Hey everyone, first time poster, long time lurker...
Anyway just spent the most amazing weekend with my girlfriend, except the sex that is...
She's blonde, Scandinavian and physically has great everything: breasts, body, face etc. So there's no physical attraction problem there...
She's also incredibly intellectually gifted so you can have conversations for hours about any topic: history, politics etc. I mean she's only 19!
So anyway the first time we hooked up I was drunk and couldn't get an erection, fair enough you say. The second time I had only a few beers and got inside her at one stage, but lost my erection.
Over the weekend however, we were back at her place after not seeing each other for a really long period of time and she was looking smoking hot, with lingerie on and a very sensual mood set up in her apartment for us to do the dirty.
When it came time to have sex this time around I got naked and things seemed promising and then she moves to go down on me, the ultimate sight for any red blooded male, but.... nothing.
Could not get even a hint of an erection AT ALL! What the hell is wrong with me?!
I should have prefaced by saying as well that before her about 2 years maybe at the most, I had only had sex before twice and both of those times I could have gone all night, but couldn't ejaculate, admittedly I was coming down off heavy drinking sessions both times too.
I think it's a psychological thing, but at the same time what can I do for next time, because it's not like we get to see each other whenever we want, it's very much a long distance relationship so I need to make the next chance really count! Maybe this attitude will cause me further problems though, because I am putting too much pressure on the sex.
Make no mistake I love this girl and we get along incredibly in every aspect and she loves me.
I just feel so inadequate in not being able to have a normal session of sex with her considering how incredible she is in EVERY aspect, she's the perfect girlfriend. It's nice of her to say she doesn't put much onus on sex in a relationship, but I just think of course she's going to say that, because she really does love me.
This is killing me, but I would like to think I don't have to rely on Viagra or some sort of supplement considering I am in my early 20s and can easily get hard and ejaculate when watching pornography for instance.
I guess you could basically say I am still a virgin considering I have never ejaculated inside a girl too...
Some decent advice would be much appreciated on this matter, because it's making me lose sleep.
Anyway just spent the most amazing weekend with my girlfriend, except the sex that is...
She's blonde, Scandinavian and physically has great everything: breasts, body, face etc. So there's no physical attraction problem there...
She's also incredibly intellectually gifted so you can have conversations for hours about any topic: history, politics etc. I mean she's only 19!
So anyway the first time we hooked up I was drunk and couldn't get an erection, fair enough you say. The second time I had only a few beers and got inside her at one stage, but lost my erection.
Over the weekend however, we were back at her place after not seeing each other for a really long period of time and she was looking smoking hot, with lingerie on and a very sensual mood set up in her apartment for us to do the dirty.
When it came time to have sex this time around I got naked and things seemed promising and then she moves to go down on me, the ultimate sight for any red blooded male, but.... nothing.
Could not get even a hint of an erection AT ALL! What the hell is wrong with me?!
I should have prefaced by saying as well that before her about 2 years maybe at the most, I had only had sex before twice and both of those times I could have gone all night, but couldn't ejaculate, admittedly I was coming down off heavy drinking sessions both times too.
I think it's a psychological thing, but at the same time what can I do for next time, because it's not like we get to see each other whenever we want, it's very much a long distance relationship so I need to make the next chance really count! Maybe this attitude will cause me further problems though, because I am putting too much pressure on the sex.
Make no mistake I love this girl and we get along incredibly in every aspect and she loves me.
I just feel so inadequate in not being able to have a normal session of sex with her considering how incredible she is in EVERY aspect, she's the perfect girlfriend. It's nice of her to say she doesn't put much onus on sex in a relationship, but I just think of course she's going to say that, because she really does love me.
This is killing me, but I would like to think I don't have to rely on Viagra or some sort of supplement considering I am in my early 20s and can easily get hard and ejaculate when watching pornography for instance.
I guess you could basically say I am still a virgin considering I have never ejaculated inside a girl too...
Some decent advice would be much appreciated on this matter, because it's making me lose sleep.
Just wanted to add these factors to my problem as well:
- I haven't smoked for years
- I was a heavy pot smoker, but haven't smoked for at least 6 weeks
- I do 500 push ups a week on top of other core building exercises
- I haven't smoked for years
- I was a heavy pot smoker, but haven't smoked for at least 6 weeks
- I do 500 push ups a week on top of other core building exercises
i think you should tell your doctor
If you can get an erection when you masturbate but lose it or can't get it up during sex it's psychological and could be a case of performance anxiety.