What is the ideal age for a girl to have sex?

ABSOLUTELY. The laws need to be reviewed and adjusted to suit the present day.

You are so right. As long as the girl has reached puberty she should be able to exercise her birth right to make love and with whomsoever she chooses. There is no place for the law in such matters and there is nothing moral/ethical or religious about not having sex or being prevented from having sex.
We are biological beings and we will instinctively want to have sex. To have a law preventing that is so absurd and illogical.

Good one I agree with you

you agree to such rubbish?? wow!!
That is such bag and negative advice.

It is perfectly good advice actually but your probably young and won't understand it until your older!

not so sure blackcanvas. I think choice is most important. Negative advice is not the way forward.
Sex is not bad. Sex is normal and once a person hits puberty there should be no moral, legal or social restrictions on how those teens exercise their right to their own sexuality.
We learn things throughout life. That is what is called experience. We continue to learn from both negative and positive experiences. No experience is bad. It is how we perceive experiences. Sex is the same. Just because one has sex early does not mean there will be regret later in life. Regret happens because there has been preconceived expectations or minds have been primed to think in a way that creates a basis for regret. It is all to do with social priming.

If a person has to come on a web site to ask advice on if they are ready to have sex then there is doubt in there mind therefore they are looking for advice from others, if they was ready in there own mind then they would go ahead without asking others!

I let my daughter start having sex with her boyfriend when she was 14 and he was 16. I figured it was best to let them in her bedroom where I could keep things under some level of control. She came to me and asked me if she could and I had always told her if she did that, it wouldn't be so much of an issue of if she could but how she could do it safely. She went on the pill at 15 and stayed on it the entire time she spent remaining here. She had a boyfriend basically spend each summer with her until her senior year, and they were allowed to sleep together and have sex whenever they pleased. She's now married with kids and has a very satisfying sex life today.

Exactly. The doubt is because of how we as a society prime our kids to think. Guilt is instilled and they come on here to hear what other kids are saying about their experiences. It is not doubt they have. Their search is for opinions from others as to whether all the c**p information - mainly the negative, scary, illogical way, has any truth in it and if the negativity that is planted in their minds is in fact the right thing or total c**p.
This confusion is caused by religion, society, old prudish controlling parents and the stupid law that supposedly is protecting them. Is it actually protecting or driving the issue deeper underground??
Why do we treat sex and abnormal or bad, when sex is actually a normal instinctive function. How bizarre. How stupid is our society. Stop trying to control biological behaviour. Stop trying to stifle instinct. Teach children the truth and teach them how to protect against STDs and pregnancy. Make sure alcohol and drugs are NOT used and let them have a healthy sexual experience. Get away from trying to chaperone their sexuality.

Well done and great parenting. This is how an advanced society should be thinking. Lovely message. Well done.
I think girls and boys should be able to decide who and when they will have sex. They should be allowed to exercise their sexuality.
If I had a 14 yr old daughter I wouldn't mind if her bf was a lot older ( even if he was in his mid 20s - the law is not of relevance to me because it is obstructive and stupid and not in keeping with the present times), was well educated, had a good family background and was a confident secure guy who had no vices and would be a good influence on her.

No the truth is they are not ready in there mind that's why they have to ask, it has nothing to do with how society prime the kids!
What are sex education classes teaching kids if it's not how to be careful and protect against STD's an pregnancies, what do drug awareness messages teach kids, doesn't matter how much you try to teach things they will always think they know better an just having sex once unprotected won't hurt of just taking one e pill won't hurt but it's always that one time that it's wrong.
You need to wake up and live in the real would that everyone else lives in because it doesn't matter how much you educate kids on sex, drugs or alcohol they are always going to do it, it only takes one drink to get hooked one hit of hard drugs to die an one round of unprotected sex to get pregnant!

Geez blackcanvas I think you are living in darkness and in the medieval world.
Yes there is sex education but it is not enough. There is also society and parents and the law that do not celebrate sexuality BUT stifle and teach kids especially girls that sex is taboo, that masturbation is bad, that they should not have sex until they are married and that to abstain is virtuous. This leads to confusion. The kids are friggin confused. Thats why YOU believe their minds are not ready. Obviously they want to BUT there are restrictive elements in our society that stifles their ability to go out and have sex freely.
Teach them that unprotected sex even once can lead to pregnancy. Teach them and show them graphic details about STDs. Teach them in a way that will protect them and ensure they take precautions. Don't patronize them and tell them their minds are not ready. Instinctive behaviour is biology's way of telling these teens to go out and mate. This is NORMAL and NATURAL.

Sex education teach kids about pregnancies and contraception and how conception some parents explain to there kids about safe sex and the need to use condoms to stop the spread of STI's an STD's yet they still go out and have unprotected sex and get pregnant.
How can you ensure your son always uses a condom unless your there watching over him, heat of the moment will over rule any explaining or telling you do, you may get 1 sensible teen when it comes to sex and always insist on protection in ever 10.
Finally stop being so judgemental of others that have posted on here as everyone is untitled to there opinion, out of all the different people that have posted on here about this you seem to be the only one with a different opinion so maybe you should just take some time to look at what your saying from another perspective and you will see that it doesn't matter how well you explain things in detail or with graphic illustration a teen is still going to be having unprotected sex for the simple reason they want to know what it feels like!

I am entitled to my opinions because I have had first hand experience. I am talking from my stance on this. I never judge anyone, unlike you.
Yes there will be kids who take risks BUT it is up to you and others to try and reduce this by teaching them well, so they do not take risks.
My opinion is shared by many. The problem is that you are not looking for those that match mine BUT you seek out those that resonates with your negative teachings.
Try not to take things personal. This is not about you and me. This is about being liberal and educating those who need the advice.
Telling kids not to have sex has NOT worked. Teen pregnancies are at an all time high, still. So your stance and the stance of society isn't working, my dear friend.
If teen pregnancies is a problem ( and really not that deeper morality about early sex ) then education is very very important. Hand out condoms in schools. Take away the taboo associated with sex, that has been created by society. Talk about sex freely and engage with those teens who you think are the most likely to take risks. Don't just throw your hands up in the air and give up and then resort to the use of tactics that don't really work.

Are you sure you are not on a moral bandwagon?? I seriously have my doubts. You come from a stance of morality and sex. Not going to work sadly !!

Your the one that doesn't understand as your probably not a parent and still a young teen that when you spend time explaining the in's and outs of sex, contraception, STD's an STI's and the effects drugs can have on life and try to educate them you then find out a while later that everything you explained was a compleat waste of time as they have gone and done the totally opposite and when asked why they reply because we wanted to see what it was like. Teens are no different now to what they were in the 60 for having sex and trying drugs the only difference now to then is it's more openly talked about!
I never said you can't have an opinion and your opinion is not matched by that many on this site only by teens that think they know better than adults what goes back to explaining things in detail to teens and they think they know better, when you actually become a parent you will know just how difficult it can be!
I don't know where your from or what sort of school you go to but a lot of schools here in the UK do hand out condoms during sex education to both boys and girls the trouble is a lot do not seem to realise they are being given out for there own good or you get the teen boy putting pressure on his girlfriend to have unprotected sex because he wants to know what it feels like, why do you think there are so many girls writing on this site every week asking the same thing "I had unprotected sex last night do you think I'll get pregnant" it doesn't matter how well you educate some on the matters and it's not just the odd few it's a lot you always going to get it to happen, if someone has to question what they are going to do like some do with sex then there is doubt in there mind that they are not ready yet whether it be child teen or adult.