My 14 Year Old Daughter and 24 year old guy

Wow that's crazy,how did you managed to keep it a secret beats me,specially that young,most teens would of talk or shared their secret with a friend.get at me

Probably a perv undercover..and anyone else who says not to report it or do anything about it.

Wooaw!...How in the hell this Relationship initiated in the first place?..You met this person through family or friends, or like an Internet site (someone got through dateline)...Just a stranger man coming across in public asking to date you at that age is very disturbing for any Child at 13.So i know this person had to work his way towards you to even have access to you to win your trust..Weren't your parents paying any attention??..Didn't you felt akward dating and sleeping with a man like 30 years old?..It sounds very disturbing.How did you manage to go on dates in public and even have an ongoing active sexual intercourse..I know somebody had to Smell something wrong going on, either on his life our yours, but decide to stay quiet.Regardless of your consent is still wrong on his part to invite himself to have himself with an underage girl.This man could be probably targeting females your age or even younger.This Men don't stop once they have their way with an under age person, til somebody Crosses his path and puts him away.I hope your emotional strong and Cope with over coming this trauma.A girl that young are really not strong to go through an emotional coaster with an adult.It probably has corrupted your mind.I won't be surprised that once you become of legal age, you probably will continue to date and maybe marry an Older Men because I doubt you will Have any interest men your age or slightly older.I'm just assuming.But for sure if you ever have daughters you wouldn't want them to be dating daddy types..Well wish you well..

why not? whats wrong? He isnt a stranger. I know him thru my best frend. Plz stop calling me a child.
Of course I was nervous the first time I had sex with him but it is the best feeling Ive ever had. No we dont go out in public because of the stupid law. Yes we have a lot of sex. He isnt targeting underage females. I know what I want and am very strong emotionally

A little something called Statitory Rape is what's wrong.

spelling!! seems you are the child. Statutory Rape is a man made law. Love DOES NOT and WILL NOT obey man made laws. Just open your eyes and see how many younger girls go with older guys. The ones that get caught get brain washed into believing they have been preyed upon or that someone has done something bad to them. Having sex is NOT abuse. Sex is a natural and normal function. Emotional and physical abuse is more an issue. So don't give me c**p about statutory rape. If parents love their children more and there are less divorces and more attention and care given to their kids you will see that this wont happen. When parents are selfish and fight with each other disregarding their children, we will find love elsewhere and with whomever we choose.

I sort of understand what you are going through. I'm talking to a 20 year old and am 14. I do plan on losing my virginity to him. He makes me comfortable and smile. I am scared of being let down and heartbroken because I've gone through it plenty of times before

what a load of unnecessary drama. Look, let her go and find someone her own age. You think that will be better? I have  some friends who are her age and who have gotten pregnant by guys her age ie 14. Does that become okay just because they are her age? No but the law is so screwed to believe that just because a guy is older that in some way makes the guy a pervert. She is in love for god's sake. Can you not give them a chance? As parents take the trouble of getting to know the guy. See what his intentions are and if they are fine together without any signs of abuse then let love thrive.

I find it particularly interesting to observe that you are very interested in the dynamics here. Are you sure you are not a perverted person yourself? What is it you are trying to find out? In the same way you were alluding to the way the guy "worked his wicked way" you seem to be wanting to do the same to gain her trust. This behaviour of yours is very dodgy. LOL.
You have assumed she may not have emotional strength and you have just put ideas in her mind about his character. Do you think it is right for you to do that? For all you know she is perfectly happy to have him as her stabilising force in her life. Why do you think it is your responsibility to chuck in your 2 cents worth without that advice being solicited.
How people jump to conclusions and form opinions without collecting facts beats me.
Why are you worried that when she gets older she wont marry guys her age? What kind of concern is that? and for that matter whats wrong with that kind of attraction that may lead to marriage with someone older. It is between the two of them. It is their life. Are you the messiah or something? Can you not be a bit broadminded and look beyond the obvious or are you so mentally bereft to just state the obvious without the facts. You sound like an old woman with predictions of doom and gloom. How do you assume the girl is traumatised? The thing that traumatises is emotional deprivation, physical abuse, drugs and alcohol. Sex is pleasurable and NEVER harmful (unless force is used ie in rape) but because sex is associated in the setting of abuse and sex can be sensationalised, sex gets brought up in the setting of abuse.
Anyway, just leave the girl alone. What you have now done is to generate doubt in her mind and this by itself will traumatise her. Well done Mr. Pervert!!

Well my sister was 16 and went out with a 42 year old but my mums best mate just beat the sh*t out of him and so did my mum and so he left he. I think it's because my dad left me when I was 2 and my sister when she was 7 year old and she hasn't had a father for so long and she might be looking for a father thiger. I dunno if that will help ya but still

I wld beat the living sh*t out of him for starters

please dont report him that would kill your daughter  on the inside it is a stupid law that should be legal all u are saying love is wrong what is that teaching your kids that u cant love someone u need to see this through your kids eyes it might not be what u want but life is not perfect help her show her the way and hope she makes the right choices onn her own your not goin to be there forever

Yes that happened to me. Get her out now

So why do you want to report him? What wrong has he done? Your daughter has chosen him to be her boyfriend. Is he abusing her physically? Is there violence, drugs or alcohol? Are her grades in school slipping? Do you know his background? Is he educated, does he have a good family background, and is he employed and stable in his life?

I am not sure what the fuss is all about. She is 14 and NOT a child contrary to what many might think. Our society is screwed up and brainwashing everyone to believe that such relationships are bad and destructive. To me guys our own age are more of a problem getting girls pregnant, introducing them to drugs and alcohol and leading them astray. Older guys have a sense of responsibility and are more careful and caring because they know that if they make one bad move the law will come down heavily on them. 

So look, it isnt all bad. I have and still am in a very productive relationship with a much older guy. I started dating him when I was 13ish and let me tell you if it hadn't been for him I would certainly not have achieved much at all because my parents were both abusive and alcoholics. Yes I had a very rampant sexual relationship with him and he was my very first in everything. 

My grades have been excellent in school and he has nurtured me and seen me through life in the most productive way. So dont trash this relationship. Dont destroy her first love. Chat to her and get her to open up. Be a supportive and caring parent and dont resort to knee jerk responses. 

Having a relationship with an older guy can be productive. Try and talk to him but with an open mind and you will see it isnt all bad. 

Just chill. I know our minds are such and have been so socially primed, we think the worst when something like this happens. This is totally normal and if you were in Europe or South America and Mexico this question would never have come up. 

I have the same issue, REPORT HIM! A man at the age of 24 is thinking of sex when a girl of 14 is starting to figure it out. I'd say report him get a restraining order and lock up your daughter. That's disgusting! You're the authority of the house, your daughter has to listen to YOU. She won't be able to run away if she's locked up right. Get an alarm system that blares or something and concerning the whole "what if she likes older guys dilemma" she could wait till she's 18 to date older guys.