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Losing virginity is hard, tried everything

By bikerchick46 | 13 posts, last post
Sasa Milosevic, MD answered this Virginity Loss, Hymen, And Its Restoration
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bikerchick46

Hi, I have tried to have sex with my boyfriend 3 times, we try for ages to get 'it' in, but it's just not happening. I love my boyfriend a lot and I really am ready to have sex with him emotionally. I try to relax as much as possible during penetration, we use lubricant, and we've tried everything else which is only natural to do to help get it in. I can relax, but at a certain point during penetration the pain becomes way too much and I can't take anymore. It's never been all the way in, and I know that I have the capability to take it all in, but I can't cos it hurts too much. Please, please someone tell me what to do, or who I could talk to about my problem. Thankyou

Guest

hello.

 

I believe that you are in the constant fear because of the fear of broken hymen and losing virginity is not that easy as you might think. especially if you are scared. I know the feeling, whatever you do, is not enough and you can't relax.

I would not recommend you to take any pain killers because this will go away after the first time. Next sex won't be painful like your first sex. 

just like you, my first "sex" was just a try. I believe that my ex-boyfriend and I were trying to break my hymen more than 7 times. It was hard.

when the eight night came, it was time to try again. I was scared so I took one vodka :/ It helped me a lot because I was relaxed. 

now, I am not saying that you should take an alcohol, I just want to tell that this is all in your head. 

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Markus15824

Hello i bike too.
you can try regualar old pain killers to relieve the pain of penetration. It might also help to talk to someone you know and trust about this like a friend or distant cousin. haha. really though if you are both at the level of this relationship emotionally the physical part is a side dish.
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Guest

the pain is there just to let u kno that ur skin is being stretched..an well since its probably ur first time...ur skin has never been stretched before...
wen it was my first time, it hurt like hell wen he tried to put it in..so i wud tell him to stop..then we'd try again an again...u jus gotta be wet enough...an it will go through...try lots of foreplay (his fingers can do the trick too...)

goodluck
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Guest

i rember when me and my girl friend did it first time ever we had problems to but i thought of somthing that realy worked at first i was trying to go in realy hard but then what i did i intered her while being soft and got harder while in her this seemed to have worked for us this did the trick maybe this will help
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Guest

hey b.c.

have you had success yet? my bf and i are in the same boat. we have tried multiple times to have sex but so far no success due to enormous amounts of pain and have also tried all the things you have listed and attempted. it feels like my vagina is blocked other than the hymen, which i know is not true, but either way things aren't working out. let me know when you have success and how! and i will post back if vice versa....
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george10184699

Hi. i'm a boy but i read a magazine for girls once (I know its strange, was messing around with one of my mates) and this girl had the same problem. It said you just need to masturbate before you see your boyfriend and be really really turned on for when it happens...

sorry if this didnt help XD
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Wookie8784941

This will get easier the more you do it. I had trouble trying to penatrate my gf the first few time. She was in alot of pain during it, and bled. However, keep trying and plenty of lubricant is the best policy...oh and take your time, even use something to 'open' the vagina, like a small vibrator/dildo/fingers for a lil while. Its both fun and for you and your parner if done right.

Hope this helps.
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Guest

Okay I was told by a friend that you can lose your virginity from a dildo? Is it true or not. I find it interesting and those who are trying to lose their virginity, I have tried multiple times and found that the guy on top don't work... Try being on top an lower yourself on his penis, it hurts alot less especially when your doing the work, don't let him push his way in cuz it will hurt like hell trust me. :-D
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Guest

Once you have lowered yourself on his penis slowly start moving around and get uses to his penis being in there. You shouldn't feel any pain or bleed. It didn't for me anyway, but then again everyone is different but I hope this helps!!
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teenmom17131552

No you cannot loose your virginity to a dildo. I like it more when I am on top with my husband bc I do it the way it makes me feel good. And I can go deeper or faster or slower. But he likes it all anyways. The first time is always hard and painful. It just depends on the size of the penis and thickness. But if you masterbate a little before then it could open you up more. But if he has foreplay with youi like fingering you, or lickin you down there it could get you wet so it wil be easier to go in. :D I hope this helps!
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roche108

Look up vaginaism. I might have spelt it wrong but its possible you have it
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Guest

come to me and i will make it easy for u :D

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diaz


I was having the same problem...and i am old and still in the same situation. from what i have learn you need to start using a vibrator or better a dildo...by youself. this will help to open up your virgina and help you to become comfortable. start doing it as much as you can for a few months. thats what i am doing and i think it is preparing me for when i am ready again.

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