Is it an orgasm?

For every woman its different. Some women will experience a liquid discharge while others wont. Some women will have one big bang while others will ripple. Some women can not orgasm with sexual intercouse and can only achieve it through oral or self stimulations.

My suggest to you is to self stimulate yourself and figure out what you like and then express it to your boyfriend so he can do it during sexual relations with you. Also some women can only achieve an orgasm by using vibrators.

If your enjoying yourself and it feels good I wouldnt stress to much about did I cum or didnt I/did I orgasm or didnt I.

Yeah, I plan too. An I agree that stressing about it won't help. It's just that my boyfriend really wants us to climax together. I know we will eventually get there via different methods but when ever the squirting thing happens he asks if I orgasmed and I don't know what to say. Because there wasnt any distinct feeling of pleasure outside the normal. It's frustrating

It's entirely possible to enjoy sex without having an orgasm! Women are different than men. Men are goal oriented and the harder they try, the more pressure is on the achievement versus the pleasure of being with someone. Younger women need time to develop and know their orgasm and having a man push for it doesn't help. The psychological pressure kinda kills it - why most women eventually start faking it. lol. I used to only orgasm through masturbation when I was in my 20's, it wasn't until after I had a baby that I could orgasm through intercourse only. Maybe try masturbation during intercourse or longer foreplay. Either way, don't worry! It doesn't always happen. That's normal!