Im on my second marraige so is my husband. He is 51, I am 43. seems like in the past year, he controls the sex. I feel like I make advances, I have even gotten him all hard, yet he will push me away and say that is nice babe, but Im tired, we will do it in the morning.. morning comes and he is already up and out of the bedroom before I even wake up.
On the same note, since he pushes my advances away he has since sent me notes saying i am angry are you aware we haven't had sex in 11 days. I am like yes I know, you have been too tired or your out of the room when I wake up. He is a truck driver also so he is gone for several days at a time, he counts those days in the no sex count.. which isn't fair .
I really dont know what is up or what to do. The only way I can get him excited is me making the effort. every time its gotta start with oral sex on him, if I want some, that isnt if i get some, but that is the only way i can get him turned on enough to get some.
I am not fat, I haven't gained weight or anything. the kids are gone to college so there are no distractions or excuses. We are entering our 5th year of marraige together, and things should be whenever since we are the only ones here.
He is very insecure also lately. If i go anywhere he wants to accuse me of cheating. he has even stooped to accusing me of liking the old neighbour and have something going on when he is on the road since he will shout over nice weather or how are you.. you know simple things..
My husband has been diagnosed with copd in the past year. Now he thinks he is going to die like tomorrow, and he is going out with friends from highschool, and sometimes invites me but mostly if he does he finds a reason to start a fight so I don't go. Then he stays the night because he does't want to drink and drive excuse.
I look at it like cant you go out with your friends and not drink? they dont come here and go out they are always home after a night out.. yet he ends up "crashing at their house"
what is going on... what should I do or say. I suspect that he has cheated or is cheating.. but i try not to think that ... I think it but im just not sure.
I am confused on how I can grab his package, get him all hard and then get pushed away because he is too tired.
He talks about issues his friends and their wifes are having with their sex lives you know guys talk and he shares it with me, yet I cant say ours is great because he controls it.
It really hurt when he texted me after leaving for a few days on the road and said im angry cause we haven't had sex in 11 days.. (oh by the way I had bronchitis and a sinus infection) he says i know you have been sick and all, but im frustrated... and as I pointed out.. he is a truck driver, gone for many of those so called 11 days, and some of those 11 days I did try.. yet got pushed away..
anyone have suggestions?????????????
hi how yu doin how long has it been since yu had sex