I was 14 when my boyfriend back then fingered me. It hurt terribly and the clit got swollen big, and it hurt really bad for a few days and I always had to pee. I had no pleasure in that whatsoever (the fingering). then with another boyfriend, I had protected sex with him for a painstakingly long three minutes because it was extremely painful. I didn't love them though, so could that have an effect on why it hurt so damn much, because I didn't want to do anything in the first place? But even so, I'm 19 now and I don't even finger myself because it hurts a lot so I just stop and don't try again for however many months. I haven't had a boyfriend since then and my opinion about sex still hasn't changed. Why can't I find any pleasure at all, even with myself? I'm thinking it might be something emotional but maybe there's something wrong with me. I also have a problem with my period. Sometimes it skips six months and sometimes four and I'm not on the pill. What the hell is going on? :-(
Can someone give me answers please?