Good thing that he's capable of dealing with it alone. My bf says he thinks it helped him a lot to have his older brother to have it before him and to have others also in school who have it so that he's never the only one stiff even if most are not. I wonder the others must have it also at some time during the day, no?
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O yes we all have hardons occasionnally but some are really hard a lot. My bro was for instance and I was just like a couple of times each day and in the morning but he was hard most of the time and he had a full erection 15 or 20 times a day, that's a real condition I mean, eventually it calmed down but it was of course hard (pun!) for him.
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so does this really exist? I'm asking becoz my bf says he has this condition and Ive never seen him soft, hes always hard when hes naked but I believe he likes to show himself off and thats why hes hard all the time. Thats ok, thats how we started together he mad sure I noticed that he was hard when we walked home form school, once he even had the tip of his penis sticking out of his trousr for me to see. So he likes to be naked and he says thats becoz hes hard but I believe its the other way round; But his brother says its true and hes got just the same condition. since hes 13. But its ok that they show off (I do too with my nipples) but why dont they tell taht they want to show off. Or do you really beleive this is family condition and true?
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Hi Iana. Both can be true. Your friend and his brother may have more erections than usual and they may be exhibitionists at the same time. Some adolescents develop exhibitionist behaviors and they might even show their penis BECAUSE in some circumstances they can't hide the fact that it is hard. Why do YOU like to show your nipples? I share both of your experiences.
When my breasts developed, after they had grown for a couple of years, I had still small nipples, then my areolas got larger and raised and my nipples seemed to have disappeared altogether. It was only when they were hard and the areola lost its volume that they became visible, but they were rarely hard. This is when I started wearing a bra in order to hide my areolas. When I turned 15 my nipples got hard more often and grew larger. Than my areolas became less raised and my nipples became visible all the time and they were large and they started to be more or less hard most of the time. At that stage I abandoned the bra because I wanted them to be noticeable. (Today I'm 27 and even if my nipples are only hard when I'm cold I still like to show them.)
At the same time a friend of my brother who came often to our place had visible erections most of the time. He was 2 years younger than I. He tried to hide them at the beginning but when I started to show my nipples, he felt free first to let his erections be seen and then started to obviously make a show of them. After he turned 15 I saw his penis on several occasions. Later he told me how it started with me and that he began to be less concerned about his erections and that from there on he liked to have other people notice it. He felt it liberating because he didn't feel the necessity of hiding them anymore. Today his erections are far less frequent and he stopped his exhibitionism.
So you see your friend is not necessarily only turned on by showing himself but he can really have the condition he claims to have.
When my breasts developed, after they had grown for a couple of years, I had still small nipples, then my areolas got larger and raised and my nipples seemed to have disappeared altogether. It was only when they were hard and the areola lost its volume that they became visible, but they were rarely hard. This is when I started wearing a bra in order to hide my areolas. When I turned 15 my nipples got hard more often and grew larger. Than my areolas became less raised and my nipples became visible all the time and they were large and they started to be more or less hard most of the time. At that stage I abandoned the bra because I wanted them to be noticeable. (Today I'm 27 and even if my nipples are only hard when I'm cold I still like to show them.)
At the same time a friend of my brother who came often to our place had visible erections most of the time. He was 2 years younger than I. He tried to hide them at the beginning but when I started to show my nipples, he felt free first to let his erections be seen and then started to obviously make a show of them. After he turned 15 I saw his penis on several occasions. Later he told me how it started with me and that he began to be less concerned about his erections and that from there on he liked to have other people notice it. He felt it liberating because he didn't feel the necessity of hiding them anymore. Today his erections are far less frequent and he stopped his exhibitionism.
So you see your friend is not necessarily only turned on by showing himself but he can really have the condition he claims to have.
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wow, from erection to exhibitionism to... stiff nipples?! cant believe it!
bakc to basics: if the dr Kate Smith thinks this question is answered by an advice on masturbation, she's plain wrong. when adolesent I was often hard myself and masturbation didnt help, well maybe for an hour but not for longer. no, it happens there simply are boys with more erections and they're not the majority and that's why they're being bullied at school for it, as I was. what we need is a new view on erection, make it something natural, not something to feel ashamed of. Why is it for example that on a nude beach men will not be allowed to have a hardon? Why is it that even amongst adults, in a common changing room you're not supposed to be hard? My own erections became less frequent after I finished puberty but still I get hard easy enough and I'm still blamed for it, in the shower, in the sauna and even at the doctor's. I would like the other men having a different look on it.
bakc to basics: if the dr Kate Smith thinks this question is answered by an advice on masturbation, she's plain wrong. when adolesent I was often hard myself and masturbation didnt help, well maybe for an hour but not for longer. no, it happens there simply are boys with more erections and they're not the majority and that's why they're being bullied at school for it, as I was. what we need is a new view on erection, make it something natural, not something to feel ashamed of. Why is it for example that on a nude beach men will not be allowed to have a hardon? Why is it that even amongst adults, in a common changing room you're not supposed to be hard? My own erections became less frequent after I finished puberty but still I get hard easy enough and I'm still blamed for it, in the shower, in the sauna and even at the doctor's. I would like the other men having a different look on it.
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my brother had erection issues when adolescent, I did not, but I was envious of his erections, far from making fun of him! He felt ashamed but I thought it was great to have a "real" penis. We couldn't be more different, he has a very small penis when soft but which gets 4 times longer when erect, whereas I have a larger penis but which gets only slightly bigger when erect. Mine is thicker but his is definitely longer when erect (mine is 4 1/2, whereas he reaches 6), mine stands horizontally and his stands at a 120° angle. On the other hand, my then girlfriend told me once she preferred mine because my brother "gave it all away at first glance" and she thought it was more beautiful to see me get hard when we were together than to have a "ready-to-use" stiff one
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what did she mean by "gave it all away at first glance"? did she see his erection? what did your brother wear? didn't he try to hide it?
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he didn't flash it to her if that's what you mean but there were occasions when she saw him wearing only boxers and then it was quite obvious that he was hard and even in everyday life of course you noticed there was something in his trousers even if you could not tell whether he was stiff or just well-endowed
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My brother had erections when adolescent. I am 2 years older than he is, so I was 15 when he started to have them on a regular basis and I thought it was terribly gross. Today I am sorry I made him feel even more ashamed than he was already. We talked about it recently and he said he completely understood that I couldn't stand it at the time. He tried to hide his erections but it was of course almost impossible. In the mornings he put his penis behind the elastic waist band of his pajama trousers with the top of his pajama hanging over it, but of course this way it could slip out completely which made it even worse when it happened. When he was 15 years old he also occasionally ejaculated spontaneously, but this lasted only for a few months. Now he told me he actually got it under control by masturbating more often. Today he's 18 and he's still got erections quite often but he's at ease with it and I am too. We have another brother (actually half-brother) who's only 12 but he started puberty early and he's having erections since he's 10. From occasional and short they turned into frequent and long when he was 11 and from what he tells and what my brother witnesses for some months now his penis is nearly always semi-hard, and he has an average of 5-6 complete erections each day and stays fully erect in the morning for more than an hour after he's awake, without being able even to pee.
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This IS gross! You were so right I think! My brother shows his boner off. In the mornings he wears only a t-shirt so you can see all of it. For the rest of the day I dont need to see him naked except when we both need the bath at the same time and if I pop in on him and he takes a shower and his thing is standing I cant hold it against him but in the mornings I think it's so gross. I talked to our mother about it and she says only "thats boys"!
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How old are you? I found it really disgusting also, but as I wrote I was myself still going through puberty at the time. When he started to have his first "real" erections I was 12/13 and struggling with the fact that my areolas started to show. I tried to hide it as best as I could and I couldn't understand that he didn't. Later, when he started to be hard regularly I was losing my battle against my titties. I was 15 and they turned from swollen areolas to hard nipples. So I was all the more uncertain, about my own body and about his and I would have liked all these things which seemed like constant-sexualness to disappear. Then I learned better. You will be at ease with all this also one day.
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Not the same situation for me. I'm 21 he's 20, we're sharing a flat. He always behaved like that. When I talked to our mother about it we were adolescents. He never stopped showing it off. I never had a problem with my breasts and I don't have with my brother's boners. It's just that he doesn't try to dress properly.
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Leave your brothers alone. It's hard enough for us. I started having frequent hardons when 14, before that I laughed myself at 2 other boys in our class who were always hard in the changing rooms not knowing that I would suffer from it myself. The first time it happened I was changing into my swimming trunks, it was just a swelling which nobody noticed. I was afraid it would happen again after swimming class, I was used to shower naked as did most of us and I was afraid also that if I changed my habit I would give it away too, so I decided to go for it but I thought about it so much that it happened even before I was out of the water. 1 of the other 2 now laughed at me and then I did something which I still believe was very brave, I apologized to him for my past behaviour, undressed and had a shower like that. For a couple of months my penis was hard only from time to time but then it was so regularly in the changing room. Undressing was something which seemed to trigger it somehow. Over the next months other boys had also occasionnally hardons and there was also another 1 who started to be hard quite often.
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I need some advice. Like every year, two months from now, I and my wife and our kids will be going to spend our holidays at the sea side in a naturist resort. Our daughter is 15, she has always been ok with this. Our 2 boys are 9 and 13. Again, they have always been ok with it but last year the elder had an erection a couple of times and felt fairly uncomfortable with it. Since then his spontaneous erections have become regular. He started to get dressed all the time even at home and asked us to spend the week of holidays elsewhere or to stay at friends' for that week. We tried to convince him that he shouldn't be ashamed of his erections but in vain. We told him it was natural and I reminded him of the fact that I myself have sometimes an erection which I don't hide, but he wouldn't listen to all our reasons. How can we bring him to accept his body and to behave as usual?
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I'd say you'd help him by leaving him alone, letting him go through this phase without pushing him into something he clearly doesn't want. I don't know whether you're from a naturist family yourself or not. I am. During my puberty I certainly wouldn't have undressed, not only because of the erections (at the beginning I didn't have that many) but because of everything, the hair growing and the penis getting bigger and because of a general sense of modesty which I developed then. My parents let me have it my way and I got dressed during our holidays and on the beach and in the village nobody told me to get undressed, except once 2 boys who were a year or 2 older. They stayed with their parents in the same building than we did and and bullied me because of my clothes and because they supposed it was precisely to hide my erection that I was dressed all the time. They themselves had hard-ons but seemed to be proud of them. But I wasn't the only boy who stayed dressed or who wore at least swimming trunks. There weren't that many adolescents around but I would say that half of them stayed dressed. It wasn't all too clear in my head either for later when I started to get more erections sometimes I wouldn't be satisfied with my swimming trunks and I'd wear shorts on top of them and sometimes I'd prefer to go bottomless because it was of course more comfortable especially with a hard-on but I'd wear a t-shirt in order not to feel completely naked. Of course eventually I got naked again. This was precisely when my erections were worst but I had learned to accept my body again. This whole story of mine in order to make you understand that boys learn this by themselves and that yours will come back to naturism in a few years if he wants to.
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