So my boyfriend and I are in that 'not having sex but still really touchy' since we're too young in my mind to 'do it' and I've gotten him to jiz once when I gave him an hj but everytime he fingers me it feels like I could any second now but I never do and he'll do this for like 20-30 minutes. Is there something wrong with me downstairs? Is this bad? He's the only one to ever touch me like this and both of us are healthy but am I the problem?? Please help me!!!!!!
To actually orgasm just through fingering atone can be extremely hard thing to achieve so some clitoral stimulation may be needed to.
Are you able to give yourself an orgasm through masturbation when your alone?
If you would like more help don't be scared to ask :-)
As BC says you probably just haven't got it right yet. It's pretty easy to get a guy off doing a hand job. A guy will respond quite well to a girls touch on his penis particularly if it's his girlfriend.
You on the other hand are a marvel of complexity. Even though you want your boyfriend to touch you it has to be done right for the best results or any results at all. If by fingering you mean inserting his finger(s) in your vagina that's probably going to be disappointing. It may feel good having his fingers in there but it's not the way most women reach orgasm. He will most likely get much better results by working on your clit after he gets you warmed up by kissing you all over. Oral sex is the easiest way. Begin by kissing your inner thighs then all around your vulva leading to the inside on your inner lips and clit. Then licking and sucking on your clit in whatever manner YOU find pleasing. You may still want him to insert fingers in your vagina, some girls want that at the same time as clitoral stimulation but that's YOUR choice, if it feels good have him do it.
One interesting sidelight to this is that you may find that he comes while you do, without anyone touching his penis at all. I used to while doing oral on my wife and other guys on the forum have reported they do too.