i have been in my wonderful relationship with my boyfriend 6 years this dec.. When i met him he had explained to me, how he had NO interest in intercourse... which i found shocking... as i am in the adult entertainment field, and have vocally talked to 1000's of men and never once have i ever heard of a man that didn't like intercourse.. so needless to say i was intrigued at first... he then proceeded to tell me he didn't like to receive oral on himself either.. which i also couldn't wrap my brain around.. he told me all he found enjoyment doing was giving oral sex.. which sounds like a win win right?
he is perfect at oral.. never ever have i had to fake an orgasm since meeting him.. and he achieve orgasm as well just pleasing me, at at times never even having to touch him or him touch himself.. my concern is this.. in the beginning it was great! .. but now.. 6 years later.. i miss SEX!!! I miss intercourse, the passion of it, the quickie sex sessions, as with oral sex with him, as you can imagine, its never really just spontaneous, as you have to be clean, showered all that jazz.. i love him, with all my heart, and i know that this is probably why he has never been in a relationship longer then 7 years, he is 55 by the way in great shape and very young minded, and i am 48... and has been this way his entire life he said.. and now i am finding myself no longer desiring sex like i use to, and my sex drive use to be off the charts, but its like having pizza.. i love pizza but i dont want it every day for 6 years? i need suggestions or help on this matter.. the clincher is this.. when my bf was 8 years told till he was 13, his female baby sister molested him, she would sit on his face and make him please her orally, and he has said he wonders if this could be why he is the way he is.. i love him, and i would never cheat on him, but dont know what to do.. we have tried toys, but its like i can tell its not some thing he is totally comfortable with, we have gotten him fully erect and tried to have intercourse and he goes soft... i really dont know what to do at this point.. as i said, i have even asked some of my clients, in the phone sex industry that i work in, if they could ever see themselves "not liking intercourse" and the answer has been the same across the board.. "hes lying to you" but i know better, like i said we have tried and failed ever time..
He need therapy and help. Anyone that's been sexually abused needs to deal with those issues at some point in their lives