Why do you cheat?

I dont cheat and never intend on cheating, Im currently single but I dont feel the need to have s*x with every guy that looks at me.

S*x is not a big thing in my life as I have not found my partner, if its true love you would not feel the desire to cheat, if your cheating when you have a bf or gf you do not love them, its a disgusting excuse "its just not fun anymore, Im bored, I want adventure" cmon if you loved them, s*x wouldnt matter, if your not 100% commited, break it up and go have your fun.

My boyfriend cheated on me becuase he was after excitement and some adventure. It was all fun and games until I cuaght him out and it wasnt until the he woke up to the extend of what he was doing and realised what he lossed as a result and dearly paid for it, it was becuase he was cuaght!

I was heart broken and devasted, I trusted him more than anything in the whole world, its a horrible feeling and it makes you check back and think "who can you trust"

love hurts and cheating is but one hurdle you over come... not that i ever cheated, personally i'm content with teh one i choose casue they choose me aswell... is that why i'm single...?

I have never cheated on any of my girlfriends. I have been cheated on. I have also been the 'other guy' (not proud of it). No sane person cheats in a fulfilling relationship. People that are afraid to be alone cheat more often. Being single is not an option for these people. They move from one relationship into another.. cheating on both sides until ready to dump either chump. Cheating is selfish, disrespectful, immoral, and above all, hurtful/damaging. If you feel the need to cheat, have some stones and end your relationship. If you really love the person you are with, make an effort to address the problems in your relationship and get the spark back. If you want to shatter and destroy people, be a loser and cheat on someone that loves you.

Don't want to be cheated on? Don't get with someone who had a bf/gf when you got together. What goes around comes around!

First off I would like to say that I think it unfair for people to be so harsh in calling people selfish , disgusting etc.
You cannot judge people so quickly. You first need to be in there shoes to understand why. By nature we are not monogomus. It is just something that is expected. Now when you Marry or become involved, yes I agree there is a level of respect to that relationship. But you can look at so many relationships that are open and you may find they are the happiest.. like I said may. I think if people were more open with themselves sexually and what they wanted from their partners and explored with respect of each other , people are less likely to cheat.
I have cheated several different times , with different people and in different times in my life. I know what the reasons are, I cannot say they are good ones. I am not proud of my actions , but I have to say I do find it so hard not to cheat. Everything you get from it at the moment feels so good, but it also does have its negative side, the guilt, the idea of what you did is forever, etc. I am not for cheating, but I will also never judge anyone for doing it.

That is completely irrelevant. You know what people are that cheat? Animals, with no concept of real love. Animals are the ones that act based on instinct. Humans act based on love and reason. You are pathetic, and even worse, blind to the fact of it. And if you think humans arent monogomous by nature, then you dont believe in love and are already a walking shell of a human being, and have resigned the greatest thing in life, which is a deep connection with another, and i am wasting my time typing this. I feel sorry for you.

It was proven that people who have secret relationships on the side just for sex, marrages last longer. It's only human nature to want variety, and when you find someone you love and have been together a long time that variety fades away and you have a hard time getting it back into the relation ship. It really is a sticky topic to talk about because people have all sorts of openions about it. If it helps your relationship and you can honestly sit there and say you can see a positive change in your relationship with your spouse then go for it. but if you are just doing it because you aren't getting anything at all from your bf, gf, or spouse cut that relationship loose. you are causing more harm than good in that situation.

People cheat for a number of reasons but the reasons that men cheat and women cheat are two different cats.

1. Women cheat because they have lost themselves and want to feel alive again. Their partner may bring the bacon home and maybe even be great for most everything....but something is missing. Most of the time its the children that turn a woman from a vibrant sexy lady into the little tubs of goo, no makeup, weight gain, bad night shirts. Partner finds them mundane and unattractive. Women want to be oogled at, found sexy, exciting and love to be flirted with. Women go find what they are missing.

2. Men cheat because it is simply exciting and new. No more to be said...pretty much sums it up.

If you look at others in the "I want her/him way" then you have no business being in a relationship. Be single. Love is not that "high" feeling in the beginning of the relationship. Love is the respect, admiration, comfort and security of knowing there is someone who looks at you with the same eyes. How can you ever be bored and want someone else if you are with your best friend?

i cheated so many times after my first "true" relationship.
i was dating this guy, and we started of well, be stick together, and everything was fine and dandy, then he began to work and he slowly started to change, he was more morose and when we would talk he would put the blame on me and toyed with me emotionally. this affected me greatly, and it was showing by the way i was acting around friends and family, i went completely depressed. then another guy came, i was still in the relationship, i really loved that guy but guy 2 came and he started to get attached to me, then we both were messing around. i though what are the chances of getting caught, but really there were many, my boy friend's friend found out and completely embarrassed me in front of everyone. i did in fact dated guy 2, but things did not worked out because at the time he just got out off a relationship and saw me as a replacement. guy 1 and i ended up breaking up, and getting back together so many times after but guy 2 was not going to give up. finally after me and guy one did not work out i was left a mess, i felt bad, because guy 1 played the guilt card on me and started to put more pressure onto me, telling me how i was the cause of his addiction, he never loved me, etc. i met guy 3, we dated and i cheated on him with guy 2, i felt ashamed that i kept on cheating, guy 3 accepted it and remained with me longer, i still cheated, we had to break up because he went to the Navy and began his boot camp training. me and guy 2 dated, it was great and all, at times i would get bored of him and decide to ignore him, more like treating him like a dog, he was a flirtatious guy, and well at many occasions he began to play with other women breast in front of me, thats when a new me began to develop. i started treating him like a dog, i cheated on him and later told him, we were on and off. then guy 3 comes back, actually makes contact with me, and we began to kick it off again, we dated again, guy 2 was devastated, but he never gives up, i ended up cheating on guy 2 again, don't tell him till later, when i actually do tell him i made sure to include the fact that he is in the Navy and we barely talked or were able to see each other, he understood, but still claims he loves me and wants to be with me. guy 4, i haven't dated, but sometimes it feels like we are, he wants to be with me after all i done in my past relationships, the only problem with guy 4 is his past. he is also known as a cheater, there was this weekend he slept over, and we were sexually active throughout the whole weekend. guy 4 was the reason i broke up with guy 3, 2 weeks later guy 4 confesses that he has not been home for the whole week, he tells me how earlier through out the week he was sexually active with 2 other girls before me. i was mad, of course, and it really got to me, this is never going to stop, i can't trust guy 4, but i do admit he is great in bed. guy 2, guy 3 and guy 4, i've been very active with all, i am not dating, and i hate this new thing. i can't control myself half the times, and i can't seem to stop, i want to but apparently i can't destroy what i created. i've become completely different, i can be described as an a**hole, i like to make the guys i am involve with now feel like they are wrong, toy with them, confuse them. but in the end i hate it, the cheating and confusion, it kills me in the inside.

I cheated because my ex-boyfriend wasn't there for me, and I was unsatisfied with our sex life. I seen him once a week, and when I wanted to talk on the phone he would always be too busy for me. When we did have sex it sucked, it lasted about 15minutes and there was no foreplay. I started talking to other guys because they gave me more attention than he did, and eventually I ended up cheating on him. I felt horrible about it. I will never cheat again no mattter what because it's not worth it in the end.

Cheating has simple but unacceptable reason: Unsatisfied on a relationship.

If you are unhappy with your current relationship, why dont you break up?

Some cheat because they are unhappy on their present relationship, but still keeping it...

I think cheating is a pretty obvious sign of immaturity. I don't mean immaturity with the normal stigma that's usually attached to it, though. There is a LOT of stuff to learn in life and frankly most people can't even begin to learn it until they are adults. And even then they have to learn it the hard way.

It may be satisfying to call people who cheat disgusting or think they are monsters but I believe that Having the attitude that you NEVER do something just because you never have can be exactly what leaves you open to doing the thing you hate so much. "I would never cheat so it's ok if I cultivate a friendship with my male/female coworker". "I would never cheat so it's ok if I go have lunch with my ex boyfriend/girlfriend".

Understand that it's not about being strong of will or super committed or deeply in love. It's about being smart. We ALL have the capacity to cheat in us. Someone said that it's even in our DNA. Nature promotes it. But part of being human is the ability to unshackle ourselves from those caveman/woman urges. If that coworker was ugly would you want to be their buddy as much? If that guy wasn't your ex but instead a female acquaintance from high school would you still want to have lunch with her as much? These are the questions you should ask yourself when you're being smart. Just assuming you are immune to the temptation to cheat is irresponsible when you hold the trust of someone you love in your hands. If you really love them and intend to be true then being careful about your outside relationships is just part of the work of being in a committed relationship. People who are not ready to accept this simply have some growing to do in this area. It's only sad that their growth can often destroy loving relationships or even families.

Honestly I can tell you that I have cheated before.
Im not proud of it but I've done it.
I was in a relationship for about 9months.
My boyfriend was always so demanding and controlling.
I would go down to a friends house that was like 5 mins away and he would blow my phone up saying "WHAT THE f**k ARE YOU DOING?" "YOU DOWN THERE frikkin' SOME OTHER GUY" "WHAT ARE YOU REALLY DOING!"
And it just really gets annoying. I can't stand it.
So I went away for 2 days to go visit family. He said I didn't care about him and I would rather see my family than hang out with him.
While I was visiting my family I met the family friend.
Yes, I did cheat on him with the family friend. Im not happy about it. But now it seems the more my boyfriend would tell me not to do something I would do it just to be a b***h.
Now were almost ten months into this relationship and I dont know if I want to persue anything anymore. I love him, I'm just not in love with him anymore. He makes me disgusted everytime I look at him.
He doesn't care about anyone but himself and it makes me sick.

Then one day I went to my friends house to hang out with her and one of my ex boyfriends were down there. He held me, kissed me, played with my hair, made me laugh, and made me feel like no one had made me feel in a lonng time. Now I just dont know what to do anymore.

Can I get some help please?

I beleive it is human nature to cheat, i beleive it could take hold of anyone of us. I've cheated for the excitment but also for the attention. Its like a drug, its intense and sexy. the passion and excitement is the most amazing feeling, i know that its wrong but its so hard not to act on it. i also love my family but i'm selfish and i want something for myself. The fear of being caught is almost enough to stop, but as soon as i see him looking at me with that twinkle in his eye all i want to do is rip all of his clothes off. I know this will end with me being caught and i know its gunna hurt like hell.

people cheat for different reasons one is maybe who your with just doesnt satisfy you in the way you want if its sex, attention, money or whatever it is if your being cheated on for not satisfying your gf/bf husband or wife they will probably find another who can satisfy them how they want. if you think thats the reason or are sispicious just ask if theres something your not doing that isnt good enough and what it is - if you get an answer and it something your not able to do (like a girl who wants you to give her $100 every day or guy who wants attention too much to the point he wants u quit working talking to people or have a life) then thats probably not the person you should be with. theres a million other reasons why people cheat too i think everyone should a 2nd chance but after that move on with your life. and if your serious about a relationship and you even think your being cheated on without knowing for sure give the benefit of the doubt be trusting anyway you shouldnt be with someone you dont even trust. unless you KNOW for sure you cant assume but if you do you dont belong together either. also i think a girl catches a guy she really loves cheating once and he promises not to again you should give a 2nd chance no more and also dont feel bad about cheating one time if u want to just keep it a secret and you wont feel as hurt dont over do it if its someone you love tho. thats what i think at least