My husband is always angry

I REALLY take issue with the people telling this lady she needs to "talk to her husband and find out his concerns," or try to help HIM. She should not ever have to see him again if she feels unsafe around him. The FIRST (and my only) concern is for a spouse and "especially" children to be safe from angry people. I've lived with an angry person for 40 years, and even though he has never hit me, I have suffered way too long from his verbal and emotional abuse. I have only recently had enough, and unfortunately I am physically sick and mentally exhausted, but I've had it. The stress has caused me to age way to early. I wish I had not taken as long as I have to come to my senses. I have begged him to get help, but he will never change, no matter how much I tip-toe around him to try not to annoy him. I'm a kind hearted person. Unfortunately, it's the sensitive people who tend to get overrun sometimes.

My husband is always angry at me, he call me diff.names when he get mad like a w****..i paid half of everything in the house.He never give me money nor give a gifts . He thinks he is superior to everyone and responsible. One day we had an argument that lead him to pin me down although I didn't hurt him. I didn't call the police because he was so scared to sleep in the jail. He always yelled at me and my 7 years old son. He is verbally abusive and i am tired of being nice to him. I am planning to leave him after summer. I want a peacefu life and so my kid. My concern is if i don't leave him he might break me into pieces and may affect the childhood of my kid. We been married for 7 years and been together for 10 years.

I have the same exact situation except we have no money and are poor. So be thankful he provides for you. I am the provider and am told what to do with my money and am bossed around. I have an education and he does not and am reminded everyday that I am not better than him. I have been slowly pushed down to the ground and I now have someone’s foot on my neck. I did this to myself and I do not have the comfort at least of someone taking care of the bills or that “phew” feeling when my child wants to take a dance class. So I know this sounds horrible, almost like making a deal with the devil or some kind of weird arrangement but at least you have security. I cannot get out. My family and all of our friends think he is fabulous, they have no idea how he really behaves when no one is around and would
Never believe me . this happened slowly over time , 25 years to be exact. It’s the saddest thing I’ve ever experienced and it happens because we had a family tragedy that completely broke both of us. I believe we both have PTSD and have not dealt with it.

Well side effects of those anti depressants are dangerous I am going to tell you, so I hope you tapered off of them and consulted your dr to do it. But can I say
To the husbands I wish you all
Knew you don’t need to beat yourselves up inside about being not
Good enough
Or failures in life or letting us down etc. because
Women just don’t think that way. In fact we are unconditional lovers. That’s why this is so ironic. You get so angry for bottling up your feelings yet if you just talked it out when you are sad we would actually
Pump
You
Up and maybe make love and feel better more often and the home would be happy with connection. Rather than cycling negativity because
There is no communication and shame for no reason. You know your wives love you
For who you are and what
You are. Whatever
You are disappointed about
In yourselves is that inner child voice we all have instilled in us from our insecurities that your wives and children don’t
Feel toward you. woman and children just want your attention and support and quality time and it will make you
Feel better
Too. It’s not about money if your husband and father is loving and comforting. I support my family as a mother and wife financially and I wouldn’t care if my husband were happy and and a good father , I would give everything I had for that.

Also can I say it doesn’t matter what you look like, how old you are, etc woman and children just want love and kindness and protection. Food and shelter and clothing, just necessary things. Any woman who needs above that has been taught that is what love is and I’m
Sorry that is because her parents replaced real love
With that. Maybe that is why men are
So angry with feeling they aren’t enough? Is society
Making them feel like it’s never enough ? When you keep demanding from a man and do not keep
Him happy in return that is not ok either if he is a good man and takes care of you and your children. That is not easy to find either. If you are full filling your husband’s physical and emotional needs and he is fulfilling yours and he is still constantly angry , there is something definitely wrong.

I agree and I must add from being in this situation that you
Must teach people how to treat you, the first
Time they call you a name
Or put their hands on you , you
Need to end it or correct
The behavior. Otherwise that is what it will be forever. You are
Allowing it. If it happens once
It WILL happen again and again, I promise you, it always will. And don’t think your kids are safe from it either. Eventually, they will get
It too.

So for 2hrs straight or more she would just stand there and let him call her the most awful names accuse her of terrible things and then when he is screaming at her because she won't answer she just stands there. Ask if he is done then walk away and do something like cleaning then bring him a cup of coffee? ! Well I guess you got lucky. I've tried that time and time again doesn't work. It gets worse. Follows to where ever I go continues for 2hrs or more. He might fall silent then continue off and on for several days. Glad it worked out for you.