I'm 16 and my boyfriend and i have been going out for a long time. We're both ready to have sex and my parents totally understand because they would rather us have protection than not at all so i talked to my mom about it. but what made me think was when he asked me if i had been popped meaning my hymen. he's not pressurung me and he's taking it at my pace but should i be embarressed when i bleed? and i dont know it i have torn it alittle already because i masterbated and bleed alittle a couple times, and he's kinda big, is it possible that he could be too big???? help
Well for one, you should not be embarrassed if you bleed--it's just the way things work. What you should do about your b/f maybe being too big is talk to him while you two are having sex. You need to tell him when he starts to hurt you and what feels good. I wouldn't be too shocked if it didn't hurt the first time, but it will get better the more you do it. Just please use protection unless you are wanting to have a baby and being 16 and hopefully still in school, I don't think you want one. Ok, I hope I've helped. If you have any more questions or anything just post again on this same topic and I'll check back here periodically to make sure everything is ok!! Let me know how everything goes!! Well maybe not everything... ;-)
thankyou so much, ill right more if i do have more questions very soon
ummm....i want to loose my virginity but im scared to show my body and the pain....im wondering what it feels like and what is it suppose to feel like while your having sex{just now loosing your virginity}???how is it suppose to feel like when your cherry pops??please help me and is there anyway to try to keep my mind off the pain when i loose my virginty becAUse im really scared...like i said of the pain and showing my body???PLZ HELP :-(
i dont think you should be ashamed to show your body if hes having sex with you he shouldn't care what you look like,if your relaxed and not nervous while your having sex for the first time the pain shouldn't be so bad but if your nervous it will hurt just talk to him and let him know what makes you feel comfortable.