Hey, so someone who I was sat with outside at lunch had a shisha pen, and he was smoking it. He asked If I wanted a puff, I said no. But then him and two girls I was sat with started laughing and were calling me a p***y and all of that stuff. So I took one little puff, no one saw except my mate, he promised me he isnt going to tell but I'm worried. What shall I do?
Hi Guest
You made a mistake and it sounds like and hopefully is a mistake that you have learned a lesson from.
Peer pressure can be overwhelming and it is very uncomfortable when you’re the one the receiving end of it.
You’re no doubt worried about your parents finding out and the trouble you could get in so it comes down to do you tell them what you did and explain what happened and why or do you say nothing and hope they don’t find out.
That choice is up to you but more importantly is what you are going to do the next time your friends try to pressure you into doing it again.
If your answer is I made the mistake of trying it once and I won’t do it again no matter what they say or call me then you have learned from it and nothing needs to be said to anyone.
Good friends don’t make fun of or try to make friends do something they don’t won’t to do so if it happens again tell them to p*****f and walk away.
In the long run poor choices won’t make you more popular or make you friends that are worth having but showing people that you’re cool enough and strong enough to say no and stick with it.
That’s what will earn you the respect of any friend worth having along with making you feel pretty darn good about yourself.
What make you feel better going home knowing you did the right thing or worrying about being caught?
We all make mistakes and it sounds like you have learned from it and hopefully it is not just that you could get caught for doing it.
If you have learned that smoking is pretty high on the list of dumb things to do and that you tried it once and that’s it then all you need to do is just work on ways to not give into peer pressure maybe something like just walking away will show them you make your own choices.