My husband is always angry

Leave him. Your kids life and yours is at stake. Your husband is a narcissist with no compassion or empathy. Wants to look good in front of people. Don't care about what others think. RUN. He won't change because he is evil and mentally sadistic. He will prey on his kid as well. Been there done that.

I left him with my two kids. Went to work and to college. Best thing I ever did.

You are out of your mind??!!!
Why on Gods green earth should she endure his abuse??!! How is it even a thought??
"She is just there for him even when he is insulting her"???? Who is there for her? where is he?
He is an as****e who can not see what a wonderful wife he has and he does not deserve her. She deserves MUCH better than him!!

I can relate to all of this, my husband & I have been married for 18 years, together for 19. We have a 13 year son who is just like his Dad. We have had financial issues and this years seems to have been the worst. My husband is a hard worker when he is working, but due to his getting angry he has had a lot of jobs. He's had 15 jobs in 19 years. Now I have had lay-offs and was out of work for a year and half due to the recession. But we have lost vehicles and this year we lost our home. But he tells me he is done with me because he has resentment for me because we lost our home and that everything is my fault. I always handled the money, but he loves material things even more than me, and thru the years I would give in so that I wouldn't have to listen to the temper tantrums. What my problem is, I think married couples work together on things as well as share the accountability for things that go wrong. I know that everything is not all of my fault, but you second guess yourself when that is all you have heard for the last 19 years. I still love him with all of my heart and want our marriage to work out. I think he has so much resentment for me that he is not sure if he even loves me anymore. I don't think that he is cheating, but when we lost our home he took off his wedding band because in his mind we were done. he is a friend to my son, so he also blames me for everything because his dad does. I am now having trust issues because of that. I really could use any advice that I can get

I've tried something like this and kept running into running out of time; the three hour rages in the am made me late for work.

Your post is from a year back. Are you still in the same condition? I do hope you and your baby are doing fine. If you are still in the same situation, is there any way you can do an online course? If not, there are shelters for women like you who will help you to look for a job and then get you situated. You will be a little troubled initially but in a year, you will be very much settled. Your husband should give you alimony once you divorce him. He is supposed to give you child support as well. You are very young and you can restart your life. May you be blessed.

Reading your reply somehow made me understand some things why my husband hates . If he doesnt hate me, i dont know another word to use. I have been searching the net for answers because i dont want other people to know what i am really going through. Thank u. I hope u will also find peace.

I know my husband should see a professional to help him. I think he needs medication. But he wont accept that suggestion. He blames me for everything. My heart and my soul are broken and it feels like i cannot love him again. I wish you will find the way to be nice to your wife again.before she completely gives up on you.

I am going through this right now. I wish he would just die. I can no longer take the verbal abuse and neither can my kids. I wish he would just leave. To the men who come on here let me just tell you, it would be best if you guys just fricking left. There would finally be peace, and I would find a way to survive without your income, just leave or die. He is always at work and the minute he comes home it is mother f this mother f that, and all I do is clean and make sure everything is perfect praying nothing sets him off. Last night it was over ice cube trays, the night before a stupid bucket sent into into a top of his lungs mother F rant of rage. I can not live like this anymore, but the bastard won't leave!!!!

My husband and I have been married for almost a month and he has changed. When we were dating he did have issues of hate and throwing things. But it wasn't as bad as now. He hates everyone including me for reasons I don't understand. He wants me to get all of my things and leave. He has no love for anyone and wants people to die. He also wants to die. He will not seek help no matter what I ask. He's lost all hope. Oh and we just found out were expecting a few days ago. I cannot take this anymore. Its gotten me so upset and depressed. He wakes up happy but after a couple hours he's Angry. I refuse to leave him but this cannot continue.

Leave him he never change don't waste you life on him you only got 1 go at life be happy find someone who loves you .

Please don't let your daughter go though all this its not fair and its not on you be strong and leave this weak man he is a bully you need to find peace and happiness.

Its not you but he needs to get help like you said don't worry what people think try and help him if not end it.

What a bully those poor dogs do not deserve to live like this take your dogs and leave him get a better life if he does not what to help his self.

it was felt my husband had to have controls placed on him when he came back from the navy intending to use his contractualy guaranteed seniority in the plant he reinstated I. He came home with more than 60 percent of the workforce accrued with his honorable discharge. He intended to use it starting within three days of his return without caring what and who it would affect by taking a shift preference choice and bumping a pretty blond with under six months to his nine years off days to second shift. that shift was know to be a killer of a social life, So to get him to stay on seconds I started blackmailing him by promising that a sex life would start, latter when the dust settled from his return as well as 150 others coming back the same way. That day after his father yelled at him he was going to be a man and I said he could consider me off limits until 2 years had passed. Then we would be able to say he had done his part, in keeping the peace, 16 years latter I was on my knees begging him to stay on seconds and not take a job bid that was felt to go to privilege, I was begging him to just consider that next week as the start of a new life with a sex life, vacation time , he could start staying home for holidays and weekends. all he had to do was wait two more weeks and select a position on the next bid list for the new plant.

I said all he had to do to get everyone off his back about his contractual rights was let the four men that wanted that new department as friends even though they had less than half his seniority, I said if he did this he would be owed so many favors by others, but if he did not he could find himself with others constantly interfering, I said I had personal guarantees that this last time he would not be screamed at or yelled at about not doing as the community needed him to do He would have everything hwe wanted without somebody on his case and we could start a family, He told me he wanted me dead, and the four that wanted that job because of their connections were just four cocian burned out pushers wanting the new department to receive and sell their stinking poisons. I said that was none of his business and he had to stop objecting to how others had a little fun. We had an incident 2 years before when he left his job on Christmas day without permission and came home and found three others smoking pot in the room he slept in. They refused to leave with their pot and he took exception throwing them through three closed windows and handed the rest of us sponges, buckets and pinesole telling everyone at the dinner that one whife when he came home he would have all of us in jail. The three boys that went through the windows had to go for stiches and we cleaned the entire house top to bottom for ten hours until he came home, put together a meal for himself and went to bed. everyone left tired and angry about him. I said couldn't he just have stayed at work we would have bought his usual sandwiches instead of looking insane. He just said I had not earned the right to dictate how drug users would be treated when he found them in his bedroom using.

Then 2001 when I was making every promise He came home the next morning, I locked him out of the house, The four were coming to take him back to remove his bid and He goaded them into jumping him just to make a point about his rights he left four men dying on our porch and left for a motel. It took all night to find where he went and get him to go to work the next night. No Charges were filed because to many witnessed them jumping him first, I think the least time in hospital and rehab spent by any of the four was three months.

Most still have problems. The next eight years he was forced to work many times with firearms on holidays. and he never would speak to me unless it was on his terms. I was to weather be the wife he expected or he was not cooperating at all.

We locked his passport in a safe deposit box until 2008 when we were threatened with jail time if we did not let him renew it. He had started ambushing friends for pointing weapons at him and everyone was caught with so much fear that he would come after them or take such direct action they would be killed for even trying. when we stole his reservation on the 2009 vacation on the orient express that may. we felt constantly defensive trying to get him to be at least understanding, I went on that trip badly hurt with a dislocated shoulder and torn ACL, and his father was revived with O2 after seven men had to pry his fingers off his throat getting his passport back.

I was trying to set up a vacation starting in seven month in St Croix, when he threw me across that office getting the cancelation check back out of my shoulder bag. He took my cash, travelers checks and said eat sand, leaving me sitting crying boarding with my arm in a sling.

That October I had only seen him 30 minutes since June just to try and find a way to any thing resembling a solution to working out his rights to other peoples needs when he let depression compromise his Immune system MRSA settled into his spine, causing three years of rehab relearning to walk with other complications. We were hoping upon his return home we could just pick an evening were all our friends and family could get together and decide how his life would proceed with his input, have a nice dinner and calm discussion of how we were going to let him into traditions , vacations and what we would allow him to be a part off, He did not let me even start6 that discussion the first day home He forced me into sex, told me he was the first last and only judge and arbiter of what he was allowed in the home he had provided.

He has not stopped in three years now with this ideal. and everyone is hurting for it.