Stretched vagina flaps

Yeah I'm there with you guys :$ I'm 16 and I've already had sex but I'm still worried if a boy comes along and gets turned off by these vaginal lips :/
With my previous boyfriend who I'm still kind of seeing says he wants to go down on me but isn't ready yet and I'm not sure if he is just saying that because I have vaginal lips. :-(
I don't tend to look at it much because it makes me very concious but every time I do it seems to be getting worse.
I would really like to get them removed but I've heard the only way is by having them surgically removed which I'm up for but worried it might be worse in the long run. If anyone has had them removed can you please get back to me and give me some advice please :-)

ya ive had sex and its gross during it u can feel it and like some guys like it and some really want to like say ewww and turn away. it all depends but if the guy loves u i dont think u should worry.

are you a male or female? I can't feel it when having sex :/ ahhh I just want to get rid of them asap

ITS AN ESSAY BUT READ IT, TRUST ME!
Hi guys, basically I have the same issue as everyone else on here. When reading everyone's posts I became happier to know that we are not alone!! but, at the same time, I feel like a weirdo because all of my friends ask me if my boyfriend has fingered me and licked me out yet and it's embarrassing saying no because they all have been by their boyfriends. I'm only 15 and I am no longer a virgin but I am 16 in a couple of months. I am so happy that I lost it to my boyfriend because he lost it to me too and I wouldn't want to do it with anyone else. He always try's to finger me and I have to pull his hand away. He has fingered girls before so I am scared that their vaginas wasn't like mine, because lets be honest guys, not many people we know have vaginal lips...we are talking to each other on the internet for god sake so this is like a worldwide thing. However, when my boyfriend and I first had sex, I made him turn the lights off because I felt more comfortable that he couldn't see my vaginal lips. So every time we have sex now, I turn the light off. I enjoy it more and it's not as embarrassing as if the lights were on.
Since having sex my boyfriend goes "rough", VERY "rough" (makes me laugh every time I say it) and my vaginal lips seem to have stretched. I enjoy the sex but I do not want them to get any more stretched than they already are. I am seriously considering surgery because I have had them for as long as I know and not told anyone about it. Not even my mum or doctor.
I have had them since i was about 13 and I think its because I used to finger myself (disgusting, right?). I 100% regret doing it, because i used to do at least twice a day, around 4 days a week and I think that is what has caused my vaginal lips. I could be wrong, but I don't want to go to a doctor and tell them. I'm going to have to show my boyfriend one day, and I am dreading that day. I cry about it sometimes, because I feel that i'm just not normal to all my friends. I would love to meet a girl that is in the same boat as me, because this is hard to talk to someone that doesn't know what you are going through.
Sorry for the essay guys, D.

I am so embarresed, when i was young i thought it was embarrassing to look like i've never been with a guy so i would pull on my lips. Now i'm 16 embarressed and mortified that i did that.. do they ever unstretch!?!?!?

I'm sixteen and I've had this same problem since I can remember! They are stretched out a little bit, and have a bit of a purple/brown color. I've had a few serious relationships and theydidnt end well because I was too scared to go further because of THIS. I'm so ashamed by it. I wish I was born normal. I'm afraid I'm gotta get a nickname or something and everyone will find out. And I'm always scared to wear bathing suit bottoms! Is there anything I can do? :(

Hi evry1 I'm 25 n have the same problem. Mine r both visible n dats da main reason I'm still a virgin I'm just scared wat will my boyfriend say when he has to c wwat my vagina look like.

I'm 14 and i have the same thing and it really bothers me cause i feel different then other girls. I am a virgin but im nervous if i ever do sexual things what my boyfriend will think? Will this ever go away :-(

Hi there, I am 32 years old and have 2 children. I have had the same problem since I can remember. At first I was embarrased when I first started seing guys. After my first time with a guy I was embarrased and hid myself all the time. But since I have never had problems with a guy no teasing. I have been with my husband for 12 years and he just thinks its normal. But Everybody is different so half of us have this and the other half have no flaps hanging but tell you the truth which is normal hanging or not??? :-D :-D :-D I have come to terms with it now and not worried one bit. I have tried pushing them up like tucking) sometimes they will stay like that for a while. Hope this has helped.

Hi. I'm fifteen and both of my vangina flaps are long. I never had sex before and they have been this for more tham five years. is this normal. Please tell me!

Any guy who complains about getting a girl naked is not a guy that you want to stay with. So fix the guy, not your private lips. After all, any female parts are better than none. And it is nice to have variety- not many guys want the same same same as other guys.
Be yourself mostly, that is the most beautiful thing. Don't think that a guy will care what your inside or privates look like if he loves you. Trust me about this, I am a guy too. And furthermore, if they are purple, brown, pink or yellow, they are still girl parts which we (as guys) desire so much. Stop comparing yourselves to porn stars (which are as fake as wrestling!). You are a girl, and that thing is designed to make babies grand entry into the world, and also designed for a lot of fun for yourselves and a lucky man who gets to share it. Even if he affectionately calls it eating lip steak, don't let that bother you! (no one put a gun to his head and made him eat roast beef right!) - and for most guys it is a turn on anyway. (something we don't have usually turns us on. Come to think about it, anything turns us on... We are guys..)

OMG!!! I have that too! I want it to go away. They get pinched and keep me from gettin wet in areas so they get pinched during sex too. And p.s. If ur a dude and u think a loose looking vagina is sexy then you are one SICK BASTARD... That's a gross fetish... Grooosssss. And theyr not fun to have. They get pulled on and it hurts plus wen they get pulled on they can stretch even more And its just all around a bother. Takes away a whole lot of the feel-good too. :-( unfortunately the only thing I've found is that you can get gynoplasty.... It'd be well worth it I think.. Especially since a lot of people assume that it gets that way from having sex waaaayy too much and that's not true.. I don't wanna be called skanky and slutty because of that.. :-(

Oh my I am fifteeen and so so so glad I found some answers finally it makes me feel so much better inside to know that j am not alone on this

OMG THANK GOD FOR THIS !

i thought i had a something rong!

Im 14 and one side is like hella long !
AND PURPLE ! i was scare as hell !

i didnt want to tell anyone cause i thought they would belive me :(

im so glad im NORMAL !

 

oh my god this is so relieving!!!! i have the same problem and im 15. i just noticed it this year, and it sounds like we all have the same problem. it drives me insane!! my left flap is totally normal and small, but my right flap is all streched out, wrinkly, and kinda brownish/purplish.. but not too much. but still! its embarassing, and i havent had sex or anything before, but i do masterbate occasionally though.. so i suspect thats why, but i guess not becasue all of you have it too! ugh this makes me feel better, but im still insucre about it, and i hope guys dont mind! it would be helpful if a guy commented and say what he thinks of this problem that us girls have.