im ready to have sex but im scared

what r u scared of because If u r scared to have sex then that means that u r not ready.because wen ur trully ready ur ready mentally and physically.but like i said wat r u scared of?

i am just scared of having sex but when i am around this one boy i feel like i want to but i tell myself no i don't know if i am ready but i am also scared that if i have sex that he will tell someone and they will call me names but when he is around his cousin he is a big jack ass what is the right thing to do am i ready or not what should i do how do i know if i am ready for sex :'( help me get the answers plez :-)

If you are scared or uninformed then you aren't ready hun. Don't make a mistake.

There are other things you can do with your boyfreind to be intimate without having sex. (Handjobs and Blowjobs etc)



Whatever you do, if you decide you want to have sex. DON'T HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX. or you will risk becoming PREGNANT. Use CONDOMS!

im 16 and i think im ready to have sex but im scared it might hurt will it

Depends. Some people "Pop their cherry" sooner than others. Maybe by riding a bike, or falling in a certain spot. But if you haven't popped it, which you might not even know the answer to, than yes. It will most likely hurt,



And fir the first question...



What everyone is saying is true. To be ready to have sex is to tell yourself "I'm ready." Obiously, it seems to us your saying that to yourself. Don't get caught into thinking about the pleasure. Also, it's said to now be so great the first time around.



But that is my my perspective. And I'm a male, but I hoped I helped. Both of you.

Can't find an edit button. But I typed wrong.

I meant to say your NOT telling yourself that your ready. Sorry.

SWEETNESS, IF YOU ONLY FEEL LIKE YOU WANT SEX WITH THIS YOUNG MAN WHEN HE'S AROUND, THEN YOU'RE NOT AS STRONG AS YOU SHOULD BE. NO ONE TELLS YOU THAT SEX IS A GAMBLE. THE MAIN ISSUE IS STD'S AND PREGNACY FOR MOST PEOPLE. BUT THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER IS A LOT DEEPER. YOUR VIRGINITY IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY. SHOULD YOU GIVE IN TO THE HYPE ABOUT HOW GOOD IT WILL FEEL, YOU'LL SALE YOURSELF SHORT. YOU CAN'T MISS WHAT YOU'VE NEVER HAD. SO IF HE DECIDES THAT NOT GETTING IT WILL WRECK YOUR RELATIONSHIP, THEN HE'S AN EVEN BIGGER ASS THAN YOU THINK. VIRGINITY SHOULD NOT BE GIVEN AWAY DUE TO LENGTH OF RELATIONSHIP, TO PROVE LOVE, ON A DARE, FOR MONEY, ETC. IT'S A ONCE IN A LIFETIME GIFT. THE ONLY ONE YOU'RE GONNA HAVE. SO IF YOU GIVE HIM THIS TREASURE, AND HE LEAVES YOU, WHAT WILL YOU DO? WHAT IF HE DOES DECIDE TO BROADCAST IT LIKE THE EVENING NEWS, WOULD YOU FEEL CHEATED? IF THIS WILL TRULY BE YOUR FIRST TIME, THEN YOU NEED TO KNOW THAT FEELINGS GET TRAMPLED SOME TIMES. BECAUSE NOW YOU'RE FEELING THAT YOU OWN HIS HEART BECAUSE YOU GAVE HIM YOUR SACRED HEART. THIS CAUSES PROBLEMS WHEN YOU ARE AS YOUNG AS YOU ARE. I HAVE BEEN CELIBATE FOR OVER A YEAR NOW, AND I WISH I WOULD HAVE WAITED. I'M NOT SCORNED, JUST A LOT WISER NOW. FIND YOUR STRENGTH AND WAIT. IT'S NOT SOMETHING YOU GET BACK IF YOU GET HURT. BUT YOU SHOULD TAKE ALL THE NECESSARY PRECAUTIONS IF YOU STILL DECIDE TO GO THROUGH WITH THIS.

why are you scared?
The key is to make sure you are not going to fall pregnant if you do have sex and to make sure he does not give you those STDs
So, you need to be prepared.
Read up about it, learn to masturbate and to discover and explore your body without guilt and find what pleasures you most.
When you and your bf get together make sure you have a very private place and all the time in the world. You dont want to be rushed. You dont want to do it hurriedly.
Make sure you and he enjoy a lot of foreplay. Let him perform oral sex on you and masturbate and finger you. Make sure he makes you orgasm through oral sex.
When you are very aroused sexually and while you are having an orgasm ONLY then allow him to penetrate you with his penis.
Take your time, enjoy plenty and more of foreplay and make sure you have some lubricant handy so he can use it on his penis before he penetrates you.
It is fun, it is very enjoyable provided you do your research and homework and practice on yourself before the real event.
Have some chopped fresh pineapple to chomp on, wash your intimate bits especially your anus ( thats where smells come from) and make sure you drink plenty of water so you can pee immediately after sex.

I think you should tell your boyfriend how you feel about this situation.