My boyfriend has always had a problem coming on to me (initiating sexual stuff). 95% of the time I have to initiate it and when he does initiate it he does it so subtly. I'm always wondering if he really even wants it. We have been together many years and at first I didn't mind this because I liked being the aggressive one. But after a while I just want to be a regular girl and have the guy come on to me. I think all woman need to feel like they turn on their partner. All my boyfriends in the past came on to me totally and I miss that. I miss feeling sexy. The guy I'm with now is absolutely perfect except for this one thing. We've argued about this alot and it seems like he just can't change. His reason is that either he's "not a very sexual person" or that its extremely hard to come on to me because in the past he was really dorky and got made fun of (all growing up) and never had a girlfriend and he is really insecure about initiating it. I hope its the second excuse cause that sounds like we could work on it in therapy? But the first excuse (not a very sexual person) pretty much sounds like I'm doomed. I feel like it might be a mixture of both though. Either way, I can't help taking it personally. It hurts my feelings and I don't feel sexy or when we are sexual I don't know if he's even wanting it. And by the way, I'm not a sex addict or anything. A couple times a month is fine. Its not even about the sex I just want him to initiate it! I also just want to add that he has no problem at all getting and keeping an erection. And he looks at porn occasionally so I know he has some sexuality in him!
And I know I'm attractive there is no reason he shouldn't come on to me. Also, he is extremely affectionate and hugs and kisses me all the time but he never brings it to the next level. It's like his mind just doesn't go there.
My hope is that his problem is all mental. But here's my question cause maybe its a physical problem: His testicles are kinda small and not very firm. I know testicles aren't supposed to be real firm but comparably to previous guys I've been with it is alot less firm. Could this mean anything? Low testosterone?
And I know I'm attractive there is no reason he shouldn't come on to me. Also, he is extremely affectionate and hugs and kisses me all the time but he never brings it to the next level. It's like his mind just doesn't go there.
My hope is that his problem is all mental. But here's my question cause maybe its a physical problem: His testicles are kinda small and not very firm. I know testicles aren't supposed to be real firm but comparably to previous guys I've been with it is alot less firm. Could this mean anything? Low testosterone?
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im no doctor or nurse, but just a little simple advice
Like people penis's and testicles come in all different sizes, shape (well sort of), textures and in some cases missing certain things.
Your boyfriend is obviously not very keen at initiating sex and as he has admitted it is to do with his past. I had similar problems but someone caring and patient as you are being with him, got me through it. Give him abit of time, find out what he likes or his fantasies are and tease him with them. (such as dressing up etc.). Get close enough that he thinks you are in control then stop and let him come onto you. Just tease his mind and don't worry about nott feeling sexy or attractive to him. Most blokes don't show emotion but we all feel it no matter what anybody says.
Like people penis's and testicles come in all different sizes, shape (well sort of), textures and in some cases missing certain things.
Your boyfriend is obviously not very keen at initiating sex and as he has admitted it is to do with his past. I had similar problems but someone caring and patient as you are being with him, got me through it. Give him abit of time, find out what he likes or his fantasies are and tease him with them. (such as dressing up etc.). Get close enough that he thinks you are in control then stop and let him come onto you. Just tease his mind and don't worry about nott feeling sexy or attractive to him. Most blokes don't show emotion but we all feel it no matter what anybody says.
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possible steroid abuse?
Does he go the Gym? has he got bigger recently?
Steroids done wrong result in what yo describe
Does he go the Gym? has he got bigger recently?
Steroids done wrong result in what yo describe
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