Im a 16 year old male. im having a hard time ejaculating during sex, i have had sex once. i haven't even came it yet. i take adderall for my ADD, i used to smoke and i drink alot. i watch porn very frequently but not as much as i used to. My girlfriend has orally pleasured me twice but neither times was i able to cum. i get erections very easily and am stable with them, and everything feels good during sex, but i just cant come. I dont know if its me or her, im just kinda scared and lost. is there something im doing wrong or anything. Ive heard things about watching porn make it harder because of fantasizing. but if theres anything i can do to make it easier to ejaculate i would really enjoy that. i would really appreciate some help. anyone please and thanks.
Be aware, firstly, that if you are a US citizen, you are technically breaking the law.
That said, let's look at the medical issue: first off, your lifestyle sounds more like a 40yr old bachelor male, than a teen. You're desensitised by adderall, smoking, drinking, and porn - each of them renders you less sensitive, less imaginative, less aware of your body, so you're experiencing the same problems a middle aged male can experience - go figure.
If you can experience orgasm while masturbating, then there's no particular reason why you won't be able to experience orgasm during sex, but society would prefer you wait a while (18, typically) US, so I'm not going to go into in-depth analysis of sexual practice.
It may sound like I'm on my high horse: I'm not: you just described my lifestyle (except for the adderall - we didn't have ADD - we were labeled 'bright' not troubled, more anon). The difference is, I had thirty years of sex before I got bored. You haven't even got started. Clean up your act, you might clear up your problem.
As for ADD (ADHD), Wiki describes adderall as, quote: "Adderall is widely reported to increase alertness, increase libido, increase concentration and overall cognitive performance, and, in general, improve mood, while decreasing user fatigue".
Increase alertness, increase libido, increase concentration, increase cognitive performance, improve mood?
Firstly, if that were accurate, you should be rocking - why bother with E - illegal - when you can do Adderall?
Secondly, why give a kid whose hyperactive a drug to make him more so?
So I was wrong that Adderall is a depressant, as would be logical to give for ADHD (ditto drugs, alcohol, smoking) - bizarrely they're giving you something that should be making you more hyper: maybe that's a clue.
I got into smoking because I was offered dope, and for the first time in my life, aged 30, my mind shut down: like a screaming engine that finally quits, it was all quiet. That was so peaceful the habit took, though I don't bother with the dope - no point - smoke does most of the shutting down, killing nerves and deadening brain function, so that now getting out of bed is about my achievement for the day. Sexy, huh?
Like I said, we didn't have ADHD - fast thinking, hyperactive kids were the 'clever' ones, we were called bright. It saddens me to see an entire generation doping their kids because they can't handle them.
Here's a story: it's just a story:
The world is changing. It's not just the internet generation - in a sense there's a linkage, but while scientists are just starting to notice, and doctors definitely haven't, the world, the very fabric of the world, is changing: what used to be done by dominance and control (War of Terror - sorry, War on Terror, jobs for life, government) is now being done by participation and imagination, free linkage, free thinking, free action - Facebook, entrepreneurs, self-employed, an entire society in motion.
What's even more bizarre for doctors, teachers and parents is that the kids that are being born today, aren't kids the way society is used to : where we were 1 in 10 of the population in our day, now it's reversed: most kids have the 'abnormality' that made us quick, bright, alert. You're all Facebook gods in the making, even if the only fame you enjoy is inventing a new way to amuse yourself.
Parents, doctors, and teachers brought up in the old model of structured, slow thinking, can't handle kids who are bored senseless - try playing a movie at 1/8th speed and see how long it takes to get bored.
The new release of the Facebook movie is a brilliant example: the first third of the movie is fast-world: high energy, enthusiasm, imagination, change: notice how his partner tries to do it the 'approved' way and is unsuccessful, and dumped: it's the rebels that win, and the slow-old way doesn't work: ironically it does have one useful role to play, the lawyers putting all the kids in legal straightjackets and sharing out the money.
So rather than self-medicating yourself into oblivion, which is oldster/loser territory, understand you're a generation of F1 (European fast car; Nascar to you?) kids in a limo world. You may not have the legal right to avoid the Adderall, but you can at least ask some questions and begin to prepare for when you're 18 and going to be fully in charge of your life.
... but as I said, it's just a story.
That said, let's look at the medical issue: first off, your lifestyle sounds more like a 40yr old bachelor male, than a teen. You're desensitised by adderall, smoking, drinking, and porn - each of them renders you less sensitive, less imaginative, less aware of your body, so you're experiencing the same problems a middle aged male can experience - go figure.
If you can experience orgasm while masturbating, then there's no particular reason why you won't be able to experience orgasm during sex, but society would prefer you wait a while (18, typically) US, so I'm not going to go into in-depth analysis of sexual practice.
It may sound like I'm on my high horse: I'm not: you just described my lifestyle (except for the adderall - we didn't have ADD - we were labeled 'bright' not troubled, more anon). The difference is, I had thirty years of sex before I got bored. You haven't even got started. Clean up your act, you might clear up your problem.
As for ADD (ADHD), Wiki describes adderall as, quote: "Adderall is widely reported to increase alertness, increase libido, increase concentration and overall cognitive performance, and, in general, improve mood, while decreasing user fatigue".
Increase alertness, increase libido, increase concentration, increase cognitive performance, improve mood?
Firstly, if that were accurate, you should be rocking - why bother with E - illegal - when you can do Adderall?
Secondly, why give a kid whose hyperactive a drug to make him more so?
So I was wrong that Adderall is a depressant, as would be logical to give for ADHD (ditto drugs, alcohol, smoking) - bizarrely they're giving you something that should be making you more hyper: maybe that's a clue.
I got into smoking because I was offered dope, and for the first time in my life, aged 30, my mind shut down: like a screaming engine that finally quits, it was all quiet. That was so peaceful the habit took, though I don't bother with the dope - no point - smoke does most of the shutting down, killing nerves and deadening brain function, so that now getting out of bed is about my achievement for the day. Sexy, huh?
Like I said, we didn't have ADHD - fast thinking, hyperactive kids were the 'clever' ones, we were called bright. It saddens me to see an entire generation doping their kids because they can't handle them.
Here's a story: it's just a story:
The world is changing. It's not just the internet generation - in a sense there's a linkage, but while scientists are just starting to notice, and doctors definitely haven't, the world, the very fabric of the world, is changing: what used to be done by dominance and control (War of Terror - sorry, War on Terror, jobs for life, government) is now being done by participation and imagination, free linkage, free thinking, free action - Facebook, entrepreneurs, self-employed, an entire society in motion.
What's even more bizarre for doctors, teachers and parents is that the kids that are being born today, aren't kids the way society is used to : where we were 1 in 10 of the population in our day, now it's reversed: most kids have the 'abnormality' that made us quick, bright, alert. You're all Facebook gods in the making, even if the only fame you enjoy is inventing a new way to amuse yourself.
Parents, doctors, and teachers brought up in the old model of structured, slow thinking, can't handle kids who are bored senseless - try playing a movie at 1/8th speed and see how long it takes to get bored.
The new release of the Facebook movie is a brilliant example: the first third of the movie is fast-world: high energy, enthusiasm, imagination, change: notice how his partner tries to do it the 'approved' way and is unsuccessful, and dumped: it's the rebels that win, and the slow-old way doesn't work: ironically it does have one useful role to play, the lawyers putting all the kids in legal straightjackets and sharing out the money.
So rather than self-medicating yourself into oblivion, which is oldster/loser territory, understand you're a generation of F1 (European fast car; Nascar to you?) kids in a limo world. You may not have the legal right to avoid the Adderall, but you can at least ask some questions and begin to prepare for when you're 18 and going to be fully in charge of your life.
... but as I said, it's just a story.
... by the way, it's not 8x in real life - it's 100x. We see answers instantly that take others minutes or hours to get to.
Do you finish other people's sentences for them? Cut them off because you already know what they're going to say, then launch into a spiel that leaves them exhausted? Do you see things your way, not the way other people want you to? Is peer pressure there, but not really enough to make you want to do what they want you to do? Do you not understand how other people can think the way they think?
That's roughly what it means to have a quick-brain. It's not IQ (though obviously IQ gets affected). It's a race engine vs a limo engine.
If that sounds familiar, celebrate it.
Do you finish other people's sentences for them? Cut them off because you already know what they're going to say, then launch into a spiel that leaves them exhausted? Do you see things your way, not the way other people want you to? Is peer pressure there, but not really enough to make you want to do what they want you to do? Do you not understand how other people can think the way they think?
That's roughly what it means to have a quick-brain. It's not IQ (though obviously IQ gets affected). It's a race engine vs a limo engine.
If that sounds familiar, celebrate it.
... last thought, I just noticed your handle: timekiller - couldn't put it better myself
With the world not 'getting' my sofware (I own a variation of the semantic web) all I've been doing these last few years is killing time
If you're that (self) aware, then 70yrs is a long time to wait. If any of this has made sense, then I hope we can help get you back in the race.
With the world not 'getting' my sofware (I own a variation of the semantic web) all I've been doing these last few years is killing time
If you're that (self) aware, then 70yrs is a long time to wait. If any of this has made sense, then I hope we can help get you back in the race.
Looking for psychological edge to be able to ejaculate while having intercourse. Have no issues with libido or virility. I can ejaculate just fine masturbating.