This is a huge generalisation. It is very easy to throw your hands up in the air and give up and say nothing works. This is where persistence pays and from the way you make your statements, it suggests you haven't put in enough effort.
I use myself as an example. I started having sex at an extremely young age and thankfully my bf was very mature and knew a lot and I came to no harm, never had a pregnancy scare and never got any STDs.
From your utterances you make all young teens sound like idiots and that's like waving a red flag to a but. You will get negative results if you continue to do so. That is not the way to get the best out of younger teens. Younger teens do take risks. Not all are pressured. Some may be pressured but then even adults go through being seduced, wined and dined but you accept that as a kind of sophisticated ritual and even glorify that. How bizarre!!
I think you are very blinkered when it comes to you making such generalised statements.
Do you believe all those "girls" on this website claiming they had unprotected sex? do you know many of those are guys pretending to be girls? There are many who get a thrill from posting such c**p because they get a response like yours and like to see how much they can shock people.
I think we need to exercise more common sense, not make early sex a taboo and celebrate one's sexuality. At the same time teaching those younger teens safe sex and include them in on going discussions, not labelling them as idiots. The education must be relentless and should continue and you will reap the benefits of your efforts in time.
It is very usual for the guy to ejaculate quicker than the girl achieving an orgasm, with first time sex. Minor bleeding is the norm unless of course you have manually stretched her and taken the trouble of slowly easing her hymen before you penetrate her. This is achieved with a lot of foreplay, oral sex on the girl like sucking her clitoris to make her orgasm and taking your time. A nice private place with no hurry and where you could be left undisturbed would be ideal.
Anyway, well done and continue to have fun. Be prepared and make sure you know about STDs and pregnancy. Sex is very enjoyable and an extremely gratifying experience if you are equipped with the right recipe.
Have sex when you are ready to make a baby with your man! Don't use birth control. Don't have stupid stuff! The end results are what it is. Sex makes life!
When a girl can have sex is when Nature has announced that situation by a girl having her period for the first time. Mostly happens at 13 but in rare cases happens much younger. In those girls when periods begin very early ( like 9 or 10), it is debatable whether that age is the right age or not for sex.
I strongly believe it is not about READINESS but how PREPARED the girl is. Puberty brings in a hormonal surge and girls start becoming aware of their sexuality, enjoy masturbating and with it comes the need to have a relationship to have sex. Those are all normal, natural, biological and instinctive. Nature is NOT wrong. These are things that dictate when a girl wants to have sex.
Now, do you need to be emotionally involved?? well I guess sex is better when emotional involvement also occurs BUT recreational sex is not an issue. Sex should be enjoyed.
Girls may go through depression after having lost their virginity only because society makes us believe all those false things about the value of virginity, that you lose self worth when a girl loses her virginity, that she is not pure anymore and all that rubbish along with filling that poor girls mind with guilt. Naturally the expectations in that girl are huge and when those expectations are not met with, depression and moodiness, discontent and sadness takes place. I think society has a huge part to play when it comes to this. We create all these false expectations and when the fairy tale is not a fairy tale anymore the girl feels so let down and depressed.
So, my advice to girls is to have sex when they want as long as they are prepared, have read up and know the consequences ie pregnancy, STDs etc. Make sure the guy who may be same age or much older does not introduce you to drugs or alcohol and that he comes from a decent background and does not abuse you physically or emotionally.
There is NO rule to tell you when you should have sex. You dont have to wait for marriage and you dont have to be a certain age before you have sex. You are ready for sex when you have your first period. This is what Nature has deemed as appropriate. Anything else that society says is artificial and man made NOT natural or instinctive.
I am sure I will get a lot of criticism for this message.
That's a very old fashioned way of looking at sex and sexuality.
Tell a teen not to have sex and they will do exactly the opposite. When a teen decides she/he wants to have sex then they are already planning it and will do it no matter what.
My advice would be to PREPARE them so they dont meet with any problems like pregnancy or STDs.
Trying to stop them will never work and you will find you have inherited more problems than you can handle.
I am not saying encourage them. Not all teens will want to have sex early BUT some will. For those, be responsible and PREPARE them instead of telling them they are not ready. No girl is ready, never. Even at 30 yrs of age a girl/woman feels they are not ready, many times.
So readiness is not the important thing. PREPARING them is very very important and a responsible approach to teens wanting to have sex.
Of god!! another puritan with victorian values in this modern world full of "sex in your face" and the net ridden with porn.
No, you dont need to be married to have sex. Sex is personal, sex is an individual birth right and sex can be recreational if she/he chooses to have sex. Also they can choose whomsoever they want.
In 20 to 30 years there wont be marriage anymore. That institution is over and done with.
60% of all marriages end up in divorce. Can you explain that and why it happens if you think marriage is such an important thing that you have to wait for marriage before having sex?
Gosh the rubbish that is instilled in the mind of a teen is abyssmal.
So, divorce rate is low because the men go to prostitutes. They have an outlet.
If you see the sex crimes in India you can see how sexually starved the men are in India.
India and Nigeria and parts of sweden are notably the most dangerous places for women in the world. Go to Bihar and Delhi and see the amount of sexual crimes even against girls as young as 2 yrs old. Why is that??
Divorce rate is low but the sexual crime rate is the highest in the world.
A girl who has hit puberty is ready for sex. Society, parents and everyone and his/her dog will tell you that you must have sex only when you are married or when you are ready. There is NO such thing as being READY. No one is ever ready.
I think if you meet a nice guy who you like and enjoy and you want to take the relationship to the next level then you are perfectly okay to do that. No one should stop you. Not even the law. There is too much interference today in a girls sexuality and about when she is deemed ready for sex and with whom she should have sex with. That is rubbish and very controlling.
My advice is that if you want it, then do it. But be prepared and know how to take precautions against pregnancy and STDs.
So, you are READY the moment you hit puberty. There is a very tiny proportion of girls who will hit puberty when they are 9 or 10 yrs old. I am not talking or referring to exceptions. Majority of girls will have their first period when they are around 13. That is the age I am talking about. I had my FIRST sexual experience when I was 13ish with a much older guy and it was fun, so beautiful and I will always remember that.