Hi i'm 35 years old and i've been going out with a woman for 3 1/2 years. We are currently on a break cos of our sexual problems which i believe to be psychhological. The latest attempt saw her dancing sexy for me. It was our first time to try anything in over 6 months and i wasn't expacting it. I was well hard she is the sexiest woman i know but as soon as it we started stripping off i lost my erection completely. It ended in a row as it always does. Later that night i went down on her while she was asleep and she responded but the same thing happened again but i managed to enter her. After 30 seconds, whilst completely flaccid, i actually came. Don't know if that counts as success but the end result is that we are now on a break. She says she needs a bit of space to sort her head out and get her confidence up.
We've been to counselling but it didn't work. I know cialis would work but she refuses to have sex while i'm on tablets as she feels it wouldn't be genuine. She's finally accepted that it's not cos i don't find her attractive but she's not helping me to fix it. I need to do it on my own and hope that we get back together and that i can finally physically demonstrate my lust for her. My question is, is there exercises i can do, mental or physical, to get a strong erection and maintain it??? I'm a smoker and i know this doesn't help but i don't have the strength to quit while we're on a break. I'm destroying the most perfect woman i know and myself too i need to fix this please help
We've been to counselling but it didn't work. I know cialis would work but she refuses to have sex while i'm on tablets as she feels it wouldn't be genuine. She's finally accepted that it's not cos i don't find her attractive but she's not helping me to fix it. I need to do it on my own and hope that we get back together and that i can finally physically demonstrate my lust for her. My question is, is there exercises i can do, mental or physical, to get a strong erection and maintain it??? I'm a smoker and i know this doesn't help but i don't have the strength to quit while we're on a break. I'm destroying the most perfect woman i know and myself too i need to fix this please help
Is the thought of pregnancy/ intamacy looming in your head, preventing you from staying hard??? Maybe it's something like that, though you said you have been to counseling, was it a sex therapist or a "normal" counselor. Cialis would not be genuine??? Isn't that like saying, "I can't take antibiotics to get rid off this illness, because antibiotics are a man made drug to help my body perform better in fighting off this pneumonia." How is it after a few drinks? Any easier to keep it up? I'm thinking that alcohol may put you in a more relaxed mood & if it is a phsycological thing, then maybe a few drinks will help put you at ease. I'm no doctor, but if you can get it up at one point then what is it that gets it down? I'm going with it's in your head & not that you want it to go back down, but something in your head is keeping you from staying hard. Examine times when you have been hard & at what point it goes limp, were you alone, with her, what was your mood, were you stressed, tired, uneasy, hungry, after exersice? What are the similarities & what are the differences? Key in on those to help you figure out what may be triggering this for you. Maybe it happened to you once & you are so afraid it's going to happen again, you set yourself up for failure without any conscience effort to do so.
Cialis doesn't MAKE you have an erection, nor does it fake sexual attraction.
All it does is allow you to have an erection easier, IF you are sexually stimulated or aroused. It does nothing for what you think or feel, or love.
Why even tell her if you take Cialis? Just let her enjoy the results, eh?
All it does is allow you to have an erection easier, IF you are sexually stimulated or aroused. It does nothing for what you think or feel, or love.
Why even tell her if you take Cialis? Just let her enjoy the results, eh?
Sounds like you have a problem right here.
I would advise you to visit a sex therapist, who will guide you through this problem and help you solve it.
If you have had any good erection in the past and suddenly this happened, you should be able to overcome it, but if it is a many times problems you better see a therapist.
Don't despair, to every problem there is a solution.
I really think it is important to have her on board during your treatment, so first you need to be honest with her, and with yourself.
Maybe you need to go slowly, and just play with your partner a couple of weeks without intercourse.
Shower her with love, be romantic, touch her, give her an erotic massage, talk to her lovingly and tender, kiss her whole body.
do this every day for two weeks without sex even if you get a hard on now and then.
She needs to talk to you, touch you and love you in the same way but don't force her, remember if she loves you she will do anything to help you.
And the most important advise. STOP SMOKING as soon as possible, this will be the small sacrifice you can make for her.
Eat healthy foods and exercise daily, drink a lot of water.
Wish you the best. Good luck.
I would advise you to visit a sex therapist, who will guide you through this problem and help you solve it.
If you have had any good erection in the past and suddenly this happened, you should be able to overcome it, but if it is a many times problems you better see a therapist.
Don't despair, to every problem there is a solution.
I really think it is important to have her on board during your treatment, so first you need to be honest with her, and with yourself.
Maybe you need to go slowly, and just play with your partner a couple of weeks without intercourse.
Shower her with love, be romantic, touch her, give her an erotic massage, talk to her lovingly and tender, kiss her whole body.
do this every day for two weeks without sex even if you get a hard on now and then.
She needs to talk to you, touch you and love you in the same way but don't force her, remember if she loves you she will do anything to help you.
And the most important advise. STOP SMOKING as soon as possible, this will be the small sacrifice you can make for her.
Eat healthy foods and exercise daily, drink a lot of water.
Wish you the best. Good luck.