Hello, I am 38yrs old and today I had my second US at my OBGYN, I am 8 weeks. First US was at 6 weeks and no heartbeat was detected however the sonographer did tell me that i have a retroverted/tilted uterus and that made it difficult to detect a heartbeat or even to see the developing embryo.
She said everything looked normal and that it was probably just a little too early to detect the heartbeat.
Today my OBGYN told me that there is no heartbeat, the baby is dead i should have a D&C as soon as possible to restart my menstrual cycle and get back to normal before trying again to conceive.
the gestational sac was normal size for 8 weeks but the baby within was small measuring less than 3cm based on what they could see.
I have had no pain, no spotting, no bleeding. I have had typical symptoms, nausea, very sensitive breasts, dizzy spells and extreme fatigue every day.
What should i do?
should i wait for a natural miscarriage to take place or force it with a D&C?
should i seek a second opinion?
should i insist on another US before the D&C?
any help would be much appreciated. %-)
She said everything looked normal and that it was probably just a little too early to detect the heartbeat.
Today my OBGYN told me that there is no heartbeat, the baby is dead i should have a D&C as soon as possible to restart my menstrual cycle and get back to normal before trying again to conceive.
the gestational sac was normal size for 8 weeks but the baby within was small measuring less than 3cm based on what they could see.
I have had no pain, no spotting, no bleeding. I have had typical symptoms, nausea, very sensitive breasts, dizzy spells and extreme fatigue every day.
What should i do?
should i wait for a natural miscarriage to take place or force it with a D&C?
should i seek a second opinion?
should i insist on another US before the D&C?
any help would be much appreciated. %-)
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I have been going through this for about 3 weeks now. I just went to the ob today and was told now there is a fetal pole however there is no heartbeat. We are heart broken. My husband wants us to get a second opinion. I just don't know what to do. I have had 3 u/s so far. The first 2 there was no fetal pole, just the sac and yoke. Now there's a fetal pole no heartbeat. I am so confused. I don't know what to do. The dr wants to schedule me for a d&c on Monday. I just don't know if I should hold out longer.
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I understand your dilema. I have just returned from having a D&C. prior to the procedure my doctor ordered the full suite of tests and ultrasounds. Its hard to accept but the baby is not developing correctly and it had no heartbeat. I was satisfied that I was doing the right thing and I know that I will fall pregnant again in time. Although I did not bleed or spot at all, my body could have taken weeks to misscarry and I could not put myself through that considering the hormonal and emotional state I am in to begin with. I advise you to focus on your heart and your truth. Trust your Dr and combined with your instincts it sometimes best to cut your losses and move forward with positive energy and a clean slate. God Bless you both and I wish you all the best whatever you decide to do.
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I had my first appointment with my second pregnancy scheduled for March 31. When I went in for my 11 week appointment they could not find a heartbeat. My doctor was not concerned about it but had me do an ultrasound anyway so that they could pick up the heartbeat and measure the baby. On Friday we went in for a follow up preparing for the worst. We were told that we were pregnant with twins but that neither one survived past 7 weeks and they have no idea why. My body had not recognized that they were no longer alive. He said that we could schedule a D and C for later the next week and if my body hadn't responded by then to go ahead and do it. We opted to go ahead and have the D and C Friday afternoon so as not to draw out any emotional distress and physical distress. Your body may just not recognize that a miscarriage has occurred. Trust that a lot of thought and protocols have been gone through to ensure that the right conclusion has been drawn. I know my chart was in the hands of at least 5 people by the time I got my results on Friday morning. If you really feel another ultrasound is needed then you can ask for one. But also remember that doctors and midwives do this on a daily basis and know what they are looking for. It is a hard conclusion to come to in your own mind when you lose a child. Good luck with everything!
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I can sympathesize with all the posts here. I am at 15 weeks now, however at my appointment last week (14 weeks) I was told there was no fetal heartbeat. The doctor tried the doppler and then an ultrasound and also sent me to the hospital for a better ultrasound and no heartbeat was found. It's been a week, and I have a D&E scheduled for the end of this week. I also have questions. I know they will do another ultrasound before the procedure but I have had no symptoms. I feel physically fine. Emotionally, we are very sad. I am lucky to have 2 beautiful and healthy children already. This would have been our 3rd. I have heard that many people with this don't have symptoms. I am lucky to have a strong faith and it is the only thing that will get me through this. My ob gyn has not even called me to see how I am doing. I am not happy that she has not shown any respect or compassion in this terrible tragedy. I will certainly be searching for a new OB or a specialist. My heart and prayers go out to all those on this website who have experienced this. Much love to all. I would love to hear from anyone who had a different outcome and actually their baby was fine after being told there was no heartbeat. PLEASE POST.
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this to is happening to me i went to my first apt i was 6wks 3days and there was a heartbeat when i went back i was 10wks 2days and they said they couldnt find one i am going for a 2nd opion this tuesday i hope that my midwife was wrong i have 5kids and have never had a problem with things like this b4 i will be praying for all of you
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My Heart Aches For you All, *n*
I Too Have Had my share of unfortunate miscarriages.
Unfortunately My insurance Will not cover any Costs To search into this any further. No one really knows why these things happen, but if I ever win the lottery I will form a reasearch foundation to Help Us all gain a better understanding.
At times I too have felt like god has forsaken me or is punishing me for things I have done or failed to do, or maybe for crimes commited in a past life. I dont know which is wose Not knowing why, or knowing there is nothing you can do to change it...
I have met another Woman with a retroverted uterus, who experienced the same horrible occurances. It is so unfortunate... I have no idea if that is related to No fetal heart beat or how these things even transpire.
My Doctor Told me the next time I get pregnant to take baby asprin. If that helps any body...
This is such a hard time to go through...I keep telling my self "what dosent kill you makes you stronger" but Does it still count if a little piece of you dies inside? It is so emotionally and Physically Taxing... If this letter helps give any one strength in this sorrowfull time It will help me endure the pain I am going through now once again... If you need someone to talk to feel free to write me a letter.
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I am so sorry for anyone's loses as I have had two misscarriages I had a missed miscarriage (in which my baby had died in the womb during the second trimester and it didn't recognize the lose, it was heart breaking and the sad thing is I had a ultrasound at 13 weeks 4days and the baby was fine, then I went in for my 16 week appt. and no heartbeat so I had an ultrasound and it detected that my baby had died I didn't want to believe, but if you hold on to the failed pregnancy you will just hold out and not be able to come pregnant I am now 24 1/2 weeks pregnant with my baby girl. I would guess that if your doctor says it is happening than it is. Sometimes there are mistakes usually with off dates, I wish everyone well and god bless.
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Same thing is happening to me today. I went to my second ultrasound today & told me I am pregnant with twins but there is no heart beat. I am very very shock I'm pregnant with twins but hurt & upset because they said there is no heart beat. Here I had my first ultrasound when I was 6wks & saw only one with a good heart beat. I'm scheduled for another ultrasound next week & hope & pray for the best. I hope & pray for everyone to be given good news.
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I am sympathetic to your experience I have had the same happen i'm 12 + weeks now no miscarage symptoms . . . I was wondering if you are on state insurance? I think people who are are being treated very unfairly!!! I have no clue what to do. . .. . . . .
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Wow how heart breaking! Has anyone found out no heart beat and yet went for another ultrasound and found out there is a heartbeat? This is my daughters first pregnancy. She was told there was no heartbeat and right away the doc discussed a d&c or let nature take its course, Instead of offering a second visit... Why do docs do that? Offer D&C right away, instead of waiting and come back for another ultrasound. Some doctors I tell ya, they don't care and yet these D&C are good paychecks for the docs. Makes ya wonder sometime. goes Anyways we will see wednesday when my daughter goes and has another ultrasound. She is right now devastated...
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My first pregnancy I miscarried and had a feeling in the pit of my stomach I was doing so. My second pregnancy I was spotting my hcg levels dropped over 3 blood tests and a 7 week ultrasound did not pick up a fetal heart beat. I was told I was in denial to go home and if I had not miscarried over the weekend I would get a D/C Monday morning. I went with my gut never showed up Monday for my D/C. I found another Dr willing to listen to me, my hcg levels where still not as high as my first test showed but also not as low as my 2 previous a week later I did another ultrasound and there was the heartbeat.!! 16 years later I am so happy I went by my gut not a test and never went for that D/C. Today I have a 16 year old daughter ! They were wrong!!
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I went to my routine prenatal checkup two days from being 12 weeks, the nurse couldnt find the heart beat so she said not to worry that these things happen a lot and the doctor would find it, he couldnt, had a ultrasound he found the baby but no heart beat. I was uneasy about it so my husband and i went to the er that night for a second opinion. They took blood and said i still showed as pregnant and my hcg levels was normal. Iv not had any cramps or bleeding. The ultrasound tech said there was no fetal pole but i had two sacs, one measuring 9 weeks the other smaller. He couldnt answer why. I asked about twins or if i had a silent miscarriage an already got pregnant again he couldnt answer bc he said he couldnt explain it. They tried to tell me i had an oblighted ovum, i said i had sen my baby and the heartbeat already before this, he said it was unexplainable why there was no fetal pole and two sacs but they didnt measure the same. I went to my doc two days later and he said i didnt have two sacs and there was a baby just no heart beat. Im very heartbroken as to why im being told so many different things and yet nobody can answer or explain it. I havent bled still and no cramps but it feels as if my stomach is going to fall through my vagina, thats the best way i can explain it... My back hurts it feels as if it needs to pop. I just want answers and i feel as if im still pregnant. What is happening to me???? Im going to a specialist wed which is the following wed of my appoitnment when i was told this. Is there anybody else this has happend to?? Please help set my mind at ease that im not going insane, i cry and cry bc i don't know what to expect next...
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I am having similar issues went in for ultrasound thought i was further along than i was but only showed me at 6w and 3d they could not find hb the doc said lets do another us so i went back a week later and measured at 6w and 5 days still not heart beat she said to prepare for the worst but because i have had not bleeding or cramping and normal pregnancy signs i am waiting it out and we have another us set up for 3 weeks from now, Hang in there and keep your head up thats all we can do
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