i am 21 years old and my husband is 28.we got married last month and i just did a pregnancy test which shows positive..i have a mixed feeling for this and so does my husband.we love each other a lot and we both would love to have babies togeather.the problem is we did nt expected this to happen so soon.we had vacations planned and my marriage has nt been accepted by my parents.we are confused abt wat to do as we were planning to concieve at least after a year of marriage.
we would really seek some useful information.wat shud we do.how can i easily abort if we choose on it??.how safe is taking dose of progesterone??will this abortions adversely effect my planned pregnancy later and my physical health??is miscarriage a hereditary??
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Hi there, I'm writing this as only 2 weeks ago I had an abortion and promised myself after such a traumatic, horrendous time since I would help someone else if I could who faced the same dilemma as me. I am happily married with 2 young children and whilst we were open to the idea of 3 when we found out we were pregnant and as reality sunk in it became very scary! Although abortion was never even thought of as an option in the early days of pregnancy as time went on and my hormones (I believe) kicked in - I panicked. I became depressed, cried everyday, could not get out of bed to carry on life with my other 2 children. Abortion became more and more like what we had to do to get me back to normal and coping with life. BIGGEST REGRET I will ever have! The reality of what I did 2 weeks ago quickly sunk in and looking at my 2 children made me so sad that I had robbed them of a sibling. All my concerns and fears if we had a 3 rd baby seemed totally insignificant. If I could turn back the clock I would as in my experience it is an awful thing to have to live with. I feel as tho my body played the cruelest trick on me (i felt i had no connection with the baby , was sure i was going to be post natally depressed and worried it would all effect my relationship with my children and husband). However post abortion, i am overwhelmed with the feelings i should have felt but didn't whilst pregnant and am desperate for another baby. (Which my doctor said I would!) i had a baby shower to attend last week - it was awful, I had a friend show me her scan picture pretty much same due date as mine was - it was awful. Everytime I hear about a pregnancy my heart races and I feel so very sad and ashamed of myself. So please think very carefully as to whether you can live with the guilt , regret and emotional turmoil afterwards. You will always have reminders you have to face. Abortion itself is made so easy and the procedure almost feels too simple but the aftermath really isnt ( wasn't for me anyway!) i looked into everything regarding abortion the procedure, the timescales etc but what i wish i had looked at was the how i would feel and cope afterwards. I will say honestly tho that I do feel better today than have previously but maybe that is because my husband and I have realised how foolish and frightened we were (quite unnecessarily) and now would like to plan our next child so maybe that knowledge is helping me. For yourself knowing you can go onto have a baby when you're ready may help, but if you choose abortion please don't underestimate how low you could feel for sometime afterwards. I have tried to be as honest as possible and hope my story helps someone in some way. I know many will read and judge as I would have prior to this whole experience - but please understand it is difficult to explain the entire situation in this space and no one can judge until they have been placed in that position. I really wish you well and hope you reach the right decision for you. If i can help anymore please ask. So sorry this is so long - i guess its therapy for me too. Xxxx
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