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young but deeply in love help!!

By jay | 9 posts, last post
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jay

Hi my name is jenay im 16 and currently livin with my boyfriend i have alot on my chest that i need to let out well i left my family for him he was my whole world everythin was perfect at first and i didnt talk to my family for months and my neice o my god my neice that lil girl is my insparation i love her to death i miss her so much i cry at night alot for my family my boyfriend use to comfort me and tell me things at night to make me feel better you knoe wat a boyfriend suppose to do and know hes like oh god here u go again wat u cryen for now stuff like that idk things are diffrent but there was a time that my dad took me bak and i decided to come bak with my boyfriend wich was a mistake well now he gets mad at me for the most littlest things and idk wat to do the other day he kicked me out shuvin me out the door nowin i had nowhere to go my family i left them wich was a big mistake (family comes first) and i was cryen tellin him plz jux wait till i find somewere to go and hes like no i want you out now and i was cryen tellin him no pkz i have nowhere to go and he said no that he didnt care and that i wasent his problem well eventually he stopped and apologized! I went thru alot for him i pushed my family away i got pregnent wen i first moved in with him and had a misscarage and i lost alot for this guy and at the end of it all i dnt feel appreciated and it hurts cause i ended up with nuthin! -but he is a sweet guy wen he wants to be i guess he gets me watever i want and need but i would give all that up jux to have my family bak! Is like hes buyin my love wich i dnt like at all! I love this guy but im gettin tired of the way he is with me now and i dnt noe wat to do and on top of all this i think im pregnent!?

YOLO

Wow. I'm so sorry to hear this. Maybe you should sit down with your boyfriend and just talk things out. You should have a long convo. with him and just talk about your feelings like how you miss your family an what may worry you. You should also take a test to be sure if your having a baby. My heart is with you and I hope you do feel better. What i'm not getting is why would he kick you out because you were crying about your family
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jay

Thank you and yes we talked today for a little bit before he went to work but we will continue the convo wen hes off hopefully we can work things out cause i do love him and well wen he tried kicken ne out is cause we got into an argument and it was bad! Well im goin to take a test on friday and i told him the news and hes happie and exited so maybe this is a good thing! I jux have to see how everything goes! And as for my family im tryen to work things out!
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Guest

Ask the other boy out if he says yes great split up with ur bf if not forget it
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YOLO

Hello Again! That's amazing that he's excited that your maybe having a child. I think if you guys just talk it out then everything will be fine. :D I hope everything goes well OH AND TELL US IF YOUR HAVING A BABY OR NOT EXCITED!!!!! :DDD :))) <33

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Guest

Hi Jenay, I am so sorry for the situation you are in, but know that you are not the only feeling like this; i completely understand and know the stress you are going through, as i have the same problems. I am 16 and I have a boyfriend of 4 years, I have known him my whole life, we grew up together, and we are completely and utterly in love. We have plans on getting married after high school. In February , we celebrated our 4 year anniversary and lost our virginity together. A couple weeks later, I found out I was pregnant. I am now 22 weeks pregnant with twins. It is a tough situation, because my mom died just over a year ago, and my dad and I have never had a real close relationship. I live at home right now, but am completely separate from my dad. We have started looking for houses together and preparing for the girls. I can relate to almost every aspect of your life except for the arguments between you and your boyfriend. I am so sorry that you feel like he is just "buying" you. Sit down and talk- there has to be some sort of miscommunication. Make sure he understands what you are going through! It is confusing and frustrating- I know, but you can get through it. Talk regularly, like sit down everyday and just talk about your day, how you feel; kind of like therapy with each other! Love is a strong feeling, and if it was there in the beginning, it can never really go away. I am relieved to hear that he is happy and excited about you possibly being pregnant! If you are, it is going to be hard. But I wish you the best of luck and if you ever need someone to talk to, please message me. -Stefani :)
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jayy

Yolo-hii thank yew very much(: and well i jux got done takin a test and it came out negative:'( lol but theres still hope because im now 6days late and still havin symptoms wich are now nasaues back pain diizines and light headacheas so ill see if it comes by the end of the month! And as for our relationship is okhay it can be better but were tryen!
Stefunny(:-thank yew very much as well(: and congrats im so happie for yew twin girls im jelouse lol well as for your dad i noe how u feel me and my dad got along great but after all that has happend we grew apart i blame myself for that but ill try to have a strong relationship wen is the right time and well as for yew good luck with everythin and my best wishes go out to you(: and im sorrie bout your mom im sure shes watchin over you and your angels that will soon arrive!
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kerk_239670

To me you both seem immature for this relationship. You're just 16, how long have you known your boyfriend and why you had to leave your family for him, if he ever leaves or cheats you it would be really difficult for you to go on without the support of your family. I think you've made your decision in a hurry, better get back to your family.
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YOLO

:((((( I sowwyy :(( Well you can still try!! :D and for you and your bf CONGRATES i am so happy that things are working out. :D You should be so happy :D CONGRATS GURL!!! :D xoxoxoox Luv ya!! -Bri (your sis)

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Violet_Ivy212904

I agree with Kerk here. As a fully grown woman, I can absolutely testify that you & your boyfriend will change over time & this relationship is doomed- especially if you are experiencing problems & he is kicking you out, when you are only 16 years old. He's taking advantage & you- being young & foolish- are licking it up! If he had any respect for you, he'd encourage you go to back to your family & have a solid relationship with them; he's encourage you to grow up & become a woman, before getting in to such a heavy relationship- but he's not.

It really scares me that girls like you are two-a-penny; you put women's rights back about a hundred years. I blame the ridiculous media role models for this type of 'I NEED A MAN' behaviour in young girls.

Go & get some education- attend school, go to college & become your own confident woman, instead of living your life around a man, who is ultimately abusing you! Only a few relationships at that age work out and I'm really sick of hearing the excuse "but I love him"! At 16 years old, you don't have enough worldly knowledge to even know what the feck love is! You all think it's about sacrifice & being what the other person wants you to be. It's not.

If you are pregnant- then you need to think seriously about your options. Your relationship will not improve because you failed to read the instructions on your contraception. Babies are stressful for even the healthiest relationships. With yours, it will be 'Make or break' time. Prepare being a single teen mother.

 

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