We have a three months old baby and since she was born, sexual desire went down, my wife takes longer to get aroused and we don't go for long. As a result, my wife seems to be keeping track of me and asking me to send her pictures of my work place when I work at night and right now I send her incomplete text and she replied that you are texting the wrong babe. She also use all means to jerk me off when she's on periods and I can't say no because she will still accuse me of having sex elsewhere. What could be in her mind?
Hello kmutai,
it's actually quite common thing for sexual desire to decline in a few months after the childbirth. Taking care of the newborn can be quite exhausting, especially if you have to keep up with work and other obligations. And even if you weren't in this situation - our needs for sex fluctuate.
But I hope I can somewhat help you explain why is your wife acting the way she does. Her body went through immense changes during pregnancy and after the childbirth, her hormones and physique might have changed as feel. She simply might not be feeling confident in herself and by proxy, she thinks that your lack of sexual desire just confirms her feelings (which are, like I said, driven by all the hormonal changes her body went through). She's simply trying to re-assure herself that you still want her and love her, unforztunately, only thtough sex. What i'd recommend you is to try talking to her and explaining your emotions. Even if you don't wan't to talk too deep, a simple compliment or two here and there might prove helpful.