I am 24 years old and in a committed relationship with my soul mate, whom I would love nothing more than to have kids with in the future. However, this past week I had a medical (pill) abortion. We are just getting on our feet financially and it is not the time to have a child with our schedules and finances. I attempted the herbal abortion route, but it ended up not working. Because of unknown side effects to the fetus I had to follow through medically.
It was the best decision for me (and us) and I do not regret it. What I am struggling with is not telling my boyfriend. He knows the possibility of pregancy, but when the doctor's office failed to call back with confirmation I took the abortion route. I know if I tell him he would leave me. I cannot bare the thought of him leaving me. But how do I keep this from him?
No one else in my life even knows the possibility of pregnancy. I am alone in this and lying to the person who I care about the most.
In my opinion, you're going to need to tell him. It was his baby as much as yours.
If you don't, at some point he may find out, and then what happens? He won't be able to trust you and it will make it all the worse.
You also don't need the pressure of keeping this secret.
Tell him.