacted by a victim support officer as well so i may not b alone anymore and she may able to help me stop the nightmares and stop self harming as in the long run it only makes me feel worse but at the time it feels good.
THANK YOU ALL u could have just saved my life
xxxxxxxxxxxxxXXXXXXXXXxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Bermondsey,
I know that you are starting to see "the light at the end of the tunnel". That must really be hopeful for you. I have to say, I was forced several times by people I knew, and it seemed like it took me FOREVER to come to the place where I could finally truly forgive them. I didnt realize, that by me NOT forgiving them, I was only wrecking myself inside. I had to forgive them. I am not trying to be "gross", but some of the issues still come up from being "attacked" in certain places that a woman should never. I am SOOOOOO greatful that I have a husband who is understanding though. He doesnt always fully understand, but he understands as much as he can.
Let me know if we can chat back and forth if it would help you.

HIZGRACE

it would help alot if we could chat properlly how can we chat though i have kots of things u may b able 2 answer and help me with

:-D Hi Bermondsey,
You can PM me on this board

Hizgrace

i dont now how 2 pm on here can u tell me

hi hizgrace

i need some advice

there is this guy and he is really nice and he now that i have been raped but he wants me to got out with him but i am really scared and not sure what to do.

should i trust him and give it a go.

am i always goin 2 b scared

Hi Bermondsey,
How are you doing? I am SOOO glad to see that perhaps things are starting to "lighten" for you. Is this person related to the one(s) who hurt you, or does he know them? If so, go the other direction.
You asked if the fear would always be there, it will be there for a little bit, but eventually, once you have been able to let go and forgive, it goes away.

Hizgrace

hi hizgrace



i dont think he knows them but im still not sure wat to do should i tell him or just leave it.

and yah things havent been to bad since last message it has happened again but since then the police seem to b doin more and looking for him.

they have offored me counselling but i i dunno if im ready to go and talk bout it. still struggling to give a statement with details.



thank u for ur advice u have helped loads