How is everyone's sex life after having two kids is it deifferent than before or not that much, because to me i'm very wet i don't know if it's wether i only waited 6weeks before i can resume sexual intercause but my husband don't seem to have a problem it's just it's not comfy at all!
Hi Lusanda: It all depends on the fact that if there was any trauma with the birth ie: Tears, stiches, infection, etc.
For me my 1st was 9lbs 1 oz I had over 50 stitches!!!! It was virtually impossible for my husband and I too have sex. My 2nd one was 9 lbs 5 1/2 oz - o.O o.O o.O I ALWAYS leave that half in!!!! LOl He had a 16 1/2 inch HEAD!!!! Basically I delievered a dinner plate!!
The doctor told me I had a 3rd degree tear!! I was 1cm away from deliverying him through my anus!!!! So my experience is SLIGHTLY different to women who have 6 or 7lb babies - which is the average and what most women are made to handle. THAT said there can be complications from that too - tearing etc. The reason why you have too wait 6 weeks is that is how long it takes too stop bleeding and your uterus too return to normal size.
One of my MANY gynecologists told mll you e that when you have vaginal trauma and pain, when your husband tries too initiate sex, your brain and body are like "Hey you! - you are the enemy and BACK OFF!" You don't mean too think of him that way, but your body is defending itself. So if you are experiencing a hard time getting "into it" you are NOT alone. It just takes time and patience from your husband.
One time I was feeling like an absolute THING not a woman in anyway shape or form and I will tell you what my 82 year old grandma told me "Tell him too take job in hand!!!!!!!" This was me o.O o.O o.O Just imagine your grandma that looks like the queen mother - TOTALLY - saying that?!!!! So don't beat yourself up about it OK? Also you will be TOTALLY tired, it all works out eventually. If you need too talk about it, I'm usually on here!
For me my 1st was 9lbs 1 oz I had over 50 stitches!!!! It was virtually impossible for my husband and I too have sex. My 2nd one was 9 lbs 5 1/2 oz - o.O o.O o.O I ALWAYS leave that half in!!!! LOl He had a 16 1/2 inch HEAD!!!! Basically I delievered a dinner plate!!
The doctor told me I had a 3rd degree tear!! I was 1cm away from deliverying him through my anus!!!! So my experience is SLIGHTLY different to women who have 6 or 7lb babies - which is the average and what most women are made to handle. THAT said there can be complications from that too - tearing etc. The reason why you have too wait 6 weeks is that is how long it takes too stop bleeding and your uterus too return to normal size.
One of my MANY gynecologists told mll you e that when you have vaginal trauma and pain, when your husband tries too initiate sex, your brain and body are like "Hey you! - you are the enemy and BACK OFF!" You don't mean too think of him that way, but your body is defending itself. So if you are experiencing a hard time getting "into it" you are NOT alone. It just takes time and patience from your husband.
One time I was feeling like an absolute THING not a woman in anyway shape or form and I will tell you what my 82 year old grandma told me "Tell him too take job in hand!!!!!!!" This was me o.O o.O o.O Just imagine your grandma that looks like the queen mother - TOTALLY - saying that?!!!! So don't beat yourself up about it OK? Also you will be TOTALLY tired, it all works out eventually. If you need too talk about it, I'm usually on here!