One boYFriends 2 girlfriends he is not ready to leave one of them.. what should i do?

Hi Lively,

for one, suicide is not an option, nobody should kill themselves over someone else and anyways, it's not gonna do you any good.

If you are unhappy and he's unwilling to give up one or the other, be the wise one to walk away.  A relationship means commitment and respect and he obviously isn't respecting you and your feelings.

I ain't saying it's gonna be easy to pull it off but speaking by experience, being loved by someone that respects you, is ready to make concessions and is faithful is a much more rewarding relationship than being the third wheel of the cart.  You can leave and be nice about it, you don't have to throw stuff at his face or be mean.  You simply tell him that you wish he would understand that you need a steady and exclusive relationship and that it's not suiting you that he sees someone else.   You don't argue and you walk away.

If, like medic-dan said, he's using you, listening to his excuses will only possibly drag you back to him.  Just express your opinion speaking about how YOU feel then walk away.  It'll give him something to think about before bed.


Good luck!

Thank you medic-dan, thank you guest for your answers. Actually I tried many times to leave him by fighting with him for no reason but at the end of the day we again ends up being one . I know loving two girls at the same time is more like cheating instead of love . But I am like addicted to him as if I can do nothing without him . He is a talking parrort , he never helps me finically instead I helped him all the times I send him gifts and all that bit he never did Amy of this stuff, all he do is talking that he loves me alot and he is keep doing that from past 3 years . I need to get out from this relation of he is no more angree to leave his fiancé for me bit I don't know how. Please guys help me out and give me some ideas and suggestions that how can I leave him so he would also realize that he was wrong. As if I leave him now without any reason he would blame mr that I need freedom or I need new guy as he always does blame and torture me. Please make a situation for me so I can get out from this relationship and take a deep breath in fresh air. Please please please help me tell me what should I ask him so we can be separated .

Lively,

Hey , I never made him feel guilty or bad about his fiancé . Even though I never mentioned that I don't Want to see him with his fiancé and I guess that's natural . If u lOve some one you get jealoused easily when you see them with another girl or guy. After spending these three years with me he also felt that it is hard for him to live without me . Let me tell u the story from the beginning how he gets engaged . This girl who is his fiancé right now she tells him that she loves him. And he being sensible proposed her right away they even though he don't even know her very well or he himslf wasnt in love with that girl , the love was from the girl's side he just thinks that the girl is good and love him as well so he purpose her. I wasn't in his life at that point when I came into his life their families start getting togethr and their engagement ceremony happened in my presence and we were both together and in love when his engagement happened. How it's being thre years since thAn. He said to me I was wrong , I should wait that's my mistake that I proposed his fiancé right away whereas he truly loves me need me as a wife wants me in his life instead of his fiancé . These are his words , I know some how his love is true . But I need lots of guts to move on coz I really madly love him . Please tel me if something else comes into ur mind. I will be very thankful to you & if u hav any questions just let me know . Takecare

PleAse please please tell me something guys..:(

move on like someone else said, he's using you.

U think he loves you because he says he does, but actions are louder than words...LEAVE HIM. It is not a healthy relationship. He's using you as an ego boost because he is very selfish and probably grew up with a dysfunctional family. Sorry for late response lol! I know a girl that's in your position. The guy she was with was my ex who cheated on me to be with her. But i know he's cheating on her because when we were all 'together' lol, he would show her txts from different women. He likes to feel adored and loved. Looking back now, I feel bad for that girl. I have moved on and am engaged with a different man who loves me and is dedicated to me :)