Partner is such hardworking

I'm so sick of my partner I have been with him ten years he treats me ok sometimes but most of the time he's argumentative and angry controlling and possessive and jealous never hit me but he dosent need to punch me to hurt me, he never seems to be happy he always wants wat someone else has got or jealous of everyone he's very unsociable and only likes certain people but within our friends and family he's the most charming Man U cud meet, how wrong! I walk on egg shells everyday frightened of wat else I did wrong I cant seem to get anything right but that's me I'm not a domestic goddess an im not organised and trying to be gets me in more of a tizz. It sounds awful but I pray he wud cheat so I have an excuse to get out I'm so unhappy and I don't know where to turn.

Hey Janey1,

It really sounds as if you're stuck in a rut- like a case of familiarity breeding contempt. And it doesn't sound as if you're the only one unhappy in the relationship- you're man sounds as if he's not exactly loving the situation either. Otherwise, why would he be angry and argumentative, controlling & possesive, unsociable and jealous? They don't sound like the traits and characteristics of someone who's happy with his life.

Do you think it's worth going to counselling? Does saving the relationship mean that much to you? From your last line, which states you pray he would cheat- I would assume not. It sounds like you really want to end the relationship, but don't think you have a good enough reason to. You also don't want to be responsable for the relationship ending- hence you praying he would do something to give you a good enough excuse & still shoulder the responsability for it ending. If you were one of my friends, I would tell you to "Grow a pair of b*lls and end it". If you are in the way of thinking that you want it to end, but don't want to be the one to blame, I would suggest you suck it up. What's more important to you- your pride or your happiness?

You've said nothing good about your partner, so I'm assuming there is nothing that you can think of. Perhaps taking some time out and writing a Pro's and Con's for staying with him. Relationships are supposed be good things- make you feel as if you connect with someone, they make you happy, compliment your life- if there is absolutely nothing that makes you feel that way, then it's possibly time to say Goodbye.

BUT if there is, consider couples counselling.

Best of luck