I am 16 and i have denied a women my sex. Well I'm wondering if its really worth it to save yourself for marriage, and give the women you love your virginity.
is it worth it?
is it worth it?
I'm also 16, and just lost my virginity this year. And do you want to know the truth about it.
The fact is, Yeah. Sex is fun, but its not necessary. If you want to save yourself for your bride, I'm behind you 100% and if you don't, thats also cool.
The thing is, That contrary to what you may hear, you don't always suck your first time. Hell I gave my girl 8 orgasms our first night together, and 13 more the following morning(there is no real medical reason for that, I just wanted to brag).
The thing is, whether it's worth waiting for marriage or not is entirely dependent on you. But let me tell you something: If you have sex, decide you like it and become a "man w****," it will ruin your future relationship.
Also, losing your virginity at this age closes a lot of door. What if you find the women you love years from now and she has saved herself for someone who was waiting for her. These and many other things are important to think about. A LOT! And by all means, believe me when I say, "Sex is better with someone you really love." Whether that person is your spouse or not, is almost irrelevant. Just make sure there is lots of love involved.
(and for the love of God don't do in doggy style. its so F-ing degrading)
Anyway, I hope I have been of some assistance.
The fact is, Yeah. Sex is fun, but its not necessary. If you want to save yourself for your bride, I'm behind you 100% and if you don't, thats also cool.
The thing is, That contrary to what you may hear, you don't always suck your first time. Hell I gave my girl 8 orgasms our first night together, and 13 more the following morning(there is no real medical reason for that, I just wanted to brag).
The thing is, whether it's worth waiting for marriage or not is entirely dependent on you. But let me tell you something: If you have sex, decide you like it and become a "man w****," it will ruin your future relationship.
Also, losing your virginity at this age closes a lot of door. What if you find the women you love years from now and she has saved herself for someone who was waiting for her. These and many other things are important to think about. A LOT! And by all means, believe me when I say, "Sex is better with someone you really love." Whether that person is your spouse or not, is almost irrelevant. Just make sure there is lots of love involved.
(and for the love of God don't do in doggy style. its so F-ing degrading)
Anyway, I hope I have been of some assistance.
it is really kind of good questions for boys. in fact, if you are a girl, as long you stay 'virgin' as a good thing is, you would not be a b***h or other stuff and next day. No one can say "i screwed you," but if you are a boy and you are virgin thats screwed up man. If you are a boy, you need to loose your virginity as fast as you can because everyone knows that you are virgins 'cuzz you don't know anything.
peace, loose your virginity fast as you can, (talking about boys here)
peace, loose your virginity fast as you can, (talking about boys here)
That's a really loaded question. There are a lot of ways to answer it.
The value of remaining a virgin until you are married is a very personal one. If your spouse values virginity, it could be extremely important to the relationship. However, they may want an experienced partner so as not to have to train or break a partner in, so to speak.
Some people speak glowingly of both being virgins and learning together. But there are less people who wait these days, than those who want to know if they are sexual compatible before jumping into a marriage union.
If YOU value virginity, then perhaps it is worth it to wait.
--Many years ago, a close friend confided in me that he was living with a girl, and that he had noticed a lot of difference between how his various girlfriends had approached sex. He told me to hold onto my virginity as long as I could, cause he claimed once you had started having sex with another person, nothing else compares, and it would be hard to stop or keep from wanting sex with another person.
I think he's partially right. How do you keep them down on the farm, once they have seen Paris? That's another way of saying it.
Also, we were taught that when a person has had sex with others, they mentally continually compare their current partner with all prior partners.
That may be, but it's true in all parts of life. You compare your card partner's skills when playing cards. You compare the meal, when someone invites you over. You compare their dress, their style, their speech, their education. It would seem that this is just another scale upon to judge and rate people. (Sorry if that seems too frank and crude.)
So, I'd take issue with the poster who urges that guys loose their virginity as quickly as possible. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. It's just real hard not to act without the benefit of your experience once you've become experienced... and that is the real "fruit of the tree of knowledge"... if you get my meaning.
Good luck. Let us know what you decide.
The value of remaining a virgin until you are married is a very personal one. If your spouse values virginity, it could be extremely important to the relationship. However, they may want an experienced partner so as not to have to train or break a partner in, so to speak.
Some people speak glowingly of both being virgins and learning together. But there are less people who wait these days, than those who want to know if they are sexual compatible before jumping into a marriage union.
If YOU value virginity, then perhaps it is worth it to wait.
--Many years ago, a close friend confided in me that he was living with a girl, and that he had noticed a lot of difference between how his various girlfriends had approached sex. He told me to hold onto my virginity as long as I could, cause he claimed once you had started having sex with another person, nothing else compares, and it would be hard to stop or keep from wanting sex with another person.
I think he's partially right. How do you keep them down on the farm, once they have seen Paris? That's another way of saying it.
Also, we were taught that when a person has had sex with others, they mentally continually compare their current partner with all prior partners.
That may be, but it's true in all parts of life. You compare your card partner's skills when playing cards. You compare the meal, when someone invites you over. You compare their dress, their style, their speech, their education. It would seem that this is just another scale upon to judge and rate people. (Sorry if that seems too frank and crude.)
So, I'd take issue with the poster who urges that guys loose their virginity as quickly as possible. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. It's just real hard not to act without the benefit of your experience once you've become experienced... and that is the real "fruit of the tree of knowledge"... if you get my meaning.
Good luck. Let us know what you decide.
I'm 20 and I haven't had sex. Am I still alive and well? Yes. Would I like to know what sex is like? Yes. But I'm waiting til I find a girl I really connect with. I don't want to be 'just another lay', ya know?
When you do have sex, be smart and use protection!
When you do have sex, be smart and use protection!
Nicely stated, phantom240!
You have made a choice and are sticking to it for the right reasons.
Glad to know it's working for you!
You have made a choice and are sticking to it for the right reasons.
Glad to know it's working for you!
I wouldn't say its 'working for me', rather than its saving myself some headaches. Sure sex may be awesome... for the time that you're in the action. But to me its just not worth some of the risks and what not.
hey guys..im a 17 year old girl, this is my first year of college, and almost everyone had had sex before...i dont feel singled out one bit, infact im proud of the fact that im a virgin,and all the boys and girls in the college respect me for that fact.
but for the past few months ive been feeling the urge to just have sex, still im waiting for the right person, i think i found him yet i dont want to make a mistake i will regret forever.
im not thinking of saving my self for marriage, but do you think its the right time for me to do it?
HELP!
but for the past few months ive been feeling the urge to just have sex, still im waiting for the right person, i think i found him yet i dont want to make a mistake i will regret forever.
im not thinking of saving my self for marriage, but do you think its the right time for me to do it?
HELP!
Well if you think they are the one then sure go for it.
I'm a guy [16] and really I don't care about sex too much, I mean I want to have it but its meaningless to me really... The fact is, is that if I did not think I would love a girl [currently I'm dating a girl long distance and shes coming to visit me] I wouldn't even be thinking about sex.
Sex in the act is meaningless unless you actually love the person your doing it with.
An example would be is that I don't care about sex but if I'm going to have sex then it would have to be with the girl I love.
I'm a guy [16] and really I don't care about sex too much, I mean I want to have it but its meaningless to me really... The fact is, is that if I did not think I would love a girl [currently I'm dating a girl long distance and shes coming to visit me] I wouldn't even be thinking about sex.
Sex in the act is meaningless unless you actually love the person your doing it with.
An example would be is that I don't care about sex but if I'm going to have sex then it would have to be with the girl I love.
"i dont feel singled out one bit"
Keep it up, you will feel it. Remember, by the time you feel it, it has been going on for a long time.
In college you should experience sex. The lack of it will single you out, and the effect is always delayed. Be a virgin until 20... and the affect will hit you at 23 or 24.
Keep it up, you will feel it. Remember, by the time you feel it, it has been going on for a long time.
In college you should experience sex. The lack of it will single you out, and the effect is always delayed. Be a virgin until 20... and the affect will hit you at 23 or 24.