Lesbian dating a straight man.

I'm a straight guy goind through a divorce after 34 years. Deeplu infatuated with a wonderful lesbian girl about 20 years younger. She and I are very transparent, but I want to hug and cuddle and make her feel good (orally and touch). Breeched subject discreetly but afraid of scaring her off -- any suggestions?

I too am dating a girl who is identified as a lesbian. I hate labels. She had been married to a man then had 3 serious female relationships all ended terribly. We had been friends first when my wife left me (she cheated after 13th years of marriage) she was the one who was there for me. I absolutely treasure this women and she is 10 years older than me also. So most would say we have an uphill battle it will never work ,but it is. We love each other very much. Don't worry about labels just be honest and love each other. If kissing feels weird hug instead save kisses for special times. Talk to him about you still being attacked to women. He might be ok with it. Most men are especially if we get to watch. My girlfriend and I have tag about it haven't done it but I love her and want her and my needs met.we are getting married in aug.

Me and my girlfriend who is lesbian have been together for 9 months, we are also 10 years apart in age. We love eachother very much and we are eachothers best friends. She struggles with her feelings about women and also trys to like being sexual with me, but she says that she does not hate it. She likes pleasuring me and i like pleasuring her. weve come close to breaking up atleast 5 times now because she was confused. The struggles are hard but im madly in love with her and she is madly in love with me. I really believe that i would spend the rest of my life comparing her to other women if we broke up and she would not come close. Sometimes i feel i dont know what to do and letting her go feels wrong and very stupid...needless to say im stuck and confused.

I am going through a similar situation and it is hard to trust her. She says she loves me she can't have children. She has a cat and a dog, so even though I have allergies to them, I tolerate it. I tolerate it because I love her and I love the cat and dog. She smokes cigarettes too. She has psychiatric problems as well. There is alot more behind it though. I often feel hurt by it. I feel empty though without her. I have my share of problems as well. I have a multitude of problems as well. I am a recovering alcoholic and addict. So you can only imagine how hard it is not to walk away from her. She knows everything about me and I am still learning more about her. The program says that two sickies, don't make a wellie. So I am confused about what we can do to help each other. What am I suppose to do?

Yes just ask her and see what she may say if she says NO then no s it ..But if she says Yes ten go for it BUT don't rush in to Quickly ....good luck :-/

Find a bisexual go between. Life complicated the traditional solutions don't apply. You could try a strap on as well, but definitely tell him how you feel. Believe me it's better to get it out in the open and not let things fester and grow until they explode. He is probably sensing your disgust on some level.

I don't believe it is issue for straight male or lesbian to date, the main issue is to stop thinking about love, instead start by caring for each other and love will follow, it doesn't matter if she is lesbian or not, after we must accept people and appreciate people for who the are...

hello dear, there nothing wrong with been, it is human universal and civil right, only you can make yourself happy, if been lesbian is what you wanted then go right ahead , I believe you will then who you are meant to be. See I am a straight single male who love to date lesbian or bisexual, someone I can deeply care for but so never met one, I too hope to date a lesbian...I don't mind if she have a partner, I will still care for her...
So dear, sit down relax and make a decision and make yourself happy...
Wish all the best...

Reading some responses almost feels like therapy. My lesbian friend and I (straight male) met through a mutual friend a year and a half ago and instantly clicked. I am not super agressive with women so her being lesbian made it easier for me to be myself because theres no pressure for sex. Well eventually we hung out every other week with drinks of course. We started breaking the touch barrier and gave long rocking hugs. We checked out other women together while being flirty. Then on the night of her sisters wedding we had drunk sex (I was her date). I will admit I did push back when she started getting a little overboard with her hands and telling me Im sexy but she kept pushing and I started wanted it. She told me that she wanted to remain friends and that she cant be straight a few weeks after. Well her mother passed away a few months after the wedding and her text responses went from a day to weeks. I am not sure if shes avoiding me or because she needed time due to her mothers passing. Ive seen posts of her going out with her lesbian friends (drinking) on Facebook so there is a strong assumption that shes done with me. Ive dated many women in the past and for some reason shes got my heart beating some kind of way that crashes my lungs and affects my breathing. For the first time I listened to the lyrics to Miley Cyrus's song "Wrecking Ball" and it rips my heart to shreds. I wanted to be there for her when her mom passed but she kept me in the dark. Im a stupid love sick puppy for someone who will never be with me. Oh foolish Foolish Heart.

Hi Michael I know this was posted a year ago but your post has given me and my fiance real hope and peace of mind I am too engaged to be married to a lesbian she has known for about 2 and a half years of our 7year relationship we love each other deeply and have a 4 year old together and we thought we were alone in all of this and now know we are not alone and not the only ones it has helped us understand how far things can go if our relationship is strong enough thank you again

HELLO...!! i WOULD BE MORE THAN HAPPY TO HELP YOU.
What you are going thru...I felt exactly as you are feeling today.
i DO notTHINK YOU SHOULD TELL ANY STRAIGHT FRIENDS,OR FRIENDS WHO,BECAUSE OF THIER PARENTS PREDJUDICE,.....trust me...I FOUND OUT THE HARD WAY.
CONTACT,The Human Rights Campaign.
As a life long member...we have the rescources,to "be there" for you...especially at 13 yo. I didn't tell my,parents(the best in the world...until I
got Cancer,at 37. My MOTHER,SAID TO ME...."WE ARE ALL GOD'S CHILDREN....AND LOVE YOU..NO MATTER WHAT. :

IT BROKE HER HEART,THAT SOCIETY,DOES THIS TO PEOPLE...

i HOPE TO HEAR FROM YOU...I GUESS IT;S THE WAY i WAS RAISED. yOU ARE A BRAVE GIRL...EVERYTHING WILL BE OK.

I WILL TELL YOU ONE MORE THING. mYNIECE,DISCOVERED,AT 12,SHE WAS GAY............SHE CONFIDED IN HER CLOSEST FRIENDS.............THEY PUT PEER PRESSURE ON HER...AND NOW SHE IS LIVING A DOUBLE LIFE...AT 24.

DON'T LET ANYONE,TRY TO "WALK IN YOUR SHOES"...YOU DESERVE,RESPECT,AND UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND SUPPORT.AS WE ALL DO.
I HOPE TO HEAR FROM YOU....
lORRIE
rEHONOTH bEACH,dELAWARE :)

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I happen to fall into something similar which is very confusing. I have been divorced for about 15 years and stopped dating about 10 years ago. Have been perfectly happy by myself and have had zero interest in women. Not that I am not attracted, but pretty much resigned myself that that part of my life was over - and, as I said, perfectly fine with it. I've enjoyed the freedom from dating, the ability to do what I want, when I want. Have a beautiful daughter that I raised myself who just recently got engaged.

Spend my leisure time fishing, hunting, traveling and am financially secure to do so. Recently I got into wildlife photography and met and conversed online with a woman who did the most amazing photography.

Here's where the trouble started. As I spent some time with her, I found she was an amazing PERSON. We have many, many things in common. Sometimes it's like looking in a mirror - although enough differences to keep it interesting and make me think. Many of her friends are lesbian and I kinda figure she is too, although I have never broached the topic - it being her business. However, I have always made sure if I invited her for weekend activity or trip to make sure the invitation extended to her friend as well - to make it more comfortable for her, and to make sure she knew I wasn't making a pass, etc. (she was the victim of a violent assault)

In two years, she has never made the slightest signal she is interested - at least not that I could tell, and I have never made a pass, respecting her space. But I have told her how much I enjoy her company, and I feel so completely naturally at ease with her. I have given some gifts here and there, making sure they did not make her feel uncomfortable by asking.

I took a trip to African this summer, and my daughter who was supposed to go, had to cancel. I asked a hunting buddy to take her place. After return, I had casually mentioned that I wish she was there - perfect place for her photo skills - and she said "why didn't I ask? " to which I replied, I didn't think she'd go with me. She indicated she would have loved to go with me. Go figure.

Since then, we have done more stuff together and have always had a great time. Fun, comfortable, relaxed.

But now I am starting to have deep feelings for her. Think about her more and more - in ways I have never felt towards anyone - not even my ex.

I strongly suspect this isn't going to end well - and I am scared sh*tless to mention how I feel - because I believe her orientation is lesbian, and I don't want to lose the friendship I have or lose the good times. Not looking to disrupt things - but wanting to see her more than every once in a while ( we live hundreds of miles apart - but I have a house near where she lives and travel there frequently to fish/photo) and in more social settings. Been a few times I wanted to kiss her.

Not ready to walk away just yet - but trying to figure out how and what is possible. And don't want to make things awkward or problematic for her.

Lesbians don't fall in love with men and have sex with them, and they certainly don't describe men as their soulmate. This women needs professional theory to determine the origins of her lesbianism. True lesbians are basically men in women's bodies. But sometimes male and female can live in the same body.

Michael, you can't be a straight male that's for sure. Since you claim you are with a woman who is a lesbian, you are probably bisexual. The idea that a woman is a lesbian because she doesn't like penises is nonsense. If you are a man, why would a lesbian woman want to be with you. And why would you want to be with a lesbian women. You both have a long way to go on the plane of human psychological maturity

It doesn't surprise me that the lie is more comforting than the truth to you. Why ask if so you want siltstone to do is take your side? How selfish? N