My husband is always angry

mannie4 wrote:

Hi All,
I Feel your pain deeply. I know I am not you exactly but I know someone that knows exactly how you feel in your heart and would like to make it right with you and in your heart.

His name is Jesus Christ, he died on the cross many years ago so that we could be saved from destruction in this life and after life. In order to get ti him, all you have to do is to repent, invite him into your life and beleive in him. He will definitely mend your life together, I am talking from experience because he mended my messed up life together and gives me peace and Joy now!!!

Also u can send your prayer points to:http://restorationhouse.ca/prayer.asp

And call out to him and ask him sincerely in your life and you want to walk with him, after that, ask God to show you a bible believing and living church. This is the only way to true Joy, not the fake joy others will give you!! if you need help on the Lord and saviour Jesus then I will be glad to update you, and when you take this step for Jesus then start by reading the book of John in the Bible. Jesus loves you more than you and your family more than you can ever think, why dont you give him a chance.

Love
Guest

Yes I place all my hurt and worries in his hands but reality is what it is and it hurts! As strong as my faith... im not a saint. Im only human. With human like needs and human like feelings. Pray keeps me strong and sane and knowing someone up there shares my sorrow but I'm a woman of needs.

In alot of the cases it sounds like Bipolar disorder. Sad though that few men will ever admit that there is a problem and see a dr. Your best bet is to get out of the situation.

I've been married for 18 yrs 3 beautiful children, and my husband is angry all the time.. I am about ready to tell him to leave tooo.. I am tired of being blamed for every single thing, and not only does he blame me, but he blames our children too.. I have prayed and prayed, left it in the Lords hands, but it seems like the Devil refuses to let him go.. I call him DEVIL MAN, because he is always full of fire and hate it seems..
He wasn't always like this, but over the years he has definitely gotten much mich worse.. I can't take him blaming us for everything from him not getting a job he wants to car problems.. His mom has even suggested he needs to be checked for depression, but he just blew her off, I knew he would.
I would love to have my old husband back, but I don't believe that is possible he has said and done too many things to all of us to just be forgiven and forgotten.. I am at my wits end.. If I suggest he get help I know he will blow up again and that is when I know it will be over..
We haven't said I love you to each other for years, but how can you tell someone you love them when they mistreat you and you children all the time..
What do I do now????

Dear Guest,

I truly understand what you are going through. Although mine is only about 5 yrs now. 18!! I dont know if i can tolerate this kinda treatment for that long.
everyone tells me when he gets that way just be silent and keep out of his way. And that is exactly what i do or try to at times. but honestly its not that easy to stay out of his way in your own home with 2 little kids demanding both our attention.
There are times my husband can be a gem of a husband but other times more often now, he seems to have this look of hatred in his eyes. when he comes home ... when lack of sleep... I mean get over it! everyone is tired! evryone wants more sleep ... But do see everyone walking around with all this pent up negativity and anger. and you would think you as the woman is suppose to be the moody and angry one due to menstruation.
I've want to suggest some form of therapy for him something that can help him in his past resentments/fears/anger... all the messed up issues he holds on to. But im afraid it will back fire. I just knw he would suggest that i am the cause and that i am the one needing help.
Any suggestions on how i can approach this? I dont think bringing his mother into this will help as he blames he for as much stuff too. and his dad.. well he gives c**p advise. His cure to all is just hug each other tight.

Me too. Mine cheated on me and got the nanny pregnant and he says now its bc he hates me. we were trying to work things out as he is an alcoholic and occasionally abuses prescription pills. He kept promising to quit. He even got another dui since then. the arguments are escalating and have become physical more than a few times. He always threatens me physically when hes mad but usually im on my way out to one of my 2 jobs. we have two toddlers. I only stay with him because I cannot afford daycare. He hates my guts. I am so sad too.. I will pray for all of you women on here and i read each and every one of your posts. Its all the same story, the ones who say it hasnt gone physical its just bc youre two or 5 years in..wait till youre 10 yrs in and more than likely it will have escalated. I am so depressed. he blew up last night bc I was upset that I couldnt find my phone and was venting(not toward him) anyway the fight ended with me calling his father to come get him. we havent talked all day. I dont believe hell be back and im scared imgoing to foreclose on my home as I do not have anyway to keep working as I am being a single parent and he stated he would not be involved with the kids for now and hell explain why to them when they are older, that their mother was a 'piece of sh*t'

help!! soon to be deacon wife.

My husband is all that and more, I to want to leave, I'm hopping he just leave, it would make it easier on everyone. ?

I've been with my husband for 7 years and we argue every week. It's so tiring and I just finished with a serious illness on top of it. He snaps at me over the smallest of things or most innocent of questions. I find myself beginning to despise him which I know is pretty strong language, but it's how I feel. I had a rough childhood and I promised myself that I would have a happy, peaceful adulthood. But his lack of self-control and moodiness is making me wish I did not marry him. I'm going to ask him to go to marriage counseling as the last resort before I decide to divorce him or not. Life is too short to put up with an emotionally immature man! I'd get more happiness living alone with a dog or cat, that's for sure!

To all the unhappy people in this post: If you do not like something in your life, you are the only person who can and must change it. Life is given to us all to enjoy and live fulfilling lives with. If you love your spouse but are unhappy with your situation, seek counseling, especially if there are children involved. Do not EVER allow anybody to abuse you or your children, in ANY way. Communication is a very key component in any relationship. If you cannot express your feelings to your spouse, then how are you supposed to show love? Or anger, for that matter? Be pro-active in your life and change what you are not happy with, whether it be within yourself or your life. Counseling is an amazing thing. Most people just need someone to talk to, and listen to them and make them feel worth. Individual counseling as well and couples counseling, and even counseling for your children can do wonders for self worth and esteem. If counseling does not help or if parties are unwilling to try, then sometimes seperation or divorce is necessary for the physical, mental and emotional well being for everyone involved. Please do not subject your children to bad decisions made by yourself or those close to you. Children are the only hope we have for positive change in this world, and we all learn by example.

There is no excuse for lashing out at someone else because of your own issues. Verbal abuse is just as hurtful as physical abuse. Women, you should not have to feel like a prisoner in your own home or feign any sort of compassion just to avoid confrontation. These men need to get help. Life does not revolve around them. Women, take charge of your lives and make the decision that is right for you. Putting up with such despicable behaviour is not the answer. Life is too short to have to deal with anger and rage daily.
I give this advice from the bottom of my heart. I am also dealing with a raging as****e at home - such a child. Looking forward to my life without him being in it. Keep strong.

I am beginning to wonder if there is such a thing as a happy man. I am a professional woman and I am locked in a relationship with a man who is angry all the time. I understand that he is hurting in some way. I would take all of the pain away if I could, but he does not see that he is killing our marriage. I try and try to help him overcome his anger, but it always gets turned around on me and I become the cause of all his problems and failures in life. He can be such a delightful person to others, why not me? I am the one he supposedly loves and would not want to live without. I don't know the answer. He is killing the love inside of me and damaging my relationships with my family and friends. I am not sure he knows what he is doing or not. He says I can go around my family and friends whenever I want but then is seems angry when I do. So basically I have stopped seeing anyone but him and when I am with him he makes my life very traumatic. I do pray about this all the time and ask God to tell me what to do. I am so confused I don't even know which way to turn. I no longer consider myself and good daughter, mother, sister, or friend to anyone. I pray for peace in my life and for those mena and women going through it out there. Love you all.

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I am also married to a man that is angry most of the time, if he is not angry then his is on enough of what ever drug he has decided to do that day. I would like to make a comment to the men that have posted. It upsets me that you are defending the husbands of these women. Im sure the men are hurting to but it is them that are hurting themselves, they are hurting their wives and children. I can't speak for anyone but myself but when but when Mr. Hyde comes out in my husband he dosent care about anyone but himself, I see nothing but hate in his eyes. He normally does apologize later but after so many apologies they stop meaning anything. Hearing my husband apologize to me for doing the same thing over and over again makes my skin craw, I would rather him not apologize at all. I am glad that he feels bad after treating me they way he treats me. And as for trying to please him, how do you please an angry pit bull, why would you want to please somebody that makes you feel like you are something he just scraped off the bottom of his shoe. I could go on and on but I am going to stop here. Thank you