My husband is always angry

I have been married for 60 years and it is 60 years to many it is to late for me but when you are young and so much in love you put up with all kind of things when i think about it he has always been angry my children say why did you put up with it mum and i dont have a answer it has always been what he wants and what he says is always right and i dont believe they change maybe as they get older it is not as bad but only because they worrie that you might leave them and they will have no one to look after them i say to myself what a stupid woman i was and how weak i was so please dont hang in and say they might change and then you will be to old like me dont waste your life you only have the one

I too have an angry husband we have only been married for 8 months and I am 4 months pregnant. My husband scares me! Not on a daily basis it usually just depends on how work went that day or something has just pissed him off just right like with an argument we had. We have been seeing a councelor for a few months now and that seemed to help but now its going down hill again. I feel like all of my friends have such great relationships with their husbands so I feel as though I have no oneto turn to who will understand.

He has hit me twice now once when we were engaged, were I thought hard about breaking it off, then once just a few months after beeing married. The second time I was so embarrassed because I became one of those women who had to lie to people at work as to why I had a fat lip and a swollennose. I never wanted to be this person. Once the second hitting happened he has cut back on drinking becasue that iswhen it seemed to be the worst, but he has put up a fight with it.

I come from a great upstanding family and was never brought up around this. My parents do love my husband as their own son, but they also know what he has done.

We recently got into an argument where he told me to "shut my f***ing mouth, then called me a peice of work for crying about it. I don't want my son or daughter to grow up around this...I know this isn't right but what do I do...I love him but I needed help too.

please any ideas will help.

I am married to a man 25 years who has been mad at the world in some way or other since I met him. When we met I was young and had a drinking problem I just wanted someone anyone to love me. I have sobered up and now see his constant hate and misery very clearly I no longer hide from it or him in a bottle. Staying with him is much harder I feel it is guilt more than anything as to why I stay. I wish I knew why we stay with mates who are mean and short tempered. I plan on getting two jobs and being out of the home as much as possible until I can figure out what I really want to do. He owes me a huge amount of money I believe this is part of the reason I have not left. To all of you I just want to extend my Love because sometimes we just need to be heard not told what others think we should do.

I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. I feel your pain- my husband and I grew up together he was my first love- the man of my dreams, then we got married and I got pregnant with our daughter. He left me alone to go party the whole time while I was on medical restrictions due to my diabetes. About a year ago he started calling me names all the time telling me I ruined his life and physically assulting me in his fits of anger. He tells me its my fault he does it and it always ends up being something I do, even if it is just asking what he wants for dinner. I am alone where I am too surrounded by his friends and family so this in a way is me letting some of it out too. My kids see what he does and our son and daughter always come to my resucue and tell me I'm not any of those things.
I work full time, go to school, take care of our kids, and clean the house- I pay all the bills, buy the food, and make sure the kids have everything they need. My husband has never taken me out unless I pay for it and he never does anything for me- if I ask he blows up on me and says all I care about is material things.
I don't think I ever stop crying and trying to sit down and find out if he is going through something doesn't seem to work. I've suggested counceling and have even told him if he wants to take a break and just be him for a while we can try it. I don't know what to do since he makes it a point to tell me how unattractive I am and put me down all the time- I've defended my self one time physically and ended up being thrown across a room- but if I try to leave he threatens to take our kids and I will never see them again. I've never been so heartbroken in my entire life as knowing that my husband hates me this much.....

I've been married 18 years.  My wife drives me absolutely nuts.  I try to ask her a simple question and she accuses me of not trusting her.  After it happens enough and she won't let it go, I explode and start yelling back.  She has said she wanted a divorce about 4 dimes now.  Afterward she calms down and apologizes.  But what she says in front of my kids is hurtful and demeaning.  She did it again last night and I'm seriously considering leaving her whether she changes her mind or not.  My biggest worry is my kids.  I honestly can't imagine being without my kids.  And in any court I've ever heard of, the woman gets the kids.  So I'm stuck until my 10 year old reaches 18 I guess.  

I'm in the exact same situation, except the anger has taught our child to solve problems through anger and throwing fits. All my husband had to do was call a doctor. I'm waiting 8 more years to leave him. This way, our daughter will be away at college and I can hide some of the ugliest of divorce from our daughter.

You are just like my husband. You are sorry but you're not taking the steps to make a difference. Call the doctor before your wife leaves you. After 12 years of living in an angry environment, I'm calling a divorce attorney because my husband won't seek help from an experience doctor to tackle the issues and now it has destroyed our child on how to problem solve issues.

Call a doctor. I don't understand why angry hubbies don't visit a psychologist or marriage counselor. They have more answers to the anger issues than the verbally abused wives.

OMG No Kids? Take your dogs and get the hell away from him.

Life is too short for that BS. But you must hurry and do it when he's not home. Do not leave your new address. He will show up and cause a scene. just go and don't look back.

Tonight, when I got home from work my husband asked how my day was. I said "decent." He said "Disarrano," you know, the liquor. I laughed, "hehehe how do you get disarrano from decent?" And it started. He started accusing me of laughing at him, of looking down on him, of acting like he's stupid. I apologized, but it didnt help. Then he's mad because I am watching a show he's already seen, then mad because it's too quiet (he turned the tv off). He's mad that I told him not to shoot his gun in the backyard at midnight. We do have lots of neighbors with kids. I finally went to the trash and started pulling out beer cans and lining them up on the kitchen counter. Trying to visually show him why he's overreacting to everything. He starts threatening to kill himself and says "keep pushing me." I sat on the couch, annoyed. It scared me how much I did not care. He pulls this same sh*t so often it seems like a waste to get all worked up. He yelled and ranted and threw sh*t. I just sat there and kept repeating " just go to bed." He finally did. I guess I'm sleeping on the couch. I'm so lonely. But I keep thinking- I'm the one that married him. Did I choose this?

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Hi, a lot of this sounds familiar.  My husband is always angry.  He says he hates everyone.  He picks at every little thing I do if it is not how he would do it.  He yells at the children (2 and 4) and doesn't spend quality time with them.  I am getting to the point that I can't take it anymore.  We both had a few drinks the other night and he started picking at me again and I blew up.  We had a nasty fight.  I was feeling tired and said I was going to lie down.  He freaked out and started swearing and said he will find someone else.  We have not talked for 5 days except for when we have to.  He has not been wearing his wedding ring.  There is a lot more to how he treats me like being demeaning, controlling etc.  Please I need some advice on what to do. Try talking, separate???? Help

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My heart breaks for you. I imagine this is how my husband must feel too. I wish I knew what to do or say to console him. I don't seem to get it right and only make things worse.

I am pained by the blame I get when things don't go well. I wonder if my husband really wants me to leave, and then he can say it wasn't his fault.

When we were still without strenght, Christ died for the ungodly!