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Sexually frustrated to the MAX!

By WhitRose | 5 posts, last post
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WhitRose

Hello, I am 23 years old woman - and unable to cum in the hands of a lover. I have been sexually active since I was 17, having a wide range of partners - always looking for that ONE man who could make me cum! I LOVE sex! I am more then likely one of the MOST SEXUAL women you will ever meet - pleasing myself an average of 2 - 4 times a day! I can never seem to ebb my sexual need. For the longest time I was quite self conscious about the fact that I could not muster up an orgasim between the sheets. I could see the frustration and irritation in my lovers faces when they were discourage due to my lack of pleasure. After a time I learned to live with the fact that I will never truly experience the full effect/pleasure/connect/release that sex has to offer. But recently it has been plaegueing me beyond belief.. I am now married, I have been in a relationship with my husband for for three years now, married one in October. When I first started dating him I knew he was inexperienced, but all the more fun to mold him - not. We are two completely different creatures when it comes to sex. I am rough, loud, wild, scratching biting animalistic. He is... Conservative. But that is besides the point. I NEED to find a way to make myself feel that release, I am finding us slowly separating due to my lack of interest in sleeping with him.. I've just lost the desire to be intament with him, due to the frustration I feel everytime I can't cum. I feel as though I have become a chore, always begging him to help me finish after he has.. Getting upset with him when he finished too soon. I get so close, I can feel all of it building up, boiling within me.. I'm so close.. I'm almost there.. And BAM! It's gone. Just like that. We both end up frustrated and irritated, ending in the fact that I'd much rather pleasure myself when he is away, and delve into a good romance novel.. I've also found my mouth watering for others.. Ravenous almost twords attractive men I pass on the street.. I feel like soon my cravings and desires will screw me over and I will do something I will forever regret. Please.. I desperately need help, my marriage depends on this.. How do I tell him what I NEED without hurting his ego? How do help him become the man my body needs? Or is it truly time to just say goodbye and continue my search for the one who can fulfill me emotionally and physically?

freshman noise

Hi I'm guessing when you masturbate yourself you can reach orgasm?
If so then teach him to masturbate you the same way and see if that helps, if you like your the satnav guiding him where to go and what to do :-)
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Whitrose

Thankyou:)
Yes, I can bring myself to cum on my own.
I have tried doing this with him plenty of times but it never reaches the point it needs to, and I end up feeling like a chore:/
Maybe if I could get him to go down on me or SOMETHING! Lol
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freshman noise

Just be patient take him at the hand show him and point not all your pleasure zones are.
Do you go down on him if so say you would like to share the experienced and for him to go down and pleasure you :-)
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sally

Hi whiterose, I can really empathize with you. That sounds so frustrating. A simple but not complete suggestion might be that you get yourself off while having sex with your husband. For example, you pleasure yourself while he is having sex with you. My guy finds that such a turn on. the longer answer is that this is in part about communication, which can be so difficult around sexuality. There is a fantastic book called "good loving, great sex' that tackles differences in sexual styles and levels if desire in couples. It dies it without blame or shame, allows you both.to understand each other and gives you a framework for working together on the problem. And you both need to work on it. Together. There is hope. If all else fails counselling might help. I hope that helps.
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subscribed mark

I think that wild vs conservative thing may be a big part of the problem. Do you think you may be shutting down just before you come because you subconsciously do not want to upset his conservative ways?

I think you may need to work on bringing him over to your wild side but I din't know how you do that.

I have a similar problem with my wife. She seems quite conflicted about sex being ok or dirty. She is not at all adventurous, while I would love to have someone who would want to do wild and crazy things to me and me to her. If my lover wanted to use a dildo on me I would say go for it, let's try it. And several other things I can think of.

Alas the old missionary position seems to be it. After I do her orally to a writhing, moaning conclusion she manages to make me feel she feels we just did something dirty. So I quit oral about 20 years ago. I really miss that too. I was spoiled when I was 19 by a girl who smooshed my face into her puxxy every time we were together and held it there for hours. She taught me to love that.

Given my wife's attitude I just haven't bothered attempting to have sex with her many times when I would have liked to. I settle for masturbating as soon as I'm alone instead.

I've never succeeded in bringing her to the wild side in 47 years but I hope you may have better luck.

 

 

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