I'm a 16 year old female and I'm unable to climax during masterbation et I've tried everything but I just can't reach climax. What should I do? Am I perhaps doing something wrong? I simulate the clit and such. Is there something wrong with me?
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Hi hun,
I don't think there's anything wrong with you. It is just that it can take women a real long time to figure out what they like during masturbation, and many concentrate on the vagina too much when the clit is where all the action really happens.
Just relax, make sure there will be no interruptions, think about something sexy, and give yourself time. Don't think about there being something wrong with you or about how to climax while you masturbate for sure, that's really offputting. :) It will happen one day. Maybe try the shower head? That works well for many women, though a vibrator also works wonders if you can get one.
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You MAY be doing something "wrong" but I don't have much experience with masturbation so wait for someone else to respond.
But no, even if you can't find your way to orgasm, that doesn't mean something is wrong with you. There are some aged women who say they have never had an orgasm (mostly from penetration though). I don't know why.
I guess just keep trying? Find that sweet spot in your body and go for it.
But no, even if you can't find your way to orgasm, that doesn't mean something is wrong with you. There are some aged women who say they have never had an orgasm (mostly from penetration though). I don't know why.
I guess just keep trying? Find that sweet spot in your body and go for it.
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Hi!
I know this post is old, but I think there are a lot of adult women out there in the same boat.
Let me start off with saying there is no "wrong way" to masturbate. So many people focus on the physical when discussing sex, but for women there are 2 major components to "good sex", especially with ones self; there is a physical aspect, but more importantly there is a mental aspect.
I had, and on occasion still have, difficulty climaxing on my own. Usually, this is in part to being concerned about how I look, how I sound, how can hear me, what I'm doing, how I'm doing it, or if I'm doing it right. Those thoughts are counter productive to sexual gratification. What I've found to be the secret is to "be in the moment", what I mean by that is to turn off your thoughts about what going on beyond what you are doing at that moment. You don’t necessarily have to masturbate to practice this component. This can be done just sitting quietly and tuning out your everyday concerns and focusing of your senses (smell, touch, sight, sound, and taste) for 1 minute to start with, and gradually adding more time.
Being in the moment also helps you to be in tune with your body, which brings in the physical aspect. You need to be comfortable in your own skin, and your body’s abilities to respond to various stimuli in different ways. Masturbation is an opportunity to explore your body with abandon. Of the 2 components this is the easiest to master, however, it is incredibly dependent on the ability to focus on your senses.
So far what I’ve said sound like the easiest thing to do, but it can be incredibly difficult when practiced. So, don't be discouraged if you find this hard to do. Remember, ultimately sex is suppose to be fun, not about climaxing. If you aren’t having fun while having sex (on your own or otherwise), then why do it?
I also want to say, this is what worked for me. It’s not to say this will work for everyone. Sex is not a one solution fits all activity.
I know this post is old, but I think there are a lot of adult women out there in the same boat.
Let me start off with saying there is no "wrong way" to masturbate. So many people focus on the physical when discussing sex, but for women there are 2 major components to "good sex", especially with ones self; there is a physical aspect, but more importantly there is a mental aspect.
I had, and on occasion still have, difficulty climaxing on my own. Usually, this is in part to being concerned about how I look, how I sound, how can hear me, what I'm doing, how I'm doing it, or if I'm doing it right. Those thoughts are counter productive to sexual gratification. What I've found to be the secret is to "be in the moment", what I mean by that is to turn off your thoughts about what going on beyond what you are doing at that moment. You don’t necessarily have to masturbate to practice this component. This can be done just sitting quietly and tuning out your everyday concerns and focusing of your senses (smell, touch, sight, sound, and taste) for 1 minute to start with, and gradually adding more time.
Being in the moment also helps you to be in tune with your body, which brings in the physical aspect. You need to be comfortable in your own skin, and your body’s abilities to respond to various stimuli in different ways. Masturbation is an opportunity to explore your body with abandon. Of the 2 components this is the easiest to master, however, it is incredibly dependent on the ability to focus on your senses.
So far what I’ve said sound like the easiest thing to do, but it can be incredibly difficult when practiced. So, don't be discouraged if you find this hard to do. Remember, ultimately sex is suppose to be fun, not about climaxing. If you aren’t having fun while having sex (on your own or otherwise), then why do it?
I also want to say, this is what worked for me. It’s not to say this will work for everyone. Sex is not a one solution fits all activity.
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