virgin teen daughter newly diagnosed with genital herpes

There's a good chance at 15 that your daughter isn't a Virgin but she doesn't wanna tell u

I would believe your daughter if she says she's a virgin. Although that's not the most important thing right now, as helping her cope with the infection and accept herself is vital--especially at her young age. I too realized that I had herpes at the fragile age of 15 without having had any sex or been touched in my genitals at all. I didn't tell anyone and instead suffered alone, which was excruciating. ive been coping somewhat with a change to a healthier diet, which has reduced my outbreaks. I finally went to planned parent hood because I wanted real medication to alieve the discharge problem but they didn't take my claim seriously because i'm a Virgin and told me I didn't have it despite the symptoms I had shown them. I know I have it! Trust me, I'd be more than happy to just go with their diagnosis and live in bubble of bliss and self-respect, but I would be lying to myself. This cases are just so rare that people barely acknowledge that they're possible and end up driving those of us who contracted the virus without sex insane!

How do you think you caught herpes and is it type 1 or 2?

There's no real difference between Type 1 and Type 2 herpes, other than where the blisters show up on your body. I suspect people just like to stigmatize anything involving genitalia. Yes, you apparently can get genital herpes without ever having sexual contact of any kind. I know this because it happened to me when I was 17. My first herpes outbreak was so bad, I had to be hospitalized for three days. No one had ever touched my genitals except for me. In health class, they always reiterated that if you didn't have sex, you'd never have to deal with STDs. Turns out, that's not true! Gosh, so many people questioned me about who I'd had sex with, it felt like an interrogation. I was pretty sure nobody believed me, and I felt completely ashamed, like I must have done something wrong to deserve this kind of treatment. Your daughter needs your love and support right now. Try to put the idea of whether or not she "really" is a virgin out of your mind: the stigma that gets attached to herpes can be far more damaging than the disease itself.

everyo ne here is so misssed informed- i hear people who are virgins all the time who have hsv2 and also children .. and everyone thinks they had sex or are molested.. but no one ever gives it a thought that herpes is not an std but a regular communicable virus.. well it is.. if yu have oral herpes and you sneeze and cough that spray gets everywhere on everthing then you touch things like sink handles and door handles - and wham - its there then next guy comes nad touches it wham you have it.. this c**p it lives like ten seconds outside the body is c**p.. infact herpes lives years in soil and dirty floors in hi humidity or damp location.. which is everywhere.. a towel off the floor of the locker room etc. the handle and the mcdonalds bathroo m its just everywhere.. - basically its simple your body does a pretty good job and keep garbage out of ytour body.. but it cant keep it all... so if you have sex you can get communicated like 1000 virus sheds.. if from a handle or knob that serveral people touch it may be much less.. maybe 10.. but depending on your immmuniity depends are susceptible you are .. some peopel without sleep and and other health issues are a walking time bomb etc... it just takes one and they are done.. - then there are people who say well you could have got it fro your mom at birth -- and not had it till now - bs again .. let me tell you i have it.. and ididnt have sex with anyone .. and i got it at the ripe age of 28 and some people sayhow do you know when you got it.. well i am lucky this way.. i had primary infection which usually only some children get - adults dont get it.. - according to the literature.. infact i got the one wiht the swollen bleeding gums - that is hell........... that is acute primary infection.. you dont get that symptom if you got it form your mom in childhood and didnt get a sore.. that is only when you catch the virus .. first time exposed.. also let me tell you - at 28 i know who i touched and what i touched.. i lived with my parents becauase i was nursing a back injury and had some healht problems following and pain and weight losss - drs said it was stress - i have crazy wild adrenal profile showing profuse strress. and coinciding low iga.. which protects you ., so when i got infected the drs said its because of my stress profile i got clinical.. but no one asked how i contracted it.. i didnt date anyone for 3 years do my back and health problems i was living at home i andi didnt even work.. my parents are healthy and well and dont have herpes and never had a sore ever.. i dont share cups spoons and other stuff with them i dont share a bathroom with anyone. however our home was atttached to a motel they owned and we shared laundry with the motel etc.. so .....i cant imagine how i got infected because i didnt have anything they say is all the routes to infection.. and was no skin to skin contact no saliva or sharing kissing or other and i know exactly when i got it .. so let me assure you .. hsv is not a std .. sex increases the risk of it .. like you might not get the flu if you are around someone with it - but be long enough and you wil get it.. but have sex with someone with the flu and you get it for sure.. its like that -- doesnt mean because you may not get it if not sex.. just lower chance lower chance means just that .......... lower chance.. doesnt mean not possible .. so hsv had low chance to infect by object contact like the cold ....... but it still can - i can guarantee this - drs will tell me no - but i know .. what i did i know what these virgin childewn who have it did. only people that have sex dont beleive them . anyway i am lving proof. also thanks to my adrenals iam in a outbreak like 100% of the time and it sucks..........i am a walking petri dish

I recently read in a magazine (Glamour I think, through Snapchat) that this girl who was about 15-16. A virgin had the same situation. A virgin never touched but was diagnosed with HSV-2. The doctors were so convinced they were right. And finally she saw another doctor and he tested her and they found that it was actually Shingles. The 2 virus' are very similar when being tested.

I've had the exact same. The doctor asked me multiple times if I was sexually active or if I've ever been sexually active and of course i said no because I am a virgin and have never been touched by anyone. She didn't give me any other suggestions as to how I have got it and I could tell she didn't believe me. I'm 16 and have only ever kissed ... maybe I could have got it through that? I really don't know. I swear whenever women have a problem *down there* they are assumed to be a s*** or something. It's horrible. She didn't tell me it was herpes because I guess she didn't want to worry me as a young girl. She said I had a virus and prescribed me medications which I later looked up and found they are for curing herpes virus. I wish someone would tell me how I got it so I can try and prevent it in the future as this is the most painful and horrible thing I have ever had in my life.

Vaccines give you herpes. Research. And don't let a needle get near you.

My daughter has never been sexually active, but has herpes on her buttocks. How could she have contracted this? She does not understand this.

i have sores on my vagina and i have an ulcer. i’m 14 and had no sexual activity

So very true! My mom got it at 11.. 11!! very well a virgin and it’s still remains a mystery on how she got it down there and it being hsv2. I recently got it (tested positive via swab) and I most likely got it from my mom through her towel or something. I totally agree with you. It’s reassuring to hear from someone who’s on the same exact boat as me.