Why does my bipolar husband keep running away from me?

Wow wouldn’t it be great if we could control our loved ones’ illness just by showing them “security and love.” Who here wouldn’t make that choice? I know I would. There’s only one person who can decide they’re tired of living that way and it is the person with the condition. Hope you find out what it’s like to be on the receiving end someday

When my husband says mean thing to me, then in 15 to 20 minutes he says "well I'm bipolar", is that an excuse?

All of these comments are just crazy to me. My husband is bipolar and he runs away a lot. He says he likes the adrenaline rush and he breaks down crying in my arms hours after he does is and apologizes. He says he needs me to not give up on him and keep going after him. He doesnt want the space because he doesn’t truly want to leave. He just has a part of him telling him to leave. He knows running away is ruining his life and he would rather me stop him and get him help before he ruins something permanently.

All of these comments are just crazy to me. My husband is bipolar and he runs away a lot. He says he likes the adrenaline rush and he breaks down crying in my arms hours after he does is and apologizes. He says he needs me to not give up on him and keep going after him. He doesnt want the space because he doesn’t truly want to leave. He just has a part of him telling him to leave. He knows running away is ruining his life and he would rather me stop him and get him help before he ruins something permanently.

Seriously!!! Really that's how you see it. EVeryone is responsible for their own mental health PERIOD!!! Unless your a 5 year old stuck in an adult body is what your saying. Typical normal people are just supposed to give you people who have bipolar a pass because your addicted to your own dopamine high and stay in your own little world or unicorns and rainbows. I agree with the woman who has 3 kids. Noone tied you down made you take vows to be in someone lives "til death do you part". YOU DID THAT!! OWN IT!!! Anytime someone runs because they are nothing short of a coward I have to wonder.....why should I should I give you a ticket to Charlies Chocolate Factory!! Grow up bipolar men!! You decided at some stage of your life to take on the responsibility of a marriage and children and a family and now it's.....oh I have this disease so I GET TO RUN AWAY!! Do you people even realize the damage you leave behind and desvestation caused by your irresponsible BS. People you leave behind do a complete 180 like something out of the Exorcist because we are just trying to wrap our minds around the fact that we are married to ADULT CHILDREN who choose to use their genetics or childhood traumas as an excuse not to go geth HELP!! We all might be victims until the age of 18 when we don't have choices and we don't get to choose the environment in which we are raised but after age 18 YOUR A VOLONTEER!!!

I have bipolar, I run away sometimes and someone usually finds me in a drunken heap somewhere. Yes I hate myself for it, yes I know I'm a coward and yes I also have kids so the guilt is really bad and can make me suicidal at times, I had a great childhood even though I was a little wild, I've had relationship problems most of my life. I think the comment you made was a little harsh. I do the best I can as a parent, which most of the time I'm a good mum. I don't choose to run away I just don't know how to deal with my brain sometimes and sometimes it tells me to run and nothing can change my mind once I've made the decision. Selfish yes, very, but that doesn't occur to me at the time. I usually feel like I'm doing my family a favour. I've never been gone more than a few hours, it's not like I have anywhere to go, I just go anywhere. The reason I'm writing this is because I ran away last night. I'm home now with my kids, but for 2 hours I put them through hell. Trust me, if I could stop doing it I would.