Why does it take me so long to orgasm?

although i am still a virgin, i have this problem. ever since i started masturbating it would take me around 10-15 minutes to cum. I later found out that most guys could cum in around 2-3 minutes which worried me. i also heard most girls take around the same time as me to cum so i may just be blessed... or not... anyways that guy who said that the cum has to workits way through the piss is an id**t. if he paid attention in health class he would know that the bladder gets shut of from the urethra when the penis is ready for sex (you can still piss with a boner, but if you have a boner and athe penis is ready for sex then pissing iss impossible for a guy) also the guy who said that its because your holding your hand too tight, and that your penis is used to your hand, not a vag is also wrong because i have always taken this long to cum ever since i started to masturbate.

oh yeah and just to let you know ima guy

no its not i never masturbate in bed lying down i am always sitting

Yes, just shove thin pretzel sticks in your urethra. I have done it, it really helps. This is called "bunging my booce" or "bungling their booce".

I'm 21 and I've been struggling with this since I was 16. When I first started having sex I was afraid of busting too fast because I always wanted to make the girl have an orgasm first. What I have realized is that it's all pretty much a mind thing. You may just really not be interested in the big finish. Your concern is making sure she finishes. You may just not be into it at all. Sometimes when I'm having sex my mind is completely somewhere else and I'm just going through the motions. It's not a bad thing to be a pleaser. Keep going long and if she ever does get you off it will always be special. Stay up.

I'm 31 and have always been "blessed" with staying power. When I lost my virginity I lasted 40 min. Usually I can control myself at this point and relax and cum when I want which is just based off what shes doing but tonight was rough. Nothing I did got me to the point. We banged for an hour and 15 min straight. I was pouring sweat and it kept dripping in her face lol. Finally somehow thru numb legs and arms I was able to bust one off and fill her up. But it sucks to not be able to nut when you want.

It's funny how there's a thread about this. I didn't think there were many guys having the same problem as me, usually you'd expect the exact opposite with most guys. The only good thing about this is that you feel like you're really good in bed. I think premature ejaculation would be worse.

10-15minutes is very reasonable.... try 1hr and just giving up

I have the same issue, what I found to help me out is too let her do all the work like let her ride you from top, think about it when your jack off your not thrusting at all your just moving your wrist, just close your eyes and imagine masturbating, BUT hey! On the bright side women love us!

Has the sensitivity of your penis decreased? I had a similar problem because I felt very little down there when I had sex. I've been using a penis health creme that contains acetyl L carnitine, which is an amino acid that repairs damaged cells and nerve endings, and things are a lot better now. You should check these cremes out.... they are really helpful and safe too. Good luck. 

Oh thank god I'm not the only one!

I registered this account JUST to make this reply. So here goes:

I'm 29 years old. I've had this problem since I was 17 at least. I think it has gradually gotten worse, but I can't be sure. I can't get erections easily, and when I do, they disappear very quickly, but then appear again and then disappear again. Only when I'm sleepy, it's a bit easier to get erections.

I can masturbate and orgasm no problem... although I remember it used to be much easier. Now it takes me about 10 to 15 min to masturbate to orgasm.

With sex, it's impossible for me to orgasm. Maybe once or twice in my entire life I've orgasmed during sex. I always have to finish using my hand.

I have seen many doctors and most of them just prescribe me viagara. That fixes the erection problem but it doesn't solve the orgasm problem. I last for hours and then finally finish myself. I can't even orgasm from a girl giving me BJ or HJ. I always have to do it myself.

I kept seeing more doctors and finally he checked a hormone nobody else did: prolactin. My prolactin numbers were off the charts. He gave me medication to reduce the prolactin (it's a hormone that we guys don't even need and if we have too much of it, due to stress or whatever, it keeps us from getting erections and reaching orgasm). I've been on the medication (bromocriptine) for two weeks but I've heard it takes a few months to see results, and I'm getting stronger nocturnal erections (when I wake up, I can feel more erect than before). Beyond that, not a huge amount of results. I will diligently keep taking the medication for a few months before I give up on it.

Also, I've tried stopping porn and masturbation for two months straight and: NO DIFFERENCE! So don't torture yourself. It doesn't help.

I don't masturbate in any weird position but I have noticed that I extend my legs and tense up the leg muscles tight, it helps with the erection I think and I do it automatically. 

Also, another thing: you should get a spinal x-ray done. My doctor had it done to rule out any nerves being compressed. Mine came out negative, that's why he checked prolactin after that. Thank god SOMETHING came back on the lab results -- I was getting tired of all my lab results being normal yet still suffering!

Ever since I had my daughter my body has change. Before I used to bust more then one time; now I can barely bust. Which is very aggrivaring. I would have to masterbate while having intercorse. Just to get an organism ! I've only busted 4 times Riding on a penis. Sadly to say my body Sucks!
I can't even squirt & ive tried doing that too !
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I have had this happen my whole life. It is not something I would consider lucky. I will spend 3 and a half to four hours mastubating get tired and never cum. The next day maybe just 2 and half hours and give up, the next day or two I find I'm so wound up that I can cum quickly about an hour and a half, on average it takes about 8 hours that is knowing exact pressure speed, with a partner about 14 hours if at all. Never once vaginally. The thought of 5 minutes is unconcievable.

try these...
masterbate and dont cum, do this alot, then when you about to have sex you should cum on vaginas now not your hand, its all a matter of getting used to it, you cannot jerk off and have sex, you gatta pick me, get used to it then problem fixed

I have this same problem, since I lost my virginity at 16 until now, 29, I find it very difficult to ejaculate during sex, most of the time it doesn't happen at all.

Some things that have helped me are, giving up masturbation (if you can, it's bloody hard! (Excuse the pun))

Relax and try not to think about how you might not cum and how badly you want to cum. It's hard not to. But a lot of it is in our heads.

Urinate before hand. Your body has less to concentrate on then.

Extended foreplay helps too, we went for about 45 mins to an hour of foreplay before sex recently and when it came to the sex I lasted around 5 minutes!! Mind. Blown!

Exercising or working out can help too.

And lastly just have fun. Cos that's what it's about right?

This is by no means a cure and will not work for everyone, but these are things I've found that help me a little.

Hope I helped!