My husband wants me to swallow and do anal. I don't want to.

It takes two to tango my dear, and if your man can not meet you half way, he may be doin the 2 step by himself. You are not wrong in your feelings but it is wrong for him to make demands on you, do this or else!!! What is that? Giving your man head is fine and great, but if you can"t suck and swallow, so be it. He should be fine with what you do, minus the swallowing part. Many women can't, many women can, it's all personnel preference. Anal sex should be accepted (or not) the same way. Many women just can not get into anal sex, and that is perfectly okay. Your willingness to do what ever else he like leaves the door wide open to him for a lot of exciting and erotic adventures.
It's your call hon, but if i got an ultimatum like what you got, my man would be doing the horizontal boogie with his hand. I'll tell you a secret, (obviously not one anymore) but my ol man wanted to burn me with hot candle wax while having sex. Are you freakin kidding me? I told him if he even thought of dripping hot candle wax on my naked boobs i would set him on fire. He got mad of course and he approached the issue a few more times, but it never happened. But, we are now seperated and a lot of it was due to his "kinky" and "weird" requests. I am open to anything in the bedroom, for c**p sakes, i'll let you tie me up and hang me upside down from the ceiling fan, but there a few things i just can't get into. Getting burned and developing a scab the next day isn't my cup of tea, thank you.

So listen, you have your reasons and that's fine, actually you don't even need a reason, it's just something you don't want to do. I wouldn't pack up my gear and move out just yet, you need to have a long talk with him. Not letting him drop a load in your mouth is really not enough reason to split up unless there is something else going on with him. You not giving up the butt is also not enough reason to split up. Tell him that you will perform oral sex on him until he is just about to cum, then when he does, wipe it all over your boobs, that's very erotic, or let him cum on your chin, that's close enough. Sort of like a pearl necklace. But the back door is closed and i don't blame you, i have a hard enough time trying to pass a poo at times and the thought of trying to put something in there sort of bothers me. I have done it but i'm not a big fan. Tell him he can put his finger there if he wants, but that's it.

What speed are you willing to turn that fan to? Are you prone to motion sickness?





Hatty, from a male's perspective I think your husband is being unreasonable and insensitive. Threatening to leave over you not swallowing at least once a week is insane. Threatening to leave you is just wrong, if he's unhappy to the point of divorce no amount of kinky sex is going to fix that. If he wants anal sex so bad, maybe he should re-consider his sexual preference. As far as wanting to cum in your mouth, that's got to be some sort of psychological control mind trip he's having. An orgasm to me is just as intense inside my wife's mouth or in her hands. Honestly, I prefer to see the explosion and coat various parts of her anatomy being careful to keep it out of her eyes, she really hates that...



I think its time for some marriage counseling...

I puke from riding the merry go round. Maybe the ceilin fan should be turned off for now.

I agree with both of these posts. I have been married for almost 2 years, and been with my husband for almost 7. We have done everything under the sun in the bedroom, EXCEPT anal!!! He wants to do it, but I don't. He mentions it every once in a while and even my bestfriend has told me to just try it, I might like it. Just the thought of it turns me completely off! I do swallow even though I do not like it all...but I do it to please him, but he does many things to please me and does not give me ultimatums. He understands my fear of anal and he does not pressure me at all. He knows that when I'm ready, I will be ready, but if that time never comes, he's OK with that too.

Your husband demanding you give him these sexual favors or he's leaving you is just ridonculous! And even if he's not serious and is just trying to scare you to get what he wants is just mean. You do not need to live like that. And I agree with Ninja, if he can't live without anal, maybe he should reconsider his sexual preference. Thats just strange to me.

I hope you figure it out...but don't let this man walk all over you in the bedroom. It should be about what both of you want, not just him.

Good luck!

Geez, I go out for a day of fun in my railcar, when I get back Beeb's hanging upside down from a ceiling fan and getting hot waxed where there ain't no hair. :O That visual should be good for a wet dream tonight. Thanks Beeb :-S Maybe I'll have another one in the morning, after I wake up. o.O

Hatty, of course you have a choice. You're his wife, not his slave. If you don't like something, that should be the end of the discussion, unless you think you might want to try it again to see if you can develop a liking for it. That last part should be YOUR idea, not his.

My wife and I tried anal once and she didn't like it. We never tried it again and I never mentioned it again. She used to give me bjs until I got a vasectomy. The first time after the vasectomy, she gagged on the taste, said it was bitter, and we never did that again. I never asked her again. That was her choice and I respected it.

You shouldn't feel forced or coerced to do anything. I don't understand how a man who loves a woman could do that. I'd make a terrible rapist, I guess. I could never enjoy doing anything with a woman if she didn't enjoy doing it with me. I can't blame you for questioning whether you want to remain with him.

Doing something you don't like once in a while to please him is bull s**t. If you don't like it, he shouldn't expect you do it ---- ever!!!
You definitely have the right to say NO.

I think you two need to have some serious discussions and he needs to respect you.

Now, Beeb, I have a question for you. Since you brought it up, does having that icky, sticky, stuff smeared on your boobs or face, turn you on?
Coming on a girl's face or boobs seems to be a favorite of the porn sites. To me it just seems like a guy showing his disgust for the woman he just had sex with. It seems degrading, to me. Maybe you can change the way I think about that. If I thought girls actually liked that, it would be OK with me. But for now I just think it's his way of showing dominance over her. Forcing a girl to kneel in front of you and give you a blow job seems very degrading to me. But, having a girl do it because she loves you and wants to do something nice for you, is a terrific turn on.

So help me out here Beeb, is a rubdown with that sticky stuff, a turn on?

I will answer that njoynlife....being cummed on on your face is absolutely disgusting and most women I know don't like it, and I agree that it is very degrading. Some women do like to have the icky sticky on other parts of their bodies, like their boobs. I personally don't. I would rather swallow then have to clean up the mess XD

My wife's a pretty good sport about it but we did discover it is really bad in the eys (by accident). I don't much like to shoot her in the face becuase it does seem degrading to me but on occasion she's told me to in the heat of the moment. She did say she does like the way it feels when it shoots on her lips (lower ones) while she's masterbating, and it adds to the lubrication.

It is a bit of a generation gap though, I'm sure you'll agree--most younger people are okay with getting it on their face and it's not necessarily degrading. A sex act is only degrading if one person doesn't want to do it but the other one forces him/her to do it. What do you think?

You are right healthnfitnessguy. Something new is introduced into the world of erotica everyday. As far as Hatty0904 goes, she has already said that she would try anything. If she doesn't mind letting her hub cum on her chin or her chest then there is no big deal. Having your hands bound is a form of control and possibly demeaning, having your hair pulled while having sex is also a form of control and possibly demeaning. Control and degredation could fall under many sexual forms. I think a little ejaculate between the boobs or on your chin could be demeaning, but it's how the other person sees it. Hatty sounds open to a lot of stuff, she just doesn't want to do what she described.

phillyguy215 wrote:

BOTTOM LINE LADIES IS IF YOU WANT UR MAN TO STAY THEN PLEASE HIM...IF HE DESIRES SOMTHING SEXUALLY AND CAME TO YOU FOR IT THEN BE PROUD OF THAT AND UNDERSTAND HE REALLY WANTS SOMTHING TO SATISFY HIS SEXUAL DESIRES AND HE WANTS IT FROM YOU AND NOT SOMEONE ELSE...HE DIDNT GO ELSEWHERE TO GET IT HE CAME TO YOU!!! IN OTHER WORDS UR MAN CAME TO HIS WOMEN FOR WHAT HE NEEDS...GET TO WORK!!!!!!!!!!!!IM NOT REFERING TO THING INVOLVING BRINGING OTHER PEOPLE INTO THE BEDROOM..ONLY SEXUAL SITUATIONS INVOLVING YOU AND HIM!!!

Its not just about the man and pleasing him...what about what the woman wants?!?!? Also, it does not give a man (husband or boyfriend) the right to go cheat on his wife/girlfriend if she isn't comfortable doing some of the erotic sexual things he wants to do. Men like you, and men that aren't OK with letting some deep dark desire go for the love of their WOMAN, are the same men that are never satisfied...and no matter what the woman does for him, eventually he is going to be bored and go elsewhere. To them, I say "What's the point?" What's the point in making yourself uncomfortable, doing something that hurts you, or doing something that goes against your morals just to please this man who eventually one day say "Well, you still aren't pleasing me enough, so I'm leaving you for her"....

I believe these men are men like you Mr. phillyguy215!

So, we should be willing to bend over (literally) for our husbands, but yet when we want a simple foot or back massage, we can't get it. hmmmmmm....something to think about!

Nice to hear from you again BabyB.
I thought you left us.
Hope you weren't sick.

Hey njoyn - just been busy lately :) I'm not sure if you knew, but I am pregnant with our second, and she (yes another girl) is due September 6th. I have been really busy with getting things ready at home, as well as at work for my maternity leave. Also, it seemed like everytime I got on here and read some of the posts, they were just pi**ing me off! Some people just have no brains, and it seems like all the the new posts were "Am I pregnant....?" or something along those lines. Just silly...but anyway, I have had a little more time lately, so I've been on sporatically :) I had to reply to this egotistical guy and give my two cents!

healthnfitnessguy wrote:

babyblues1222 wrote:

I will answer that njoynlife....being cummed on on your face is absolutely disgusting and most women I know don't like it, and I agree that it is very degrading. Some women do like to have the icky sticky on other parts of their bodies, like their boobs. I personally don't. I would rather swallow then have to clean up the mess

It is a bit of a generation gap though, I'm sure you'll agree--most younger people are okay with getting it on their face and it's not necessarily degrading. A sex act is only degrading if one person doesn't want to do it but the other one forces him/her to do it. What do you think?

Right! In consequence of anal sex you can suffer from infected cysts in the scrotum, which often hurt like hell. Also (look away if you are the sensitive type) the sphincter muscle will weaken leaving you with spontaneous bowel evacuation in bed when you are old. Not a happy though eh?

This is unfortunate that we are having people among us who act like this, this is because we are far from christianity and true knowldge of gospel. today the western world is considered full of sin, without doubt this is true. we are doing all such things forbidden by God and the religion, and matter of fact from the world. there is no respect for women, she is just became a toy to play with and thrown later. women have no regard in our culture, she has been exploited by our own men and women, today our children endulge in all sorts of bad things in the name of freedom and liberal beings. that is wrong.

we should be strict and make no compromise on such activties when demanded agaist law and religion and self willing. why not the one who asks his wife to eat his semen should first eat himself?

we should all have fear of God, In The Holy Bible God forbiods us to have a n a l sex by anymeans, God forbids us to have sexual relations before marriage and having child without legal marriage. why dont we understand these limitations? these are for our own benifit.

we our leading new generation towards darkness and nothing else.