ok, im 25 years old and my fiancee is 23. we have been together for 5 years. i would say we have a happy relationship. however she is a virgin and has the theory that if she has sex, i will cheat on her after it happens. eventhough for the 5 years of no sex she knows and believe i never cheated on her. i dont know what to do. any suggestions?
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I suggest the two of you see a sex therapist. This would be a psychologist who works especially in the areas of sexual dysfunction, phobias, and addictions. (Of course, don't use that kind of language with your fiancee.)
Calmly bring to her attention how important it is that the two of you eventually have sex, especially after your married. Let her know you understand she has fears. Let her know that you have fears too. Let this be a very warm and understanding conversation. Bring up to her how important it is that you two seek help. So she doesn't feel alienated, let her know that there are things for you to work on with the therapist too.
Best of luck!
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