My husband is always angry

I have an angry husband too, married for 13 years, two beautiful children. He hates everyone. Adults, kids just everyone...I annoy him , anything I do irritates him. I blow up sometimes, we argue in front of the kids, and I hate it. I never heard my parents argue, I don't want to raise my kids like this. My 10 year old just says..it's ok mum he is just in that mood, he will calm down" and he does. He will promise to change...I believe him... and then I pretend that everything is ok...and then it all starts all over again. NObody is welcome at our house, he can hold it together for about 30 minutes and then he will go mad again. Why do I put so much milk in the coffee, why do I give plant cuttings to my sister in law, sits there watching everyone like he is above it all. Makes everyone feel very uncomfortable. I really don't know what to do, I am so tired of it. It just makes me depressed. I believed he is/was the love of my life...I never knew he can be so negative, arrogant and mean. It does actually gives some reassurance that there are lots of other people in the same situation :( :(

So sorry that you and your children are going through this but it is better your safe & the kids I wish you you all the luck and will keep you in my prayers. Dee

BS.....men need to get over their selves. That's the first thing I want to do is have sex with an angry man ALL the time to keep the peace. If you have that much testosterone get checked. That doesn't give an excuse to be mean and abusive.

FFS, what pathetic excuse for pathetic behaviour. Just reading thus made me angry.

I am sorry about what you have been through. I do understand about your hardships. I have the same problem too, I am so unhappy but to leave is very difficult. I am trying to get back up and empowering myself once I can I definitely leave. Thanks for sharing.

Ladies i think YOU need to stop blaiming yourselfs for your husbands anger.Let me elaborate,Your family and you know how good you are to him it is just that he is miserable with himself so he getd mad at you for having it together because deep inside he is cracking and until HE does not want to change and you keep accepting then why will and would he change.You need to change your siuation right now and plz dont say how?because YOU know already what to do so do it before you finish by losing your sanity and above all dignity nobody desrves to be sad nobody, love is beautiful so go ahead spread your wings you've raise your kids and that all by itself is a wonderful accomplishment so go ahead love trust in god god bless you

Reading your note was awful--it reminded me of my own childhood and how our vacations would often start. You sound like a good mom--PLEASE don't let this monster abuse your children with any more beatings. Let the last one time he hit them be the last time he ever lays a hand on them and get those kids far, far away from him before he damages them for life.

You love your husband, but it's time to love your kids more. You can't save him, but by acting quickly, you just might be able to save your children from suffering his same fate.

Sorry, but this is bs. You are a grown man, and your wife and kids deserve better.

Let me put it to you this way: do you lay your hands on your boss when he/she displeases you? Ever hit your co-workers? No? Then you CAN control yourself, and any rationalization you utter is a cop-out. You don't hit women or children, period. You just don't do it, and if you do (while somehow maintaining complete control at work and in social situations), then you are a coward. PERIOD.

I can't apologize for the angry tone of this response--just seemed like you had resigned yourself to being an abusive jerk and we're hoping to garner some sympathy. Nope--not when your hurting kids. Get your s together, man. Life is tough, but there's NO excuse for taking it out on your family.

U cannot do anything my husband is always angry with me but kind to all other women family members friends an aquaintances .I found out he was cheating on me with several different women.he says he cannot help who he loves.he says I try to control him by objectin to his affairs. Be watchful.

I have been married for 44 years. When my husband told my I had got old on him.and he did not want old stuff. He is in his 60 so am I .five years his junior.but he went after woman in their 20,30 &40. Even close inlaws.I found this hurtful an disgustin.some very close to me .his family has supported his behavior an turned on me.I am so hurt over how he has treated me.I am talkin here cause I hav no one to talk to.everyone sides with him.he is well known.we have loss children , nieces, nephews,parents brothers, he has never stood by me.he went to other women, friends & family members for comfort an left me to deal with pain for myself while he sort comfort else where an told me I couldnot do anything for him even I got him through the first 2-3 days of grief the he boot me to the side & go else where. His girlfriend would ring and he would go see her an come home an tell me I could not tell him what to do. 2 of his family has told me verbally they stand with him & others told him .although i hav never done a thing to them.i found out during his cheating that they had never cared for him marrying.they wanted someone else for him.some hav caught him with the woman but none told me.it came to me by phone revelation.they had his phone number he had given. He even told me he was seein some one.I am so hurt I am tryin to recover because he will not stop he says I cant make him want me. I do understand that.I am not tryin to .I am just so hurt he has not spared my feelins at all.he go out & see her &thinks I should accept this arrogant behavior.he tells others in his family what he is doing an talk against me an tell him I cannot contr him.several members have tried to get in businesses & activities that would take him away from home for days knowing that I will be here along.there are some that hav him cutting their grass an hav grown children an a husband at home.some have him do all the driving on long trips where their are othet men capable of drivin.then the wives are hittin on him an he never onects this behavior.

Do you also never apologize for the hurtful things you say? You sound like my husband but he won't apologize, just tells me it's my fault for not learning to be 'different'.

Hi all, I wish my husband would understand my feelings and respect me as an individual.I always wanted a life partner who love me to the depth, guy who can do anything for me.I married to my boyfriend thinking he fulfills all what i need. He was the best until we got married, whenever i say you have changed he says that earlier i used to listen to you.and now when i say you don't listen to me he says you are wrong.whatever i say he just get mad at me like as if I snatched million dollar from him. We have six months old baby now and he always threatenes me that he will take my son away from me. He comes home n just watch tv and always complain about things not done, why he doesn't understand i try to finish as much as i can, he gets so mad why didn't vaccume, why clothes not clean yet etc, if I accomplish something he never see or ignore it probably as if it's normal that I accomplished. He never admires me for anything he just makes fun of me is n front of friends and relatives, I feel so lost because at my parents hoke and among friends i am or was so good behaved person people used to ask me suggestions and this guy makes me feel like i dont know anything or i am just silly stupid girl. He praises other gorls or ladies for this or that but he finds faults in me, even if i say she is lil wiered person, he bounce back to me that she is fine its you who finds faults, from nowhere he just put me down. I am well educated person used to do well to do job now just got to be housewife but he treats me like i am somebody incompetent to him kinda person.
day by day my love is diminishing for him because of his behavior. Whenever i try to talk to him he is just ready to say all negative anout me, my nature, my way of talking, my responsibilities even he points my motherhood. Sometimes i also back fire to him because my patience tolerance is over now i feel like running away from him but i have kid and my parents thinks he is a good person so everyone will shatter if I leave him and moreover i am worried about my son. I want to see him growing with his mom n dad happy together. I have started getting some headache frequently and low bp but he doesn't care or show that he doesn't care. What has happened to him....why cant he see life is beautiful and this is what we had wanted to God... Somebody please help or reply. I don't want to loose him.

I've been married 32 years and my husband has been angary for at least 27 of those years. He is not physically abusive but he gets verbally angry and the smallest things. Lost items, dog barking, spilt milk, broken remote, the phone ringing, anything can set him off. That's when he yells, curses, slams doors and disappears into the bedroom for hours where he sits and pouts alone or falls asleep in front of the TV. What is so hurtful about this, other than we are walking on eggshells constantly, is he's not like this anywhere else but with us at home. Out in public he is the nicest person, very accommodating and polite. How can he be so nice to strangers but so short tempered with us?

I speak from experience...he won't change. Get a divorce and you will be much happier and so will your children. They should not have to spend their lives walking on egg shells for their father and you don't want them to learn to be angry from him. I wish I had gotten a divorce when my kids were younger. It's too late for me but not for you.

forestssaw this post and its a year old so you have 9 years to go.. not funny,, but, you may have done something already which is good, your kids will always love you if you let them know you love them hope it worked out for you