My 12 year old son noticeably took the lotion bottle last night and this morning when i was cleaning his sheets i noticed the bed was wet in a certain spot, should i address him about it? or should i just leave him and pretend i didnt notice it?
This could be a good opportunity to start a discussion with him about masturbation and sex in general if you want. If it's a shared bottle and you would not like to have him using it you could offer to get him his own bottle or even find out why he feels he needs lotion. I never used lotion at his age nor ever in my life so it's not necessary. You might ask why he thinks he needs it and maybe find out where he's getting his sex information. At his age most boys get a lot of misinformation and some of it could be harmful so talking with him is a good idea.
As a parent you should have discussions and guidance for your son.Give him some old towels for him to masturbate in them.Masturbation is normal for males and females.
Answer his questions honestly and make him feel comfortable asking any question.
You didn't specifically state it, but it's not hard to "read between the lines" that you think your son is masturbating. (You also didn't say whether you are his mother or father. My guess - mother.) A boy (and girl, as far as that goes) of this age and masturbating go together, so don't think this is something you have to put to an end. You'll just push it underground. If this is a subject you are afraid to address directly, you could ask him if he'd like you to get another bottle of "lotion" for him, or you could do it without asking. Then you get something that is more suitable as a lubricant, something like baby oil. If the subject does come up, you can tell him that this didn't just start with him. It's been so for generations, if not forever. If you get into that discussion, you should hit on the issue of privacy when he goes for a session. It could range from, "It's a private matter." as in, "You do it behind closed doors. I will knock and give you a chance to respond before I pop the door." to "There's no reason to be ashamed and hide it." as in, "If you get the urge, feel free to just pump away anywhere in the house, even right in front of me. Just don't do it where anyone just walking by on the street will see you, don't let it land where it will soak into the carpets or the fabric of the furniture, and mop it up if it lands on a hard surface."