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hi, i have quite a problem with precum ... i lose erection everytime this fluid leaks out of my penis ... and this happens EVERYtime i have an erection...

i get an erection, then after a few minutes (or even a few 10 seconds) precum leaks out of my penis (it doesnt matter if i stimulate my penis or not) and i dont feel anything, the problem is that i lose erection a few moments after that ... because of this i cant have intercourse with my girlfriend.

this happens only when im with my girlfriend ... when i masturbate its all normal - i have little or no precum and i ejaculate and orgasm normally

im 19 years old, these are my first experiences (i havent had sex/intercourse yet), but i've been masturbating for 7 years now - always without such problems.

i'd be very happy if somebody could give me some advice, thanks

Your problem is just psychological and you should find a way to over-come it. The fact that you have no problems with masturbation tells that you could be scared of your first intercourse or have other issues that you should find a way to over-come in order to start practicing sex.

First of all, I don’t know why you are frightened by the pre-cum. Pre-cum is natural lubricant and you certainly have it even during masturbation but you obviously didn’t notice it since you have no worries during masturbation. Pre-cum must be there to help you lubricate the penis and the foreskin and it needs to be there before ejaculation to clear the urethral passage from urine so that sperm could go through without being burnt from urine acid.
So, pre-cum is not a bad thing, it is a good thing and it needs to be there. Not knowing this could have made a pressure on you and you were unable to hold your erection because of that. Just knowing this may help!

Relax and enjoy spending time with your girlfriend!
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thank you very much, this information is very helpful indeed

i'll try to relax and enjoy and then we'll see if it gets better

just one last thing to clear ... so,precum has absolutely no effect on erection? and so the only reason i'm losing my erection everytime i get wet is because i'm scared of it.

i really hope this will help, thanks again
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I have exactly the same problem and it doesn't seem to be related to my fears. Can anyone help?
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You guys are perfectly normal. The precum is there cause you're excited. And the erection goes away cause you're not reay for it yet.

I'll recommend you guys prepare your mind that you are gonna do it and its okay. And concentrate. The intial stages when you just get excited, you need to concentrate before you get to a stage when you're physically ready for it, i.e. all the blood is in there and its throbbin ;]
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Absolutely, precum can affect your erection. It's not in your mind. Precum makes the body think that you have excreted ejaculate and if you are like most men, get soft after you ejaculate, the less prone you are to get an erection.

Case and point, most men are familiar with the fact that most mornings you wake up with an erection. Regardless of what the reasoning it is behind it, that is definitely one time you do not produce precum simply cause it's not a sexual thing. Therefore, without the production, you can sustain and maintain an erection.

I would talk with your doctor and request to speak with a urologist. There is nothing to fear but to find out what can be done.
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From my limited experience,some 72 yrs to be exact,precum appears when you are excited enough about a situation,often before an erection has even started. It is an indication that you are being turned on and that thinges are starting to happen.I have experienced this many times I,m glad to say but I dont remember having much precum around after ejaculation just plenty of semen,and a hell of a mess.
Dont worry to much about it unless it fails to appear,you need it.
hope this helps. :-D :-D :-D
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Ok guys..Im 15 and I think i have problems concerning precum.

When my GF and I do foreplay for about 10 mins..I'll be fully erect.But my problem is,once precum starts comming out,It won't stop.It makes me lose my full erection too.We Occasionally do foreplay secretly,because I always have friends with me in our room.And sometimes when I'm ready to penetrate her,we do it in a discreet manner and I occasionally am in a very uncomfortable position in bed.I feel pressure in my abs and once I focus on my abs I lose the erection.But we tried one time in a hotel where no one can see us and everything was alright.Is something wrong with me?Or is it natural for my age?
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I have the exact problem as the topic creator, same scenario.  Although I'm not a profesional, I do not think it's psychological problem, and would be interested if anyone has alternative ideas or solutions.  In addition to the symptoms as the topic creator, I also have sharp abdominal pain afterwards that only happens in this scenario... excess precum and loss of ability to get an erection with a girl, as the topic creator described.
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I have this kond of problem but precum comes out of enis any time with or without erections please help what should I do
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This is a common experience. The poster who said that your body reacts to pre-cum as if you have fully ejaculated is correct, and that's why you lose your erection. When this happens, if you wait a little while, you should get back on track. What you need is a patient woman, or a blue pill (a quarter of one pill will probably get you through the pre-cum limpness)! Best of boner-luck.
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hi i have the same problem and i'm now 21 how did you get over this problem?
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HI Im 47 and I have had this issue since puberty. In my particular case, I get wet long before I get hard so I STILL have to masturbate to get an erection before sex. Even if I just 'think' about sex with my partner, I get wet - but not hard.i need physical stimulation to get hard and once im hard, im fine. I have seen my doctor (today infact) and he said it is almost CERTAINLY phychological. I just need to relax, think positive 'I CAN do this!' and all should be OK. I will update as and when. Happy Boning, folks! :)

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I am male & married recently..I have a problem in erection during intercourse. I am able to get the erection during masturbation. But during intercourse, initially i am getting the erection after foreplay & blowjob. After i put the condoms & entered into vagina, when i try to move back & forth (i am not sure whether i am doing it correctly), i am losing the erection. Again i will have to try the forepaly & blowjob to get the erection & but still i am not able to keep the erection in intercourse. I have tried intercourse few times & but not able to do successfully. Can you please tell me what is the problem. I am really concern abt this, please help me. I am masturbating regularly..(almost daily for years)..Is that causing the problem..If so, if i stop the masturbation, will the problem get solved..Please help me to overcome this problem

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how to overcome the problem
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